nice to see you, breakup.

[myth77]

So why are you including me? All I did was ask for some clarification. She even thanked me for doing it politely.

But I guess from your high horse, we all must look the same.

My bad Gentler. When you asked why she was sad if she broke it off, I was thrown (almost right off of my 'high horse' 🙂). I'm sure you know, just because someone ends a relationship themselves, it doesn't mean they aren't sad about it.

And my high horse is quite comfortable. Need a lift? .

 

[SoundSiren]

***These are only examples of the negative in this thread. I didn't feel like digging the rest up***

Wow. Ridiculous. Why read a thread if you just want to bash the OP? Why do you care why she made this thread? Does it hurt you in some way? And why call out whether someone's trying to get attention, when it's clear that apparently you folks who've responded in such a way are dying for it?

People have a problem, get sad about a thing, and they make a thread. Intelligent, compassionate members offer words of support and/or wisdom. Some threads call for debate and opposing opinions, but this was not one of them. Would you also call out someone who posted a thread about a death in their life as an attention-seeker?

Does it really rattle you so much that this thread was made? Does it affect your life in some negative way that she shared something? I missed where anyone here was appointed the decision maker of whether someone should be sad about something. I'll keep my eye out for the memo though.

Every last word here I just wrote is wasted. It will be attacked or ignored. No one here gives a sh*t that what they said was sh*tty, because they've exercised their freedom to say what they felt like, even if it made no sense, or was unwarranted.

But I can tell you one thing that gives me satisfaction. People this sh*tty in the online world are just as sh*tty in real life, and get the sh*tty life they deserve 🙂. They feel the same compulsive need to add negativity where there's no need for any in real life personal interactions. They feel empowered here because their words are at least permanent on the screen, whereas in real life, people just ignore the f*ck out of them and the sh*tty things that come out of their mouths.

Like I should've done. But for some stupid reason, I pretend anything I say with merit will be heard in some small way.

Here's to all of you and your epic victory over this thread.

Peace and blessings a$$holes 🙂

I love you so hard, really I do. You are so awesome for taking the time to say all this and contribute. I know there are many around here that love you for it. 😉

To the OP, Emily...your reasons are YOUR reasons and nobody gets to tell you how you should live your life. If you like someone and you know things won't end well but it's going to quite possibly be the only opportunity you would have had in your lifetime to be with them, then fuck everyone else. No regrets right? You can look back and say, hey...I went for it even though a wall ten feet tall stood in my way. 🙂

 

[emilyemilyemily]

I love you so hard, really I do. You are so awesome for taking the time to say all this and contribute. I know there are many around here that love you for it. 😉

To the OP, Emily...your reasons are YOUR reasons and nobody gets to tell you how you should live your life. If you like someone and you know things won't end well but it's going to quite possibly be the only opportunity you would have had in your lifetime to be with them, then fuck everyone else. No regrets right? You can look back and say, hey...I went for it even though a wall ten feet tall stood in my way. 🙂

<3.

 

[LvsTicklingFeet]

I think you should live your life however you want Emily. Don't let others tell you otherwise. You took a chance with someone, and yet it didn't work out, you still feel better that you gave it a try and I respect that in someone

 

[Red faction]

***These are only examples of the negative in this thread. I didn't feel like digging the rest up***

Wow. Ridiculous. Why read a thread if you just want to bash the OP? Why do you care why she made this thread? Does it hurt you in some way? And why call out whether someone's trying to get attention, when it's clear that apparently you folks who've responded in such a way are dying for it?

People have a problem, get sad about a thing, and they make a thread. Intelligent, compassionate members offer words of support and/or wisdom. Some threads call for debate and opposing opinions, but this was not one of them. Would you also call out someone who posted a thread about a death in their life as an attention-seeker?

Does it really rattle you so much that this thread was made? Does it affect your life in some negative way that she shared something? I missed where anyone here was appointed the decision maker of whether someone should be sad about something. I'll keep my eye out for the memo though.

Every last word here I just wrote is wasted. It will be attacked or ignored. No one here gives a sh*t that what they said was sh*tty, because they've exercised their freedom to say what they felt like, even if it made no sense, or was unwarranted.

But I can tell you one thing that gives me satisfaction. People this sh*tty in the online world are just as sh*tty in real life, and get the sh*tty life they deserve 🙂. They feel the same compulsive need to add negativity where there's no need for any in real life personal interactions. They feel empowered here because their words are at least permanent on the screen, whereas in real life, people just ignore the f*ck out of them and the sh*tty things that come out of their mouths.

