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ticklkitten
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I am SO glad you came here to talk about this! we are wonderful listeners here and we can even help your hubby understand all of this is you like. For the most part, everyone here is very accepting and I think you'll have a good time. PM me if you EVER have any questions.
Hi, that tickles, and welcome to the forum. I have read your post. First, let me say that I have been here for 2 1-2 years, so I guess I'm an old hand around here as far as my forum membership. The people here, from the mods, to the chatters, and all the rest of the staff, are very ingratiating, and will put you at ease. We have a policy of acceptance here, and usually, even new people can get into the flow of things very smoothly. I was a quite apprehensive when I first joined this site, but after a couple of weeks, due to the chatters welcoming attitude, I felt like a part of the gang.
Now to your issue: You mentioned that you have been married for 12 years, and are searching for a way to tell your husband. Iam single, so maybe I'm not the best person to offer advice on the subject of how to tell a spouse. I can say, that I have had experience with having to tell ex girlfriends about a fetish, or "interest" as I like to call it, because I had the interest of female feet even before I joined TMF, I would say that gentle honesty is the best policy. Perhaps somehow bring the conversation around to the subject of tickling, or, if you have an instance where your husband tickles you, casually mention how you enjoy that, and try to build on it from there. As scary as telling a significant other about a fetish or interest is, it can serve to be beneficial, more so than to keep it bottled up inside. Try to introduce him to it slowly, and work on it together. Hopefully, in that way, you can build on it to the point where it can be enjoyable for both you and your husband.
I hope what I said helped. There are many others here who are currently in relationships who can undoubtedly build on what I said. Good Luck, and I hope it works out for you. I also hope we can chat at some point. Welcome to the site, and enjoy.
Mitch
Now to your issue: You mentioned that you have been married for 12 years, and are searching for a way to tell your husband. Iam single, so maybe I'm not the best person to offer advice on the subject of how to tell a spouse. I can say, that I have had experience with having to tell ex girlfriends about a fetish, or "interest" as I like to call it, because I had the interest of female feet even before I joined TMF, I would say that gentle honesty is the best policy. Perhaps somehow bring the conversation around to the subject of tickling, or, if you have an instance where your husband tickles you, casually mention how you enjoy that, and try to build on it from there. As scary as telling a significant other about a fetish or interest is, it can serve to be beneficial, more so than to keep it bottled up inside. Try to introduce him to it slowly, and work on it together. Hopefully, in that way, you can build on it to the point where it can be enjoyable for both you and your husband.
I hope what I said helped. There are many others here who are currently in relationships who can undoubtedly build on what I said. Good Luck, and I hope it works out for you. I also hope we can chat at some point. Welcome to the site, and enjoy.
Mitch
Hi Tickles and welcome. That was probably very difficult for you, opening up like that particularly to strangers, but I think you'll be glad you did.
I know quite well the embarrassment of which you speak. For many years, I told no one of my interest in tickling. The thought of anybody finding out my "awful" secret was too horrid to imagine. I couldn't even say the word in everyday conversation without blushing furiously.
To make a long story short, I overcame this by coming to a personal decision that I was not going to be ashamed of my love of tickling. Once I considered some of the other fetishes out that involve pain or bodily functions, tickling seems pretty benign by comparison.
I started to freely admit to people that I like being tickled. Of course, I wouldn't start a conversation that way, but if an existing conversation shifts in that direction, I admit my interest in a casual way as if it's the most normal thing in the world. You'd be surprised how well people accept it.
Getting back to your situation with your husband, I recommend that when he tickles you again and stops, ask him to keep doing that. Tell him you like it. I can't imagine him reacting negatively, and once you tell him the first time, you won't ever have to worry about breaking the ice again.
Best of luck and again, welcome!
I know quite well the embarrassment of which you speak. For many years, I told no one of my interest in tickling. The thought of anybody finding out my "awful" secret was too horrid to imagine. I couldn't even say the word in everyday conversation without blushing furiously.
To make a long story short, I overcame this by coming to a personal decision that I was not going to be ashamed of my love of tickling. Once I considered some of the other fetishes out that involve pain or bodily functions, tickling seems pretty benign by comparison.
I started to freely admit to people that I like being tickled. Of course, I wouldn't start a conversation that way, but if an existing conversation shifts in that direction, I admit my interest in a casual way as if it's the most normal thing in the world. You'd be surprised how well people accept it.
Getting back to your situation with your husband, I recommend that when he tickles you again and stops, ask him to keep doing that. Tell him you like it. I can't imagine him reacting negatively, and once you tell him the first time, you won't ever have to worry about breaking the ice again.
Best of luck and again, welcome!
Welcome to the forum, thattickles! Congratulations on having the courage to begin your membership with such an open and personal topic. You'll find that MANY on the forum have had the same exact experience as you, and most of the time they found their way to a happy ending that resulting in finally sharing their love of tickling with the love of their life. Most partners are understanding and willing to indulge.
I wish you luck! We're so pleased you've decided to join us!
Mimi 🙂
I wish you luck! We're so pleased you've decided to join us!
Mimi 🙂
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Welcome to the gang! Interesting first post. I'm sure you'll find many others here who've been (or are now) in the same position. I suspect the embarassment is just because it's something new and different. It'll pass in time. Getting your hubby to recognize your love of tickling is just a matter of communication. If you aren't sure how ot bring it up, the thing I'd likely do is tease him a bit and see if he responds with tickling. If so, you have your opening. Don't worry. The time will present itself one way or the other.
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Hi thattickles!
Welcome to the forum. I'm new here too, and had nothing but the warmest welcomes as well. Thanks for sharing your story... I am sure that there are many people here who also started out on the tickle path in the same way...
Welcome to the forum. I'm new here too, and had nothing but the warmest welcomes as well. Thanks for sharing your story... I am sure that there are many people here who also started out on the tickle path in the same way...
