Need some tickling advice/opinions!!!

[Thatdrizzygirl]

Ok, so I have a situation. My boyfriend wants to have a three some with me and another girl (which I am fine with and want to try it also) BUT there's a catch. The girl we have been talking to about doing it with (a casual friend of mine) is into tickling like I am. My man doesn't have a particular fetish for it, but she's talked to him and since he likes trying new things, he's decided he wants to let her restrain him or to him up and tickle him for a few minutes. She gets a kick out of doing this to him bc hes super big, 6'7 and very muscular. She likes seeing him out of control. The problem with this is, even though I have a fetish for tickling, for some reason it makes me absolutely freak out to see him tickled by someone else. We have experimented with this girl before, and she at one point laid across his leg so he couldnt move it and used her teeth to nibble on the arch of his foot while he was doing something with me. He went NUTS, couldn't concentrate on anything else that was going on and just became hysterical laughing and trying to get her off. It made everything inside me cringe to see that. I don't know why because I am very turned on by tickling and very turned on by him, so you'd think it would've turned me on to see that, but instead it made me dig my nails into my palm until it stopped.
Another time, she and I were lying on each side of him and we were all doing stuff and she kept scratching on his stomach with her nails and he kept grabbing her hand to stop her bc he couldnt take it.
What she's wanting to do this time is tie him up and us tickle his feet and upper body and then give him head together to make him cum and THEN use his stuff to immediately lube him back up and start rubbing and sucking the head again. Guys who have had thia done to them, what does it feel like? She says it'll be intense for him and his reactions will be hot. Can someone tell me what reaction this Will cause him to have? Also anyone have any idea why i have a tickling fetish but seeing my man tickled makes me cringe? How can I get myself to chill so we can do this and enjoy it? Any opinions would be appreciated! Thanks guys

 

[robmic]

I'm not sure what to say about your issues with someone else tickling your man, but if you and this other woman do what your talking about to him, make sure he's tied very securely.... He will go ballistic when she or you tickle the head after he cums! Maybe one of you should go for his feet at the same time the other is tickling his head.... But, like I said, make sure he's tied extra good!

 

[daryl]

after orgasm, the head may be so sensitive it is more painful than anything else. As regards your discomfort, perhaps it is seeing him in submissive position? Maybe that upsets you, or at least someone else putting him there? What are usual roles?

 

[TKLVR18]

Okay as a psychologist and a woman successfully married to another tickling fetishest for almost seven years now, I have to say that you getting that upset about this should be a red flag. It's sweet that you want to go through with it for his sake, but that's how serious mistakes are made.

There could be several reasons it upsets you. I don't know if you are a complete lee and he's your 'ler and that's what upsets you, or if it's just plain, ordinary jealousy of seeing another woman do something like that to your man, but those are both very normal responses. And they shouldn't be ignored. They need to be discussed with just him for starters, but with her as well. If you're having to 'dig your nails into your palms', you are not relaxed and certainly not turned on. Any play with another person in a relationship is risky. You have to be extremely careful, because jealousy and resentment are easy to breed in a situation where you allow a third party to be intimate with your mate.

And it's not weird that tickling sets you off but other things don't, if that is indeed the case. Tickling is such a deep-seated subject with us that it can be tied deeper to sex than the actual act of intercourse in some cases. While technically 'abnormal psychology', it's the norm for us. So don't feel ashamed that it's freaking you out and don't try to ignore it. Talk it out. Figure out why it bothers you, and possibly still go through with it, but ONLY if the anxiety around it vanishes and you start to enjoy it. Otherwise, don't go down that road, because it only leads to resentment.

~K

 

[tommytikl]

You are jealous for your boyfriend which is something normal reaction. Because tickling is sexual, your jealous of the reactions she gets from him. If you were upset with her tickling him imagine how you will feel when it gets sexual. He will go insane if you tickle the head after Cumming but I would just do that between you too...

