NEST experiences that weren't so great? (please read - i'm NOT slamming NEST)

[Skipadeedoodah]

Hey guys - I want to start off by saying that I'm in NO WAY trying to disrespect anybody who participates in or helps organize NEST. I've heard nothing but good things about it, and I think it sounds like an amazingly good time. That having been said, I do want to know if anyone has had any negative experiences at any NESTs. As someone who would really like to attend NEST sooner rather than later, I want to know exactly what I'd be getting into, the positive and the negative. If anybody doesn't want to reply publicly for whatever reason, that's completely understandable, but I would really appreciate some PM's from those people. If I get zero replies or replies that all say, "Sorry girl I can't help ya I had a blast at NEST" that's great! I just want to hear opinions all across the board.
Thanks so much!

 

[AffectionateDan]

It's true

You can't have it all... every now and then, despite our best efforts, we have the occasional unpleasantness that we have to deal with. When possible, we deal with these things as subtly and respectfully as the situation allows us, to spare people embarrassment or humliation. But people being people, naturally there are occasionally personality conflicts or back stage dramas that need to be dealt with. Ideally, everyone comes away tickled pink with their experiences at events, but you just can't wave a magic wand to ensure that everyone has a good time. Can't be done by mere mortals, despite the best of intentions and preparations. You just do the best you can. Fortunately, we've got an outstanding core group of experienced veterans of numerous gatherings, and we can nip these things in the bud without it turning into a soap opera.

 

[ViperGTS]

There are always two sides to the coin.

I think that the biggest problems that ever pop up are one of the following:

There is a "No Uninvited Touch Rule" which is paramount at this type of gathering. However, in the excitement, occasionally people forget about it and join into a scene without requesting permission.

Also, there tends to be a bit of staring. Obviously, there are several gorgeous women walking around with no shoes on, in cheerleader outfits, or as KittenToes did, walking around in a corset, stockings and little else. Now, don't get me wrong, there's isn't a thing wrong with looking at these beautiful females, but there comes a point where it just looks like you're gazing at a yummy lil' ham sammich, and that's not appropriate.

These two bits aside, one must always remember that when you're in a large group of people, there will always be a few differences here and there. Some people just plain won't like others for the plain and simple fact that their personalities don't match up. However, there is never any incivility, and everyone has a great time when all is said and done.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

One other thing to point out is that there are folks specificly there to watch over things and handle anything that occurs in a firm but gentle manner. And they do a wonderful job of it.

I'm going to step out here and share something I experienced myself that may help you out as well. Even having been to a number of gatherings and knowing the atmosphere, there will occassionally be something that happens that just doesn't sit right with you. For me that something was a perfectly innocent touch that I wasn't prepared for and took as being inappropriate at the time. (This was 2 years ago.) Instead of dealing with it properly at the time, I held on to it, let it become more than it really was in my little pea brain and held on to bad feelings about the person involved.

This weekend, I saw that person again. As the weekend progressed, I watched him and talked to a couple of others about their own experiences with him. Ya know what I learned? The problem was mine, not his. Once I recognized that, rather than just blowing it off and saying nothing, we talked and everything is cool. Communication is a biggie at things like this. You need to let folks know where you're at and what you do or don't want. If you don't do that, they have no way of knowing if they're crossing a line with you that wouldn't be crossed with someone else.

Most of the folks that go to a gathering are pretty tactile people. You may think..."Duh! It's tickling! It's tactile." But, there's a lot of other touching as well. Many of us spend the weekend in the loving arms of friends, sitting on one another's laps, giving back rubs, etc. All are simply expressions of friendship and affection. It's a part of who we are. If, on occassion that touch isn't wanted, all we have to do is let people know. They'll honor it.

Frankly, I consider gatherings (esp. one as well organized and supervised as NEST) to be the safest possible place to meet and hang with other tickle lovers. I'll tell you the same I've told others. If you're not sure how comfortable you'll be in the big group, just hang with a few folks that you're comfy with and let them serve as something of a buffer for you. As others converse with them and you get to meet them, you gradually increase the number of folks you feel at ease with. It really works!