Like I should've done. But for some stupid reason, I pretend anything I say with merit will be heard in some small way.

Here's to all of you and your epic victory over this thread.

Peace and blessings a$$holes 🙂

stop sucking up a$$hole
there nothing wrong with asking questions

 

[Master Baiter]

Some threads call for debate and opposing opinions, but this was not one of them.

When someone brings their personal issues to the table on a discussion forum, opposing opinions are inevitable.

So you didn't get the responses you were after?
Too bad ... this isn't Romper Room, Suzi.

Does it really rattle you so much that this thread was made? Does it affect your life in some negative way that she shared something? I missed where anyone here was appointed the decision maker of whether someone should be sad about something. I'll keep my eye out for the memo though.

Does it really rattle you that not everyone is gonna hold your hand and wipe your nose when you whine and snivel over puppy love heartbreak?
I must have missed the memo about pumping sunshine up everyone's ass who feels the need to mope and cry over something that was completely under their control.

Every last word here I just wrote is wasted. ...even if it made no sense, or was unwarranted.

Look, this has been done to death on this forum.
Apparently, no one ever learns from other people's mistakes.

But I can tell you one thing that gives me satisfaction. People this sh*tty in the online world are just as sh*tty in real life, and get the sh*tty life they deserve 🙂.

As much as you'd like to believe this crap, it simply isn't true.
Good things happen to bad people as much as bad things happen to good people. That's life, and no one said it was fair.

Like I should've done. But for some stupid reason, I pretend anything I say with merit will be heard in some small way.

Here's to all of you and your epic victory over this thread.

Peace and blessings a$$holes 🙂

That concludes today's drama class. See ya next time!

 

[venray]

When someone brings their personal issues to the table on a discussion forum, opposing opinions are inevitable.

So you didn't get the responses you were after?
Too bad ... this isn't Romper Room, Suzi.




Does it really rattle you that not everyone is gonna hold your hand and wipe your nose when you whine and snivel over puppy love heartbreak?
I must have missed the memo about pumping sunshine up everyone's ass who feels the need to mope and cry over something that was completely under their control.



Look, this has been done to death on this forum.
Apparently, no one ever learns from other people's mistakes.



As much as you'd like to believe this crap, it simply isn't true.
Good things happen to bad people as much as bad things happen to good people. That's life, and no one said it was fair.



That concludes today's drama class. See ya next time!

Except there was no drama until those with nothing constructive to say just jumped in to put others downs....that is the only mistake here....opposing views? In a thread about a breakup...If we were in grade school maybe..Unfortunately this IS romper Room for that type of personality...


It is the non adult like comments that continuously derail threads like these until they degenerate to the eventual outcome.....not the fact that they are created, but the fact that some people cant just leave them alone because they are an easy target to flame in...

We talk about learning from other people's "mistakes"... the only mistake here is that some people never give up bullying others to get a point across to make themselves feel better at the expense of other's feelings...

And then they wonder why people dont want to interact with them when they DO have something of interest to say...

 

[TropicThunder]

Does it really rattle you that not everyone is gonna hold your hand and wipe your nose when you whine and snivel over puppy love heartbreak?
I must have missed the memo about pumping sunshine up everyone's ass who feels the need to mope and cry over something that was completely under their control.

Excuse me, but where was all this moping and crying? A few sentences hardly counts.

People here expressed sympathy to her situation regardless of whether or not it was under her control. Breakups suck, whether or not you are the person who got dumped. People expressed sympathy because we have all been there, and because we care. We care when someone is sad, regardless of the situation.

No one is asking you to "pump sunshine" up anyone's ass, but you don't need to be rude about it. If you don't like what you read, why not just stay out of it? Why do you have to jump in and stir the pot anytime someone's got an issue?

We talk about learning from other people's "mistakes"... the only mistake here is that some people never give up bullying others to get a point across to make themselves feel better at the expense of other's feelings...

^This.

 

[c7_assassin]

^ You said it, Ray.

When someone brings their personal issues to the table on a discussion forum, opposing opinions are inevitable.

"Opposing opinions" on someone being sad about a breakup... This gets us all closer to understanding what the hell is the matter with you.

 

[Angel77]

What I want to know is how come Emily can't be upset even if she was the one to initiate the breakup? Sometimes the endings of relationships can still be very sad, even if you were the one to end it.

 

[Gentler]

My bad Gentler. When you asked why she was sad if she broke it off, I was thrown (almost right off of my 'high horse' 🙂). I'm sure you know, just because someone ends a relationship themselves, it doesn't mean they aren't sad about it.