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

I think you're right about me not liking another woman putting him in a submissive position. He is VERY VERY dominant. He's the definition of dominant. Very aggressive, big, muscular and always wants to be in control. The only reason he agreed to this is bc she knew what to say. She talked all kinds of smack about having him begging and giggling like a child and stuff like that. When he told me agreed to it so he could "bust her bubble" it made me cringe. He thinks he's going to just be able to lay there and take it and not react at all. The problem is hes EXTREMELY ticklish. We've never really done it with him as the lee but I've playfully tickled his feet and sides a few times and he went nuts Every time. Sometimes ill just touch him not even TRYING to tickle and he'll start laughing and flinching and push me away. This girl is a freaking expert tickler. Very good at finding spots. I don't want him under her fingers ESPECIALLY not tied up and helpless!! Ugh!! He's SO stubborn and so determined to show her up.

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

Ahhh I don't want him going ballistic while someone else is touching him! I don't mind the sex but her making jkm laugh and squirm?? Nooooooo it makes me crazy. Is there anyway i can make sure this doesn't get that reaction out of him?

 

[hoseman2248]

Ahhh I don't want him going ballistic while someone else is touching him! I don't mind the sex but her making jkm laugh and squirm?? Nooooooo it makes me crazy. Is there anyway i can make sure this doesn't get that reaction out of him?

What if the deal is that she tickles you, but tickling him is YOUR thing only?

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

Excellent advice! Thank you. Yes, it is just the thought of her tickling him that bothers me. It literally makes everything inside me cringe. He's not my Ler per say because we havent really incorporated tickling into our sex life. However, he is my big strong superman, my dominant, in every way. The thought of him being helpless with another woman having him laughing and squirming and vulnerable just makes me crazy. Hes very insistent that he's going to "show her up and burst her bubble" by not reacting at all. But I am wondering how he is going to do that when I know for a fact he has some super sensitive spots and they are obvious ones that she Will probably discover quickly? I've hinted to him that i hate the thought of her tickling him and he just tells me that I'm going to get satisfaction out of it when he doesn't react to her at all. -___-

 

[TKLVR18]

You need to have a serious conversation with him. It's totally normal to get jealous of her making him react this way, especially if it's a competition kind of thing, even playfully so.

It sounds like his denial of being ticklish is intentional bravado. In my experience, people who claim to not be ticklish but are extremely so are fishing to be tickle-broken but are too embarrassed to say so/ask. It's possible your man, who is usually so dominant, is curious about/longing for the other side of the coin. I'm just throwing this out there and may be wrong, but if he's the Dom in the relationship usually, he might be embarrassed/ashamed to ask you. I'd suggest asking him about that 🙂

~K

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

well, the only thing about that is that we have discussed me tying him up or him being submissive in some way and whenever we even get ready to start he decides he hates the idea and refuses to go through with it. Trust me, there's nothing submissive in him. I honestly think he thinks he's strong enough to not react and prove to me that his mind can overpower the sensations. That's his favorite thing to do is prove stuff like that to me. He's not ticklish in most places, .just certain spots on his feet , sides and inner thighs. Only in specific spots. I think he figures she wont find them. He actually hates being tickled. Even playfully it's just not something he likes. He's tried letting me do it just playfully before and says he hates the feeling. Yeesh i hate the idea of him being submissive and another woman forcing reactions from him. I'm going to try talking to him about it again tomorrow. If he decides its something he wants (to be tickle broken) then i can do it. I can't stand the thought of him being broken by someone else.

 

[hoseman2248]

Ahhh I don't want him going ballistic while someone else is touching him! I don't mind the sex but her making jkm laugh and squirm?? Nooooooo it makes me crazy. Is there anyway i can make sure this doesn't get that reaction out of him?

I'm in a similar situation different fetishes. My girlfriend of 4 years wants me to have sex with another girl I in front of her, but she has certain things she doesn't want me to do. She is okay with me fucking the girls, putting my cock in her mouth, ect... but she is NOT okay with me looking the girl in the eye and kissing her.

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

Yep. I gave my man the same rules. I don't want him kissing her or her kissing him anywhere. She can have sex with him and give him head and touch him but no kissing. I really don't want her tickling him either and I think I've about got him talked out of it, thanks to her being not too smart. She was over at my house with us last night and was needing him to get something for her in the kitchen bc it was up high and he's super tall. When he reached up to get it, she slid her hands up his shirt and tickled him under his arms. He immediately threw his arm down and did this shivery thing and made eye contact with me. I said "yeah, imagine her doing that with you tied up and can't protect yourself." He didn't look like he liked that idea so I'm very much hoping he's going to take the tickling off the table. Or at least the tying him up part. I think I could handle her doing it if he is able to pull away or protect certain spots if it's too much for him. I don't like him being restrained. Make sure you respect your girls wishes if you ever want to have anther threesome and if you don't want your relationship ruined. I know if my man did something I asked him not to do or he argued with me over rules it'd make me not want to do it. It's very hard for us women to share our men and most women won't. You're lucky she's giving it a shot so make sure you're sensitive to her feelings and don't do the things she says she's not comfortable with.