I hope you get to join us one day.

Ann

 

[QBWeaver]

As Dan and Viper said... Yes, there are the occasional situations that come up. I've actually had to ban a couple of people from ever coming back due to repeatedly not respecting the rules we adhere to. The circumstances surrounding those situations were handled on the side so they did not interfere with everyone else having a great time... Kinda like sending a kid to the Principal's office - it's done away from the group.

So yes.... there are situations. Fortunately they are few and far between. The few situations I can recall involved....

A guy who repeatedly jumped into scenes uninvited after being talked to several times. He had been banned at one time, then I was assured he had cleaned up his act so he was invited back. He disrespected the rules again and so as a result he has been banned. The ladies who were involved in the scenes he jumped into were quite relieved when we took action so quickly.

A gal who invited a person to the hotel who was not on the guest list. I saw that as a potential safety hazard not only for her but for the entire group.

We had one lady break a toe in the midst of a tickling scene the night before NEST one time... just an unfortunate incident.

Several years ago we had a member who had consumed too much alcohol. He never got nasty - far from it - but he almost hurt himself severely so we implemented a non-alcohol or very limited alcohol rule which is monitored closely.

Those are the situations that come to mind that have occcurred over the course of the last 7 years I've attended. There might be more but I can't think of them right now. So as you can see it does happen. We don't post about it because there is no reason to air dirty laundry or post negatively about any one person. I highly doubt most people who were in attendance during those situations even knew anything was going on.

I know there are postings elsewhere that warn folks about NEST saying the most ridiculous things. The funny thing is that the "ladies" posting about the problems on that website have NEVER been to a NEST and in fact those "ladies" are not even in the community anymore. Those "ladies" are actually variations of their original screen names tweaked a bit and it's someone else posting as them. I doubt they even know that versions of their old screennames are being used to post that stuff. Oh don't get me wrong... the ladies do exist but they aren't part of this community anymore.

The most paramount and primary focus we have at NEST, throughout the weekend, is the comfort and safety of all concerned. As with any large party at times there can be problems. We are very fortunate that the problems have been rare and that the DMs and Hosts address issues quickly and quietly so we are able to keep problems to a minimum.

I hope that helps answer your questions. If you want to discuss further we can continue it here which might be a good idea so everyone can read it or you can PM me anytime!

 

[terorizer]

Just a few comments, as everyone else has hit on the major points.

When you have 60 ADULTS in 15 or 20 different hotel rooms, rooms 15 or 20 individuals have paid for with their own money, you're really going beyond the scope of what the NEST organizers can monitor and influence and quite honestly are responsible for. They can only respond to anything inappropriate or representing potential danger to "organized" events, and as you've read, they do an outstanding job of that.

It is true, you will find what appears to be an inner circle or corp group. But that corp grows every year. You have to understand though that the group is comprised of folks who are married to each other, best friends, folks who've known each other for decades, folks who see each other regularly, and believe it or not, folks who only may see each other every coupla years. There are also a number of people whose every day life does not stop because they are at NEST, i.e. work, children, family and so on. Of course at any given moment, you have a number of different pockets of people hanging out. I don't think there's a single NEST attendee who DOESN'T leave wishing they had more time to spend with someone. The weekend goes by so fast, it's a given.

For me, NEST is just the a reaffirmation of bonds we share. But it's somewhat magical in how those bonds can be made. Whether it's been in posts on the TMF all year, other face to face meetings, different gatherings or venues. NEST is not just a few hours in a club on Sunday, it's hanging out in someone's room, sharing laughs even though you just met a couple of hours ago. It's seeing a loved one for the first time in months or years. It's world affairs conversations over breakfast. It's Monty Python tributes while on a mini road trip for pizza. It's getting lost in Philly. It's cursing motorists while trying to navigate the one way streets. It's silliness while shopping for supplies. It's sweating while lugging cases of food and water up perilous flights of stairs. It's the unasked back and foot rubs. It's unsolicited cuddles and hugs.

