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[rpr]

hey, i was wondering if having a tickling fetish as i do, should i let people know about it?

 

[Doubold_T]

First off, let me welcome you to the TMF! Good bunch of people here. Hope you make friends, and have fun!

That was easy. Your question, however...

I'd stay away from the word "Fetish", as it freaks people. "I like to tickle" will go over much better than "I have a tickle fetish."

Also, are you planning to tell someone? When I told my folks, they figured, as long as I wasn't tickle attacking women on the street, it wasn't anything to worry about.

Friends? Harder. A friend of mine came across my very first video, and asked me about it. After fumbling out that tickling was a favorite passtime of mine, he commented "Really? That's very interesting." He asked some more about it, seeming truly facinated. Anyway, we're still friends.

I think, like most of us do, or did, that if you do tell anyone, they'll go screaming off into the night, and a few will (Figureatively), but I think you'll be surprised how many are O.K. with it, and some may even find it endearing.

All in all, try and gauge the reactions of people you plan to reveal this to, as everyone is different, and do it gradually. Maybe you and some friends will see a movie, or T.V. show with some tickling in it, say that you found it a little surprising, and ask what they thought. This way, you may get a better idea who you want to tell.

In any case, welcome again, and good luck!

 

[drew70]

I agree with Doubold T. Nix the word fetish and just tell people that you dig tickling. Even then, make certain you don't bring it up out of the blue. Wait for a relevant conversation to take place. For example, if somebody is talking about massage, you could say, "I'd make a terrible massuese, because I'd want to tickle." When it's brought up in context of whatever current discussion is taking place, it doesn't come off as weird as suddenly blurting it out during a silent moment.

 

[Mimi]

Welcome aboard, rpr! DT covered things so well with his post that I can't think of much to add! Just do what you feel is right, but prepare for any and all responses to your admission. 😉

 

[Myriads]

Hello rpr,

Welcome to the TMF. Glad you decided to join. The members above seem to have handeled your question well. Enjoy!

Myriads

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

Overall, I only use the word 'fetish' in places like this, because 99.9% of those in attendance here know exactly what I'm getting at. In more generalized societal surroundings and settings, the word 'fetish' can have some negative connotations. I've preferred to use the word 'interest' or 'desire' in its place. My experience has been that whenever I've told or confessed of my 'interests'/'desires,' it always carried over a lot better. It helps a little to express it in a rather matter-of-factly tone....almost as conversationally as you'd say, "Well....as opposed to peppers, I prefer mushrooms on my pizza."

Louis_Fargo started a thread here in the 'Tickling Discussion' that asks about the struggle it can be to express interests in any particular 'sub-culture' and bringing it more into the mainstream WITHOUT all the creepy connotations or negative innuendo to go with it. This of course is a slightly different matter, but it IS related to just HOW it is we express or share our 'interests' and 'desires' and....of course...with WHO.

 

[maniactickler]

Do what you feel makes you comfortable. i myself would be completely humiliated if family or friends found out.