 

[Aeveirra]

omg, I know exactly how you feel. 😱
when I'm in a relationship, I'm VERY uncomfortable if another guy tickles me, or another girl did it to my bf.
im a tickle and become extremely turned on when I'm tickled, but while it looks harmless to others, its very intense for me.

Even if my bf isn't into it himself, if someone else were to tickle him, id be really upset...
its not like 'cheating' or anything but i feel like its in a category of things you shouldn't do if your in a relationship.
and EVEN if its a threesome situation, for some reason I'm ok with moderate things but not tickling from others.
lol, its basically the only thing that would 'get to me' in that type of scenario.

so, In this situation, i would recommend not going through with it if your concerned.
if your this upset already by just thinking about it , it could become very uncomfortable when it happens.
OR
Try telling your bf how you feel about it, that maybe you'd rather be the ler or something.
idk how You would go about telling your friend about this, who obviously wants to do it...

I'm sorry if i have a bleak outlook on this, but I have pretty much the same type of thinking as you about this stuff,
and i can't imagine it going well if you have to watch your man go crazy from the touch of another girl.
If anything- both of you should do tickle him at once..... but even that could be very difficult

but if your ok with doing other things threesome related. lol, have fun. 😛
depending on what you agree to, maybe certain things could be negotiated.

*** EDITED ***
i just read your responses about setting rules. 🙂 you seem to be on the right track with that. lol, hope have fun !🙂

 

[Helena Ticklish]

Consensual Tickling is the apt preference.

 

[hoseman2248]

Yep. I gave my man the same rules. I don't want him kissing her or her kissing him anywhere. She can have sex with him and give him head and touch him but no kissing. I really don't want her tickling him either and I think I've about got him talked out of it, thanks to her being not too smart. She was over at my house with us last night and was needing him to get something for her in the kitchen bc it was up high and he's super tall. When he reached up to get it, she slid her hands up his shirt and tickled him under his arms. He immediately threw his arm down and did this shivery thing and made eye contact with me. I said "yeah, imagine her doing that with you tied up and can't protect yourself." He didn't look like he liked that idea so I'm very much hoping he's going to take the tickling off the table. Or at least the tying him up part. I think I could handle her doing it if he is able to pull away or protect certain spots if it's too much for him. I don't like him being restrained. Make sure you respect your girls wishes if you ever want to have anther threesome and if you don't want your relationship ruined. I know if my man did something I asked him not to do or he argued with me over rules it'd make me not want to do it. It's very hard for us women to share our men and most women won't. You're lucky she's giving it a shot so make sure you're sensitive to her feelings and don't do the things she says she's not comfortable with.

I actually told her it's not a good idea. I don't think anything good could possibly come from it. It may seem like a dream come true, or a fantasy fulfillment for her at first, but I'm not so sure once it actually happens it will be what any of us think it is going to be. I picture a lot of awkwardness, levels of uncomfortable decision making, then of course afterwards who knows. Sometimes the girl brought into the mix can get attached and bad things can happen. I've known people that have tried threesomes and it led to the relationship ending.

 

[Thatdrizzygirl]

Just in case you or anyone else on the thread was curious, we went through with it. Well, sort of. I talked to him about it and he kept insisting he could handle it without reacting. So I talked to her about it, and we came to a compromise. She said she would tickle him but she would use only a feather instead of her fingers or brushes or anything that would cause extreme reactions. I figured ok a feather is too soft to really tickle all that much, so I agreed.