It's unique because you get out more than you put into it, but you DO have to put something of yourself into it. Honestly, if you're a woman, it's much easier. Reserved men will have it a bit tougher, but we're always thinking of ways to make NEST more inclusive.

All of this is really just to say that when all is said and done, we're all just humans, and when you have dozens of humans getting together for a function, you're going to deal with many of the same dynamics as any other occasion you get a bunch of people together.

 

[ticklesaurus]

nothing 2 worry about

why hello.I, myself have been to 5 nest and they have been getting better each year for me.Sure you are going to have some tighter knit groups,but that comes from knowing each other for a while,and attending the few days of events.The newbies are always welcomed because it takes you to help this event to get bigger and better each year.As far as you feeling safe,there are monitors who insure that all have a fun as well as a safe time.As much as us guys love to tickle you lovely ladies,you are ladies ,and shall be treated as such..... with respect.

 

[BellaRisa]

I'd like to second every post made thus far (especially you Tero, your words are spot on) and add a few cents:

I've been a NESTee since spring of '99, and in all this time I've only heard two laments:

A) newbies that come alone and have pockets of time where they feel left out and a bit lost, and

B) gentlemen who didn't get to tickle anyone, or at least not the someones they hoped to. 🙄

I'd like to address these together, because they're pretty similar in their root. Folks, the NEST organizers work very, very hard to give us the best time that they can. But they're not social directors and they *cannot* guarantee a sole for every 'ler, nor should they be expected to. As someone who runs a very similar weekend twice per year for spanking enthusiasts, I strongly suggest to all my attendees that they make sure to meet other party goers, online via chat or email or what have you, *before the event*, and have a solid base of friends with whom to hang during the non-event periods of time. I'm not talking about finding a person with whom to hook up for play, though that's certainly a fine idea if possible 😉 No, I'm referring to tk friends you've conversed with here and elsewhere with whom you can schedule meals, hang out to watch videos in someone's hotel room, explore the city, etc. There is indeed weekend time around the NEST activities to be filled, and it's up to the individual guests to fill it as they see fit. I'll be frank: unless you already know lots of NEST attendees and you have a usual schedule of sorts, this isn't the time to plan on wandering around hoping for the best. And that ain't just NEST, that's any gathering for any interest with more than 10 people. Newbies and shy folks are valued and respected, but it's like herding cats: frustrating as hell and some are gonna get away

I'd love to see TMFers make the effort to organize their own groups for dinner and sightseeing and such a few months before the next NEST, and give themselves a great itinerary to enhance an already incredible weekend

Bella

 

[BellaRisa]

that's a great idea, bella.. however i live too far from anyone else from the forum for a get together before any actual event to take place..

I'm not talking about physical get-togethers, although those do happen (called munches) and they're *great* for this kind of thing . But I mean arranging times and ways *online* to speak with and befriend others who are going and figure out fun stuff to do around the actual event. For example, I attend a spanking party called ShadowLane every year, there are between 200 and 400 people at that event in Vegas or Palm Springs. (and you thought NEST was big ) Most of the guests live thousands of miles from each other, but we make plans to eat and see the strip and such via the chatroom on their website, their posting forum, and even a yahoo group someone started for just this reason. Seriously, it works wonders for helping folks plan when we're all so far away

Bella

 

[isabeau]

I'm not talking about physical get-togethers, although those do happen (called munches) and they're *great* for this kind of thing . But I mean arranging times and ways *online* to speak with and befriend others who are going and figure out fun stuff to do around the actual event. For example, I attend a spanking party called ShadowLane every year, there are between 200 and 400 people at that event in Vegas or Palm Springs. (and you thought NEST was big ) Most of the guests live thousands of miles from each other, but we make plans to eat and see the strip and such via the chatroom on their website, their posting forum, and even a yahoo group someone started for just this reason. Seriously, it works wonders for helping folks plan when we're all so far away

Bella

thanks for answering bella.. i accidentally deleted my post when i meant to edit it lolol..

