Opinion needed

[cletus-factor]

Hypothetical situation, but I need some help.

I've been reading the pick-up artist guides lately in the hopes that soon I'll start going out and trying to meet someone special. I'm almost 28 and have never had any relationship outside of this girl whose mother was dating my uncle when I was 13. Anyway, reason for that is that I've been trying to get my life situated (going to college) and the fact that I'm pretty shy. Now that I'm finally out of the business of becoming educated and the fact that I'm almost 28 I'd like to start searching. But by posting here I think it goes without saying that I'm a tickle fetishist. And in my case it's about the only thing that I know that I want from a woman. I don't know if sex is in the picture for me because I'm not really sure if it's something that could get me charged up like the fantasies of tickling a girl do.

Now, in the pick-up artist guides I have been assured that if I follow their methodology I could in fact get a woman to go home with me right off the bat and have sex. It's not something I'd want to do with someone I barely know, but some tickling action is something I'd go for. I would also not mind waiting until after a few outings, but I want to know pretty soon whether this girl is going to be okay with this stuff because at this point I'm pretty sure the tickling thing has to be a part of whatever relationship I get involved in.

Here's the question though: To all the experienced men here, what are the odds that a guy can get a girl to go home with you and do the tickling thing? And is there any method for bringing it up and not scaring them off?

 

[Journia]

I never had a girlfirend, but, what I suggest, and I know it to be true, don't act like its something bad. If you make it seem bad, then other people will pick up on that energy.

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

I never had a girlfirend, but, what I suggest, and I know it to be true, don't act like its something bad. If you make it seem bad, then other people will pick up on that energy.

It may sound like a "Duh!" kinda thing that Mssr. Journia is saying above there, but he makes a really good point.

 

[Frost King]

I think the best thing to do is maybe look on this site see if you find someone. and if you know any girls are something maybe and you feel comfortable talking about your tickling fetish with them. maybe see if they would like to be tickled or are interested in it. maybe try the personals section on here and see if there are any girls interested.

 

[sadi]

If you go looking for a girl, and after the first introductions, and verbal foot-dancing and whatnot, maybe offer her a massage (if the opportunity presents itself!).
Practically any girl will say yes to this, if they don't think you're a total creeper right off the bat. Then, rub a little lighter, and wiggle your fingers a bit, and see what happens. 'Oops, it was a mistake. Sorry,' works well for keeping you out of the fire, too. 😉
Then, if they react, you can go on further, by asking if they're ticklish, and, voila! :stickout

 

[Cbarton]

If at all possible, AVOID the pick-up line routine. All the women I have worked with over the years tend to avoid those that use them, since it indicates (1) a one-track mind (looking for sex) (2) insecurity (unable to think of anything else, and (3) no orginality. Best bet? Just be yourself. Most people can pick out a poser a mile away. Be you. That's what they'll be dealing with in the long run anyway.

 

[the_jimmy_james]

Yeah, don't do "pickup artist" things. Unless you're hoping to crash and burn 😉

 

[Journia]

Best bet? Just be yourself.

But what if yourself is the forum version of Me?

 

[cletus-factor]

I should clarify that I'm not a pick-up artist, but I have read The Game and The Plan and from what I read in there they absolutely are against pick-up lines. It's not having a horn dog attitude at all. It's actually making the girl want you. Making her think it was her idea to come onto you.

They do this by teaching themselves how to read people and how to come off as funny and interesting and all that ball of wax. The James Bond mystique.

My question was just to ask if anyone's been anything remotely like that with women, when do you drop the tickling bomb on them?

Because as I said being almost 28 and not wanting to wait my whole life for this to come true for me, I don't want to have to be in a relationship for 6 months only to then discover that she's not going to be cool with it. It's kind of a deal breaker for me, just like if the girl smokes.

I appreciate the comment so far about just dropping it into a foot massage and not making it into a bad thing.

Any other suggestions / comments?

 

[GroovyBaby]

Pickup lines work if:

1. You are someone who is very confident, and have a lot of experience with women.

2. The woman is really looking to get with someone, and you are the type she is looking for.

Just ask yourself this: If a woman I am not attracted at all approaches me, is there anything she can possibly say that will change my mind? Well most women are the same way. Either they dig you, or they dont and nothing you say will change their mind.

On the book.... Just remember there are tons of books on: Get rich now, lose all the weight in 2 weeks! ect... this book is the same. It might work for some people but I wouldn't waste my time on it... The best way to get with chicks is to talk to lots of them. You can't fake confidence but just like anything practice makes perfect. Don't worry about getting shot down, it happens to everyone so who cares. Be yourself, if they don't dig you, then move on.

Correction: Sorry I didn't read your above post

I think most women will respect the fetish depending on how you introduce her to it... Tickle her, if she seems to enjoy it well... Have the tickling lead to making out... She will get the idea pretty quick, if not tell her it turns you on when you tickle her... Pretty cut and dry, kinda like asking a woman out, you just have to put your cards on the table and see what happens.

 

[cletus-factor]

Cool. Thanks a bunch guys.