Need your advise.

[DimpleToes]

My question is- should I stop giving hugs?

Had someone come to me recently and tell me my hugs make them uncomfortable. I am known or nick named hug/cuddle slut in my local bdsm group and have mixed feelings that if I stop ppl will wonder whats up and then again I see hugs as an extension of my heart. But, do I want to be so open and vulnearable to let one person make me wanna put the walls back up and be cold. It is something I have been thinking about alot lately even before this person came to me. Delema Delema.

What do yall think I should do for many of you know me in person. Do I continue to be myself or harden myself up.. I am an all or nothing girl.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

don't let unaffectionate weirdos stop you from doing your thing. for every person who thinks physical contact is creepy, there are tons more who are more than glad to receive hugs. or at least that's my take on it; i'm a huge cuddle slut myself so i might be totally looking at this the wrong way.

 

[Bugman]

You know that person is not comfortable with it,but don't stop being yourself because of that.You just about knocked me off my feet in Philly in the hotel parking lot.I didn't mind a bit.🙂

 

[Carsomyr]

Hugs are awesome! 😀 So what if some people don't like them? Just because some people are uncomfortable around cats we don't ban them as pets, am I making any sense? 🙂

Most people appreciate the occasional hug, and lack of physical contact can even make some people depressed, so...

 

[DimpleToes]

Thanks Emily.. nice to meet another cuddle slut.

Buggy, I was just so excited to finally meet you in person after the hrs we talked in here and on phone.

As I said it is something I have been thinking about even before this event took place. I see it as an extension of my heart and that shold only be for a select few.

 

[navel lover]

NO!!!! Dont Stop

I Love ur Hugs Dimples. Always look forward to them, gives me a warm fuzzy feeling inside, ,luvs ya.

 

[DimpleToes]

ok I will do the cyber hugs but keep the person to person in real life hugs down to a minimum. So you can have your hugs Navel.

 

[navel lover]

YAY!!!!!

SEE, I already have that Warm Fuzzy feeling.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I hug and cuddle with everybody. If it makes somebody uncomfortable it's their responsibility to tell me, and I'll keep that in mind for next time I interact with that person, but I'm certainly not going to let it change how I interact with everyone else.

If my hugs/snuggles make someone uncomfortable and they don't tell me, that's on them.

 

[Sandrock74]

I've never been a hug kinda person myself, but I don't begrudge anyone who likes to hug. There's nothing wrong with it. If you're a hugger, then you're a hugger...no biggie.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

I usually hug people with my fly down, the button on my underwear unfastened, and one testicle pressing up against his or her abdominal area. I agree that it is the responsibilty of the hug recipient to tell me if I make them feel uncomfortable.

 

[kurchatovium]

Keep giving out hugs. Spreading wuv is always a good thing. Whether people realize it or not. 😀

 

[DimpleToes]

Thanks for your suppport everyone.. it is still bothering me.
I am too nice and open my heart to anyone.. its a downfall.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I've always been rather uncomfortable hugging people I don't know.
If I haven't gotten really close with them online prior to meeting them,
then I'll generally just shake their hand. I won't hug anyone I don't want
to hug. If someone hugs me out of the blue and I'm really uncomfortable,
I just clam up and stand there with my arms down. Don't take it personally
if someone's uncomfortable. There are the unaffectionate weirdos like me
who might have severe social anxiety. 🙂

 

[alchemy]

My question is- should I stop giving hugs?

Had someone come to me recently and tell me my hugs make them uncomfortable. I am known or nick named hug/cuddle slut in my local bdsm group and have mixed feelings that if I stop ppl will wonder whats up and then again I see hugs as an extension of my heart. But, do I want to be so open and vulnearable to let one person make me wanna put the walls back up and be cold. It is something I have been thinking about alot lately even before this person came to me. Delema Delema.

What do yall think I should do for many of you know me in person. Do I continue to be myself or harden myself up.. I am an all or nothing girl.

Always be yourself. If others don't like it, fuck em.

 

[Jason Reborn]

I personally love huggles since I don't get enough physical contact with anyone I know IRL...send an e-hug or e-huggle my way 😀

 

[Fire_Sprite]

Always be yourself. If others don't like it, fuck em.

I don't think that logic applies when physical contact's involved.


I'm personally not a hugger. Just avoid hugging that guy from now on.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I am an all or nothing girl.

Compromise is a wonderful thing, my friend. It doesn't HAVE to be all or nothing. Does it?

I'm a hugger as well. But, if I don't know a person well yet, I'll ask if they're comfortable with it and honor their response. Likewise, if I already know that a person is uncomfortable being hugged, I'll honor that as well. We both know how seemingly innocent things can be triggers for people...even if only minor ones. We need to honor where they're at just as we'd want them to honor where we're at.

A little challenge for you here...in love, of course...

The purpose of a hug is to show fraternal love for a person. If we're hugging them in spite of knowing of their discomfort, what's loving about it? The lack of a hug is more loving in that case.

 

[slacker2114]

I usually hug people with my fly down, the button on my underwear unfastened, and one testicle pressing up against his or her abdominal area. I agree that it is the responsibilty of the hug recipient to tell me if I make them feel uncomfortable.

This is actually true. He did it to me in a grocery store parking lot in Jersey. I don't think that old couple who watched this whole sordid affair will ever be the same again.

Anyway, always be who you are, hon. If someone doesn't like it, then they're not worth your time and don't deserve your affection.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

This is actually true. He did it to me in a grocery store parking lot in Jersey. I don't think that old couple who watched this whole sordid affair will ever be the same again.

Anyway, always be who you are, hon. If someone doesn't like it, then they're not worth your time and don't deserve your affection.

That's not what the old man's wife said in a note left on my car windshield.

 

[lilone4sir]

I'd just note it for next time with that particular person that their uncomfortable with it and skip them. Don't stop loving and hugging with others because of one person that can't deal.

I've never met you but if Snail Shell and crew bring me along as part of the NEST Canadian contingent I'd happily love a hug from ya 🙂

Keep smiling sunshine... another hugs around the corner!

 

[Mister Scruff]

I don't think that logic applies when physical contact's involved.


I'm personally not a hugger. Just avoid hugging that guy from now on.

This. Also, I don't see why you would stop being affectionate just because one person doesn't like it.

 

[Canadian_Eh]

I usually hug people with my fly down, the button on my underwear unfastened, and one testicle pressing up against his or her abdominal area. I agree that it is the responsibilty of the hug recipient to tell me if I make them feel uncomfortable.

LMAO... That's the best post i've ever seen...

Dimps, As for your hugs.. I'm also an affectionate person. Don't change who you are for anyone, your huggable, lovable personality is the one we all fell in love with, and as for the ones that didn't fall in love with you, well.. imo they're missing out... BIG TIME!. Never stop being who you are, even if it IS a "Cuddle Slut" cause the way I see it.. There are worse things to be!

 

[Mister Scruff]

I personally love huggles since I don't get enough physical contact with anyone I know IRL...send an e-hug or e-huggle my way 😀

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Don't let the bastards grind you down. Ever.

Don't stop being you. Eff 'em all.