 

[bellystrokes]

thanks for answering bella.. i accidentally deleted my post when i meant to edit it lolol..

hehhe, Izzy, I think if the word got out that you were at a gathering, you would not be alone for long. heheeheh
And if you are lucky, you might be able to spend some time with my lovely goddess, Bella. Hi Bella, so glad you had an awesome time!!!!!

 

[isabeau]

hehhe, Izzy, I think if the word got out that you were at a gathering, you would not be alone for long. heheeheh
And if you are lucky, you might be able to spend some time with my lovely goddess, Bella. Hi Bella, so glad you had an awesome time!!!!!

thank you my goddess.. i was rather worried about that. although i seem quite mouthy on the forum, i mean talkative, in real life i'm actually quite shy and quiet.. until i get to know someone fairly well.. and i would love to spend time with goddess bella..

 

[Strider]

that's a great idea, bella.. however i live too far from anyone else from the forum for a get together before any actual event to take place..

Move to SoCal. You're in the center of everything then, because Southern Cali rules.

 

[isabeau]

Move to SoCal. You're in the center of everything then, because Southern Cali rules.

that idea becomes more appealing as time goes on.. but seriously as i said before, i don't feel comfortable around anyone until i know them fairly well.

 

[magic fingers]

NEST was truely awesome, and QB and Max did a great job. I told QB that I wished I had gotten more involved with the festivities, but that's my own fault since I'm shy by nature.
My only complaint is that there was no real "private" tickle torture room. People were watching other people being tickle tortured and to me tickling is kind of a private and personal thing. Plus because it's been years since I've been tied up and tickled, I didn't know how I'd react in such a situation. Since I'm a guy, I didn't want to get, shall we say, "excited" in front of a room full of spectators.
Now I was told that I could request that me and my 'lers have a room to ourselves, but I didn't want to inconvenience the other NESTers by cramming them all into other parts of the dwelling (some of which were hot & stuffy), just because I have "issues". And as I understand it, this place was bigger than Max's apartment where it used to be held, so overall it was probably the best setting available. And again this is not a complaint towards QB or Max or anyone else who put this fantastic weekend together. But if I had a complaint, it would be the privacy issue. Just my two cents

 

[lk70]

I had so many reservations and fears going in- read my posts, they're all there! I was even worked up about what to wear for Pete's sake. And I dressed in my usual slobby attire and it was fine- in fact it worked out for the best since I got all sweaty and disshelved anyhow 😉

Anyway, with regards to the concerns I had going in... Some of them were completely unfounded. One or two of them came to pass just as I feared. But even those things that did occur on the side of the negative were so minor compared to the way I had overblown them in my mind, that I can honestly say that my experience overall was 98% positive. Not wanting anyone to take anything I say personally, I PMd you with more details, because truly it all ended up great as far as I'm concerned and I'm so glad I went.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

about feeling left out of the loop.....

There's one other suggestion I would make for those for whom it's possible. Even if you don't live far away, the physical proximity of staying with the gang at the hotel is always helpful. If you can't afford the room, considering hanging out more of the time and going home just to sleep is an option as well. So is taking an extra day or two either before or after the weekend itself to give you more time to hang with folks. Jan had a list of who was in what rooms so that people could connect as they like throughout the weekend.

For me, the best part of any gathering is the social interaction. The play time is wonderful. The scheduled events are fun. But, it's the meeting and greeting and becoming family that's the best part of things. If all you have to relate to is the formal gathering on Sunday, or even add in the social on Saturday afternoon, you're missing out on a lot. Those are both wonderful. But, it's the "down time" in between things where we can really get to know one another and have fun...whether that fun be play or just goofing around.

