Newbie looking for advice

[Tklsh_Autumn]

Hi all!
After just lurking around for a awhile I decided it was time to start posting and join in some of the fun. One of the main reasons I decided to offically join is this. I recently met a wonderful man who I love deeply. We are very close and he even knows that I enjoy tickling! 🙂 He unfortunately has not been ticklish since he was a little boy, he says he just gets a chill-like feeling and doesn't know how else to describe it. Whereas I am completely the opposite and the lightest touch in the right areas gets me laughing. I think the fact that he isn't ticklish dissapoints him a bit because he recently told me that he wishes he was so he could share the experience with me more. Unfortunately I saw that one of the past threads here was on this very subject and it didn't make things look too promising. Oh well.
We've been talking lately about trying bondage of some sort but we don't know what would be the most comfortable, effective and fun for us both. If anyone has any suggestions I'd love to hear them. Well I need to go for now, but I'm sure I'll be posting somewhere on here again soon. Later.
Autumn

 

[Myriads]

Hello Tklsh_Autumn,

Welcome to the forum, good to have you delurk and join us!

As to bondages to try, I'd suggest a simple four point spread eagle to get started. Easy to do, effective and it allows a lot of exposure.

Myriads

 

[Haltickling]

Welcome to the crazy world of TMF, Tklsh_Autumn!

If you have a loving and understanding partner who's willing to give you the tickling you want, you're already a huge step further than a lot of people here. And he even wants to share the experience, wow! Congratulations! 😎

As to bondage, please make sure you use comfortable material. You'll probable struggle around heavily, and some restraints may eventually hurt you. If you use ropes, wash them with fabric softener beforehand. Don't use thin restrains like electro-cables or thin ropes. Wrap a towel around wrists and ankles before you apply the ropes, to avoid bondage marks. Discomfort will ruin the great experience. And getting tickled in bondage IS great, no doubt. You're in for a treat! 😉

Good luck and happy ticklings! 🙂

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Good to have you with us! Sounds like you have a good catch there! 😉 Sometimes, it's a matter of the type of touch. So, don't give up yet. When people try to tickle me with rougher touches, it rarely tickles at all. But, the light touches drive me nuts! It can be the same or opposite for others.

As for bondage, as Myr and Hal have stated, comfort is key. One of the things we use are ready-made restraints we got in a kit for about $25. They've got velcro closures for quick and easy fastening and release. One thing we do is use old tube socks with the foot cut out between the cuff and skin to avoid any chafing. If you have smaller wrists/ankles, sweat bands can be good for this as well.

Have fun!
Ann

 

[The Pianist]

The other possibility is to try and tickle him during different states of minds. Say if you've been trying to tickle him when he's calm or focused... he might have just been shrugging off the sensations.

But, (this is something I am beginning to think works for me) if you try him when he's in a silly mood, tipsy, or tired (tired with a good mood, perhaps giggly anyway... not cranky) he might not be able to stop himself from giggling or something.

Basically, as someone else said in an earlier thread, if you manage to get him laughing before you tickle him, you've got a much better chance of succeding.

 

[Em Es]

The element of surprise

Hi, Autumn -

Welcome to the TMF forums.

If your companion used to be ticklish but no longer feels it, before you give up let me share something. If you tied me down to tickle me, Autumn, on the Ticklish 10 Scale (1 not ticklish, 10 jumping high as the tree tops) I'm a 4 or 5. But when you tickle me by surprise, my ticklishness is an 7 or 8.

Recently my sister-in-law Marge, a fitness buff, was talking to me about sit-up techniques. I was on my back in the sit-up position; she was on her knees beside me. As Marge discussed stomach muscles, she ran her thumb and index fingers down my abdomen, unintentionally giving me a wild tickle. I shivered!

But just last week I was taking tickle turns with a massage parlor woman. When it was my turn to be tied down and tickled, the girl really had to work to tickle me. Even my feet, my most tickle area, were not as sensitive as normal.

So try tickling your man when he doesn't expect it. Go sunbathing and get his feet when he closes his eyes. If he's reaching up or carrying something, tickle his sides from behind.

As for comfortable bondage, neck ties tend to hold you in place while, unlike rope, not leaving any marks. You may also want to blindfold him. If he can't see where you are about to tickle, that may make his reaction more ticklish. Good luck!

Autumn, not to go too long here, but your man is one lucky guy! I am one of many TMF gentlemen who would like to be in his shoes.

 

[Em Es]

P.S.

One last thing, Autumn. Some people respond better to light tickles, other to dig-in, hard tickles. Experiment.😀

 

[Tklsh_Autumn]

Thank you to everyone that has welcomed me to the forums and offered advice. I'll be seeing him tomorrow so maybe I'll get to mention some of the bondage methods you all suggested.
What The Pianist mentioned about trying to tickle him when he's in a certain mood sounds like a good idea. I'll have to try that out sometime. As for using the element of suprise that Em Es mentioned, I've tried once or twice before, but he may not have been in the right mood, who knows.
I was actually able to kind of tickle him once when we first met. No major reactions but he DID react. So I guess there still is hope. 🙂 I'll keep you all posted on whether anything works or not.
Autumn

 

[f/f]

I don't know what advice I can give your but don't call yourself a newbie. we are all equal here 🙂 (i think)🙄

 

[TicklishSinner]

hey

just have fun and done be shy