need some advice.....

[primetime]

hello folks, i thought i would ask all of you your opinion on this. i have a real close female friend and of course we have a lot of fun together. she even lets me tickle her from time to time, but more of the "light" way, instead of the all out tickle torture. she knows so much about me except one thing. this place, the TMF. i want to show her the place, plus the many stories that i have written, because we both talk about writing a script together. part of me wants to tell her, part of me doesnt. now, we are not "boyfriend-girlfriend", it's a little difficult to explain our relationship, but we are definitely real close friends. so now i am wondering if i should share this part of me. no one outside the TMF knows i'm here. i think she would be cool with it, but like others, this is a real "personal" thing to all of us and some of us arent willing to let others know about the TMF. i keep flip-flopping on the issue, and i think one of the issues in my own little head is that most of my stories are F/F. she doesnt know that i have this fantasy of women tickling women, sometimes in a sexual manner. i think that is what im worried about when she sees my stories. she might be okay, she might think i'm odd. what do i do?

i appreciate all words of advice. thanks.

 

[Neutron]

Tell Her...

And let her know the stories are just a sort of erotic fantasy, not an obsession!

Tron

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I think each and every one of us goes through this or a similar crisis at one point or another...
Friend of mine's got a motto he tries to live by: "be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid". Not really easy to articulate, but when you are bold, things do happen and the motto has merit. This coming from personal experience.
Shit, go for it.

 

[Iggy pop]

This is tough call not knowing eithier of you personally. You said you think she would be cool, but then again you sound unsure. Do you discuss sexual topics ever? How open is she about her sexuality? How personal has she been with you? First, you may just want to bring up sexual topics and see what her reaction is. Does she open up or does she shy away? If she's open about it then I would gradually talk about your love of tickling and then think about showing her the TMF.

 

[Solace79]

If it were me I'd probably tell her that I have a tickling fetish of sorts (whatever it means and make sure the point comes across solidly) and see what her initial reaction is before telling her about the TMF and about the stories.

To be safer, you could go down this list one item at a time and watch her reaction closely instead of telling her everything at once:

-Tell her that you have a tickling fetish (using whatever words necessary to get the point across solidly so she's sure to understand what it means to you)

-Tell her about the F/F fantasy and begin with comparing it to the typical male girl on girl interest (99% of guys like to see F/F anything sexual)

-Tell her about the TMF

-Tell her about the stories you've written

That's the best advice I can give you but without knowing you or her or your specific situation/relatiponshpi with her you have to make a decision on exactly what you want to do.

Good luck 🙂

Sol
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[Limeoutsider]

Tell her about the TMF and that you write stories and that you arent sure how she would feel about reading them and take to from there

 

[TickledToDeath]

Definitely tell her. Honestly and openly.
For instance:

"...you know how I love to tickle, did you know there are alot more people out there, both men and women, who feel like I do...".
Then casually show her.
Go from there at HER own pace.


TTD

 

[Deleted member 2452]

why tell her?

unless your goal is to move your relationship with her to a more intimit/romantic level. then yes do tell her. but if that is not your goal, then why? this is a sexual quirk, most people don't go around sharing their sexual foybles with others that are not a partner.

steve

 

[Em Es]

Is she a gossip or judgmental?

Primetime, does your lady friend ever gossip with you about others? Have you heard her betray things others have told her in confidence? Does she ever put you down or laugh at you? If you answered yes to any of those questions, don't tell her about your tickling life. But if she's the type who doesn't run and tell, maybe you can take a chance on trusting her.

Just ease her in. First bring up that you like to tickle. Then work up to mentioning stories you've written. Finally, depending how well she's taking it, show her the T.M.F..

 

[primetime]

i want to thank everyone for their words. i really appreciate it. i will make my decision whether to tell her or not soon. i might tell her soon, or i might hold off a little bit. thanks.

 

[steph]

Hi Prime~ (Woman's P.O.V....)
Why not just ask her how she feels about tickling? (That way you don't have to show your hand all at once & risk damaging the relationship...)