Drew and I got in on Friday afternoon. Friday night, we started out with a couple of friends in the room and quickly ended up with nearly 20 of us just hanging out, sneaking into the baked goods and enjoying one another's company. Most of that time, we just gabbed and clowned around. Of course, there WAS a sneak attack on me by Jamie. (better luck next time) But, as DVNC so likes to say, it's all about the love.

Saturday night the group was split between the pool party taking place at the hotel, a bunch of folks who went to a club to hang out and those who went elsewhere. There were plenty of options for hanging out and getting to know others.

Sunday night, a bunch of us went to hang out in Jeff's room for a while. Others were hanging out in Jan's room. Actually, many of us spent time in both places. There was some sporadic play here and there with some individuals. But, the majority of the time, we were simply enjoying hanging out and being silly, singing old commercial jingles, quoting movies and tv shows, etc. I got to know some folks that I'd just met for the first time just through watching the goofing around. The time downtown wandering the various shops on South Street is also great. You get to know people a bit from what they like to buy (or at least look at) as well as through conversation.

I highly recommend that folks take the time to get to know one another online as much as possible and spend as much time just visitting throughout the weekend once they go. You won't want to leave. Heck, Drew and I spent 2 extra days hanging with the last remnants of those who came and STILL didn't want to leave! Like anything else, it's what we make of it.

Ann

 

[cloudgazer2k]

wow...

wow, talk about being on the outside looking in...judging by the words typed and the pics posted, sounds like this was a NEST that shouldn't have been missed. of course, like anyone that hasn't been, i have my reservations...but seeing as how it's so well maintained puts some of my nervousness at ease. i know it can't be 100% foolproof, nothing is, but i'm looking foward to being in philly next year.

 

[alchemy]

There's one other suggestion I would make for those for whom it's possible. Even if you don't live far away, the physical proximity of staying with the gang at the hotel is always helpful. If you can't afford the room, considering hanging out more of the time and going home just to sleep is an option as well. So is taking an extra day or two either before or after the weekend itself to give you more time to hang with folks. Jan had a list of who was in what rooms so that people could connect as they like throughout the weekend.

For me, the best part of any gathering is the social interaction. The play time is wonderful. The scheduled events are fun. But, it's the meeting and greeting and becoming family that's the best part of things. If all you have to relate to is the formal gathering on Sunday, or even add in the social on Saturday afternoon, you're missing out on a lot. Those are both wonderful. But, it's the "down time" in between things where we can really get to know one another and have fun...whether that fun be play or just goofing around.

Drew and I got in on Friday afternoon. Friday night, we started out with a couple of friends in the room and quickly ended up with nearly 20 of us just hanging out, sneaking into the baked goods and enjoying one another's company. Most of that time, we just gabbed and clowned around. Of course, there WAS a sneak attack on me by Jamie. (better luck next time) But, as DVNC so likes to say, it's all about the love.

Saturday night the group was split between the pool party taking place at the hotel, a bunch of folks who went to a club to hang out and those who went elsewhere. There were plenty of options for hanging out and getting to know others.

Sunday night, a bunch of us went to hang out in Jeff's room for a while. Others were hanging out in Jan's room. Actually, many of us spent time in both places. There was some sporadic play here and there with some individuals. But, the majority of the time, we were simply enjoying hanging out and being silly, singing old commercial jingles, quoting movies and tv shows, etc. I got to know some folks that I'd just met for the first time just through watching the goofing around. The time downtown wandering the various shops on South Street is also great. You get to know people a bit from what they like to buy (or at least look at) as well as through conversation.

I highly recommend that folks take the time to get to know one another online as much as possible and spend as much time just visitting throughout the weekend once they go. You won't want to leave. Heck, Drew and I spent 2 extra days hanging with the last remnants of those who came and STILL didn't want to leave! Like anything else, it's what we make of it.