I'm sure that's true, but the sadness one feels in initiating the breakup isn't the same as the devastation experienced at the receiving end of the email.

And my high horse is quite comfortable. Need a lift? .

Thanks, but I'll pass. It's getting a little too crowded up there.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

I'm sure that's true, but the sadness one feels in initiating the breakup isn't the same as the devastation experienced at the receiving end of the email.

Thanks, but I'll pass. It's getting a little too crowded up there.

oh, so i'm allowed to be sad, but less sad than i am? yeah, that works, except for the part where you don't know how i feel.

 

[Master Baiter]

Excuse me, but where was all this moping and crying? A few sentences hardly counts.

People here expressed sympathy to her situation regardless of whether or not it was under her control. Breakups suck, whether or not you are the person who got dumped. People expressed sympathy because we have all been there, and because we care. We care when someone is sad, regardless of the situation.

No one is asking you to "pump sunshine" up anyone's ass, but you don't need to be rude about it. If you don't like what you read, why not just stay out of it? Why do you have to jump in and stir the pot anytime someone's got an issue?

Other forum members expressed their dismay as well, but I'll offer you my views since you asked.

There's more to this thread than an "I'm sad, my life is over" sympathy fest.

There was some dismay expressed when after several pages into this thread it was revealed that Emily (cubed) was the one who initiated the breakup.

Some felt misled, and were justified in harboring that opinion.

Some also felt it's kind of ridiculous to mope around when they were the one who ended it.

The discussion then eventually turned to "why can't you just be nice or shut up?"

Then it inevitably led to the old "these aren't the kind of responses she was looking for" debacle. Much like the Knot Amewz'd fiasco several months ago.

I'm of the belief that if you're going to start relationship threads like these, and piss and moan when things don't go your way, you should be prepared for *gasp* other people's comments. Even if they don't *gasp again* meet your approval.

I laughed at the thought of a "Sympathy Sub-Forum" when someone suggested it, but maybe it's a good idea considering the current mindset of the "support me blindly or stay the hell out of it" club.

 

[TropicThunder]

Other forum members expressed their dismay as well, but I'll offer you my views since you asked.

There's more to this thread than an "I'm sad, my life is over" sympathy fest.

There was some dismay expressed when after several pages into this thread it was revealed that Emily (cubed) was the one who initiated the breakup.

Some felt misled, and were justified in harboring that opinion.

Some also felt it's kind of ridiculous to mope around when they were the one who ended it.

The discussion then eventually turned to "why can't you just be nice or shut up?"

Then it inevitably led to the old "these aren't the kind of responses she was looking for" debacle. Much like the Knot Amewz'd fiasco several months ago.

I'm of the belief that if you're going to start relationship threads like these, and piss and moan when things don't go your way, you should be prepared for *gasp* other people's comments. Even if they don't *gasp again* meet your approval.

I laughed at the thought of a "Sympathy Sub-Forum" when someone suggested it, but maybe it's a good idea considering the current mindset of the "support me blindly or stay the hell out of it" club.

You're exaggerating the "pissing and moaning" part of it. "fuck my life" hardly counts as an "I'm sad, my life is over." thread. That phrase is often over-used in any situation.

There's a huge difference in justifying your own opinions and being outride rude about something, as most of your comments are. I'm a firm believer in the Golden Rule. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
If you don't support her, don't care, whatever, then just stay out of it. No one says you have to support her. You just like to push your "opposing opinions" to bring people down. She didn't ask for our sympathy. We gave it to her. Why do you have to go so far out of your way to bully people and make them feel bad? That's the part I don't understand.

 

[myth77]

I'm sure that's true, but the sadness one feels in initiating the breakup isn't the same as the devastation experienced at the receiving end of the email.

Thanks, but I'll pass. It's getting a little too crowded up there.

How can you know that the initiator isn't more devastated? And it's not a pissing contest so to speak. You can't really measure who feels worse. It can be far more painful letting go of someone that you love, than to be let go of. Sometimes the person who's 'let go' is content to leave.

Incidentally, you said 'receiving end of the email'. Was that a mistake or a personal revelation? 🙂

 

[Gentler]

oh, so i'm allowed to be sad, but less sad than i am? yeah, that works, except for the part where you don't know how i feel.

No, I'm not saying that or anything like that. I'm just saying the two are not the same. And I only said it because Myth called me an asshole for not intuitively understanding your situation from the start. It's her I'm annoyed with, not you.