Everything about the threesome was going well, we all had fun having sex and all three of us participating doing things together. My man really enjoyed watching me with her as that's the main thing he wanted out of this anyway. So eventually she pulls out this huge wicked looking feather, I'd never seen one so big. She tied his wrists and ankles to the bed and she told me to do things with him while she was doing her thing and that way I wouldn't just be sitting there watching. So I got on top and started having sex with him. Well, at first he kept sorta just flinching and jumping every few seconds and I could tell he was trying not to smile and he'd make these grunting noises. It was very obvious he was trying to cover up laughter. All she was doing at that point was tickling the bottoms of his feet with the feather. The bad part came when she used it on his inner thighs. He started moving around underneath me and could no longer concentrate on sex and had his eyes squeezed shut and finally just started laughing. I was immediately mad and it made my skin crawl to see him like that. When he saw the look on my face he tried to say that he was laughing at her bc it wasn't working. Yeah, right. He had freakin goose bumps on his thighs but he's laughing AT her? ��

So anyway she stayed on his thighs for a few minutes with his muscles all tense and trembling the whole time, then goes up to his neck and ears which made him do this really deep chuckle type laugh that made me livid so I put a stop to it. After I was starting to enjoy it again, she and I gave him a blow job together and he came super hard, she immediately dips her fingers in the cum and uses it to start stroking it and rubbing the head over and over. This is what really really made me mad and cringe inside bc he got totally hysterical literally screaming with his whole body shaking and begging me to make her stop. She stopped immediately bc she had gotten what she wanted; to see him react and to hear him admit that it tickled. I was so mad I just wanted to punch her and throw her out of my house. I told him after she left that I want to keep doing threesomes bc that part was fun but that no one else is ever going to tickle him again or touch him after he cums bc I STILL can't get that image out of my head of him tied to the bed with his eyes squeezed shut and his muscles trembling, laughing and squirming from her touch and locking eyes with me while he's screaming about how sensitive it is and how much it tickles. Nope! I tried it and I do NOT like it. I wouldn't recommend anyone with a tickling fetish allowing another person to tickle their mate, especially if your mate is the dominant bc IT IS INFURIATING.

 

[magic fingers]

well, the only thing about that is that we have discussed me tying him up or him being submissive in some way and whenever we even get ready to start he decides he hates the idea and refuses to go through with it. Trust me, there's nothing submissive in him. I honestly think he thinks he's strong enough to not react and prove to me that his mind can overpower the sensations. That's his favorite thing to do is prove stuff like that to me. He's not ticklish in most places, .just certain spots on his feet , sides and inner thighs. Only in specific spots. I think he figures she wont find them. He actually hates being tickled. Even playfully it's just not something he likes. He's tried letting me do it just playfully before and says he hates the feeling. Yeesh i hate the idea of him being submissive and another woman forcing reactions from him. I'm going to try talking to him about it again tomorrow. If he decides its something he wants (to be tickle broken) then i can do it. I can't stand the thought of him being broken by someone else.

Well as a fan of F/M I do have a couple questions;
1) You sort of contradicted yourself. Earlier in this thread you said your BF was extremely ticklish but then later you said he's not ticklish in most spots. The reason I ask is, if this other girl tickles him and he doesn't react, would that make it easier for you to take? Or do you simply not want this other womans hands all over him even if he doesn't react.
2) Do you feel threatened by this other woman, or maybe you just don't like her? Or you don't like seeing any female tickle torturing your BF?
3) Does he ever tickle you? Maybe if he saw how much you enjoy it, he might not hate it quite so much
4) Is this other girl single, and looking for a ticklish male who loves being tickled? Kidding of course.
5) If this other girl has the fetish then how do you know she's not on the TMF already, or at least a lurker who might've discovered this thread?

 

[magic fingers]

Well as a fan of F/M I do have a couple questions;
1) You sort of contradicted yourself. Earlier in this thread you said your BF was extremely ticklish but then later you said he's not ticklish in most spots. The reason I ask is, if this other girl tickles him and he doesn't react, would that make it easier for you to take? Or do you simply not want this other womans hands all over him even if he doesn't react.
2) Do you feel threatened by this other woman, or maybe you just don't like her? Or you don't like seeing any female tickle torturing your BF?
3) Does he ever tickle you? Maybe if he saw how much you enjoy it, he might not hate it quite so much
4) Is this other girl single, and looking for a ticklish male who loves being tickled? Kidding of course.
5) If this other girl has the fetish then how do you know she's not on the TMF already, or at least a lurker who might've discovered this thread?

I'm sorry disregard this post. I missed your last post where you said you went through w/it. Too bad you're w/a dude who hates being tickled