Ann

You're absolutely right Ann. Personally, I've always been more of a lurker here than anything else;however, after deciding that I would go, I made it a point to start posting and talking to people more so I would at least know some folks going in. Also, the best way to have a good time is to simply dive right in. Sure, there are pockets of people this way and that...pick one, introduce yourself, and be personable. If you are cool to people they will be cool to you. Period. The absolute worst thing you can do at an event like this is sit in your room feeling left out. You are feeling left out because YOU ARE LEAVING YOURSELF OUT. Go exploring...go find people...everyone is really nice and friendly (I mean, we're all in this together) and will more than likely let you hang out with them. I myself almost fell into that trap on Saturday. After the social, everyone kind of dispursed...I didn't know anyone and felt kinda like a 5th wheel...so I went back to my room and starting watching TV. Then it hit me. I said to myself "John, what the FUCK are you doing? Get off your ass and go enjoy yourself. So you don't know people...BIG DEAL. That's the point of these events...to get to know people." So I did...and ended up having a blast. Yeah....fuckin A.

 

[Spenser]

My take on this. "Experiences" taken "en tout"? This (NEST) is ---the--- finest, warmest, most easy going, and "most together" of any alternative-fun-kinky gatherings I've ever been to, of any kind, in the last sixteen plus years I've been going to things like this. And I've been to "a few". (my humble thankee post, next new thread). Other's have said it all as well here too. Seriously, if you never show up, you'll never ever know whatcha missed, simple as that.

Spenser

nodding and grinning at all fellow Nesters

 

[isabeau]

My take on this. "Experiences" taken "en tout"? This (NEST) is ---the--- finest, warmest, most easy going, and "most together" of any alternative-fun-kinky gatherings I've ever been to, of any kind, in the last sixteen plus years I've been going to things like this. And I've been to "a few". (my humble thankee post, next new thread). Other's have said it all as well here too. Seriously, if you never show up, you'll never ever know whatcha missed, simple as that.

Spenser

nodding and grinning at all fellow Nesters

ahh is easier said than done... i have a husband who is so against me attending anything like this it ain't funny. how to talk him into thinking this isn't some sex orgy or that the police won't barge in is another thing all together..

 

[chicago]

For me, NEST wasn't about tickling.

Like a lot of people on here, I can rarely do that with people I've just met. And so really, the only reason I went, was to meet people I've been talking to on this thing for a few years, and hang out with a few good friends.

Of course tickling did happen, and I'm not complaining about it because it happened with people I trusted.

I think the biggest thing, is that you can't expect someone to be exactly the way they are online, in person. It just doesn't happen. You can't talk to someone online once or twice, do the whole flirting thing, and expect them to be the way when you meet them.

Some people are just different in person, and while you may have thought you were comfortable around them, when you meet them, it's another story.

I would never have gone if I didn't think I absolutely had at least one person I could totally trust with my safety. And I'm lucky to say that I had that, and even more so.

But the problems most people have in mind when they think about going to NEST don't happen. There's no nudity, no uninvited touch, no alcohol, and once you get over your nerves, which may or may not take a while, you really get this feeling of comfort, kind of like for once you can be completely yourself.

It's really cool.

 

[Italian_Touch]

Two words for newbies-to-be (as I was myself)

Thanks QB for starting such an interesting and useful (for want-to-be-newbies) thread.

Just few thoughts that I'd like to share with people who hadn't been to a gathering before, are curious, and wondering how it is to attend it for the first time.


OPEN LETTER TO THE NESTee "TO BE"

I have not previously met anybody who was attending NEST not had taken part to any other sort of gathering. Passing by the doors with the screen-names attached on really felt like being in a hall-of-fame, but as Bella pointed out, as soon as the room door slammed closed and I dropped the carry-on baggage on the floor the first thought was "ok, I am here. It's 11.05, the opening meeting is after lunch. Now what?".