You did what had to be done and it was painful and you're understandably hurt and sad. I understood that once you explained it and I feel for you. Life will get better, even though it sucks now.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

No, I'm not saying that or anything like that. I'm just saying the two are not the same. And I only said it because Myth called me an asshole for not intuitively understanding your situation from the start. It's her I'm annoyed with, not you.

You did what had to be done and it was painful and you're understandably hurt and sad. I understood that once you explained it and I feel for you. Life will get better, even though it sucks now.

thank you kindly, gent. don't be mad at mythy, though. she was just trying to defend me. 🙂

 

[myth77]

Other forum members expressed their dismay as well, but I'll offer you my views since you asked.

There's more to this thread than an "I'm sad, my life is over" sympathy fest.

There was some dismay expressed when after several pages into this thread it was revealed that Emily (cubed) was the one who initiated the breakup.

Some felt misled, and were justified in harboring that opinion.

Some also felt it's kind of ridiculous to mope around when they were the one who ended it.

"Some felt mislead". That happens a lot when people draw their own conclusions. I'm not quite sure how "Fuck my life. With a pogo stick", nor the title of the thread "Nice to see you breakup", misled anyone to believe she didn't initiate the breakup.

And as far as the moping around part...I've already addressed that issue. Not anyone's right to tell someone not to feel sad for having to break up with somebody.

I'm not even going to address that "spirited" response you had to my original post. It was highly entertaining though 🙂

 

[myth77]

No, I'm not saying that or anything like that. I'm just saying the two are not the same. And I only said it because Myth called me an asshole for not intuitively understanding your situation from the start. It's her I'm annoyed with, not you.

You did what had to be done and it was painful and you're understandably hurt and sad. I understood that once you explained it and I feel for you. Life will get better, even though it sucks now.

Again, my fault Gentler. I'm sorry.

Your comment was a question about why she was sad when she ended it. I thought you were questioning her right to be sad. I'm sorry I didn't segregate your comment out. I'm sorry I put you in the a$$hole category. You were not being an a$$hole.

 

[rhiannon]

Personally, I believe it is way harder to be the one initiating a break-up with someone you love than being the one who is dumped. Because YOU are the one who made the decision....you can't just accept someone else's. If you regret it later, you only have yourself to blame for it.

Emily, I totally understand how hard it must have been! Keep your head up!

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Personally, I believe it is way harder to be the one initiating a break-up with someone you love than being the one who is dumped. Because YOU are the one who made the decision....you can't just accept someone else's. If you regret it later, you only have yourself to blame for it.

Emily, I totally understand how hard it must have been! Keep your head up!

thank you, rhi. <3

 

[Master Baiter]

Except there was no drama until those with nothing constructive to say just jumped in to put others downs....that is the only mistake here....opposing views? In a thread about a breakup...If we were in grade school maybe..Unfortunately this IS romper Room for that type of personality...


It is the non adult like comments that continuously derail threads like these until they degenerate to the eventual outcome.....not the fact that they are created, but the fact that some people cant just leave them alone because they are an easy target to flame in...

We talk about learning from other people's "mistakes"... the only mistake here is that some people never give up bullying others to get a point across to make themselves feel better at the expense of other's feelings...

And then they wonder why people dont want to interact with them when they DO have something of interest to say...

Again I agree w/ everything you just said.
You're a wise old crow, Mr. Venray.

 

[Master Baiter]

"Some felt mislead". That happens a lot when people draw their own conclusions. I'm not quite sure how "Fuck my life. With a pogo stick", nor the title of the thread "Nice to see you breakup", misled anyone to believe she didn't initiate the breakup.

Well, it didn't do anything to clarify it, so let's call the statements ambiguous at best.
Usually when the words "breakup" and "fuck my life" are seen together, it can be assumed they were on the receiving end of it.
I see a lot of other people did.

i don't want to argue with people anymore. i'm tired of this. bye!

Four responses later, you've apparently found your second, third, and fourth wind. Nothing like consistency.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

Well, it didn't do anything to clarify it, so let's call the statements ambiguous at best.
Usually when the words "breakup" and "fuck my life" are seen together, it can be assumed they were on the receiving end of it.
I see a lot of other people did.



Four responses later, you've apparently found your second, third, and fourth wind. Nothing like consistency.

why do you care so much? do i really affect you to that degree? i'm honored.

 

[Bows+Arrows]

fuck my life. with a pogo stick. goes seven pages. Surely that says something about something.