The trick is what Alchemy said: don't stay in your room. Walk out, find other ones... interact. It's not time to be shy, nor being pushy. I found myself wandering in the corridor, overhearing some action going on behind few doors (which is still frustrating at that time), and then going down to the restaurant, snooping in and see if you could "spot" someone... and I did (it already happened in the airport with Milagros: he probably saw me in my very nervous state while waiting for the shuttle...). The key is SPEAKING, be social... at the end of the first meeting you still find yourself in the middle of the room while small groups of old-time friends speak together or walk out of the room - hell knows where! - and you think "well... there are no scheduled activity till tonight... again... "now what?". But you know? you are not the only newbie there and all the ones I spoke with shared more or less the same feelings of fear of being out of the loop: sit down and start a conversation! Keep it cool! And if a conversation dries out with somebody, keep getting around: we are not meant to be immediately "friends" of all the NESTees.
It's a social event and I felt very welcome and I would say that it was impressive how fast I got to know people, had good conversations (and, as it is supposed to happen in any environment where civilized persons are, the best conversations I had were not tickling-related) and establish a friendship-feeling with a core of attendees.
Most of the newbies I spoke with - and myself - felt the fire of the novelty of NEST and the urge to "keep every single moment worth": you want to know people, socialize, but also "jump into the scenes" as fast as you can. NEST is like a box of candies for a child: you want it all and you want it now! Of course, you cannot eat the whole box, but NEST is full of candies. No way you'll be starving. So stay active, be yourself and keep it cool: you'll get your share.

Weird feelings: having a set of rules to play during the gathering, which is the standard procedure for any event of this sort but, if you haven't ever attended a gathering, the idea of "asking permission" (which is bottomline and 100% sound and civil) and the fear of doing something that might be considered abusive, can make you unconfortable for few moments. Take a big breath, cope with that and just remember to say "May I?". For those of us who do not have the blessing of having a partner or friend(s) who share our interest it is so connaturated to slide in the casual poke (what else can we do?), or the expectation of being told "Ah no... don't..." (not to mention the possible replies to the question: "Can I tickle you?" or even worse: "Can you tickle me?"). OK, get out from that frame of mind. Chances are that you are more than welcome. And if not, not a big deal, as you don't have to be social with every single partecipant you do not have to play with anyone there... it's a large crowd... just move on and take it easy, it's really not a big deal.

Most refreshing feelings: tickling is NOT an issue. You do not have to explain it, suggest it, wonder if it will be "understood" or, even worse "accepted" (how much judgment behind that word when contestualized...). Everybody is on the same boat. OK, of course this is the way that it is meant to be but still it is SOOO refreshing.

Tips: during the party there is a helluva action, which is damn good and peculiar (unless you have a St Andrews' cross and stocks in the living room...), but the MOST of the action will happen in the rooms when the social is over (before or after the events). The word speaks for itself: it's social... there is tickling, food, games, demos, videos... enjoy them all, and enjoy the people there!

As Bella and Alchemy said: let people know in advance that you'll be there cannot harm. Scream it in the forums!!!!!

Well, rambling is over!

 

[TklDuo-Drew]

Hate to do this.......but somebody had to:

"Sorry Girl, I can't help ya......I had a blast at NEST!!"

And this isn't meant to be a ballbreaker.....I REALLY did enjoy myself this past weekend. And this was our 5th time going. All I could recommend is this:
Come on by next year and check out the fun we have.(see my post in "People of NEST, description of weekend" thread)


Drew

 

[drew70]

Sometimes I have heated discussions here on the TMF, that result in pissing people off. Sometimes I get pissed at people. However, when I go to NEST, I leave all of that behind. My policy is, "what goes at the TMF, stays at the TMF." None of that has any place at NEST. I've never had any difficulties at NEST with people with whom I've conflicted in the forums.

That said, I guess it was bound to happen sooner or later. This year, one person with whom I've debated rather intensely at times decided to bring her resentment of me to NEST. I wanted her to know there was no hard feelings from me, so I tried to strike up a friendly conversation, but she just rudely walked away, saying nothing. I just shook my head, chuckling, and went about my business of interacting with the others. There are far too many cool and interesting people at NEST to worry about such immaturity.