Others tickling your significant other?

[TKLVR181]

Hey guys. Senshi and I got to talking earlier today about this topic and were wondering what you guys would say. Guys, how would you feel about other guys tickling your girlfriend/fiance/wife? Ladies, likewise with your boyfriends/fiance/husband? Personally, I've GOTTEN Senshi tickled by a girlfriend of mine, and it was awesome :cool Senshi says he'd love to see other guys tickle me...how would YOU feel?

~K

 

[Featherdemon]

Methinks it is all good. So long as everyone is up for it and there is a certain amount of consideration, I think that would be very cool. I think it would depend on a few factors, however - the nature of the current relations etc.

On the whole I would approve. 🙂

 

[rivers121]

Definitely would NOT be okay with another guy touching my wife or gf all over her body in a manner that I find sexually arousing. Even in general, a guy will tickle a girl when he is flirting with her, therefore, if I were in public and a guy began tickling my significant other I would be extremely offended and pissed off. As for being okay with my significant other having a tickle session with another guy....out of the question, and if she feels otherwise then she's not the girl for me.

 

[Violetta]

This entire thread really boils down to a simpler question, namely, "So, who here is a swinger?"

Anyone who isn't is going to take the above "jealous lover" mindset, and anyone who is will have the "kinky swinger" personality. Again, this isn't an exclusive tickling idea, it's just a tiny slice of a more common question.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

It is fun to watch and fun to participate. I have no problem with other gals tickling the hubby. Likewise, he has no problem with me being tickled by others as well.

 

[rivers121]

This entire thread really boils down to a simpler question, namely, "So, who here is a swinger?"

Anyone who isn't is going to take the above "jealous lover" mindset, and anyone who is will have the "kinky swinger" personality. Again, this isn't an exclusive tickling idea, it's just a tiny slice of a more common question.

This same discussion has taken place at the TMF as well. For me personally, a relationship symbolizes a certain level of exclusiveness between two people. That exclusiveness, in my opinion, includes things such as sex, kissing (in a sensual manner), touching all over of the body (from someone other than a doctor or massage therapist). Obviously, if her male brother or cousin started tickling her it wouldn't bug me because it's family. With that being said, I wouldn't be okay with someone putting their hands all over my partner in that manner, nor would I want my partner to be okay with another female putting her hands all over me. I'm just old-fashioned I guess in that respect. When it comes to relationships for me it's always a black and white situation, never allowing any type of gray area. It's either you're loyal or a cheater.

 

[dalekfire]

This same discussion has taken place at the TMF as well. For me personally, a relationship symbolizes a certain level of exclusiveness between two people. That exclusiveness, in my opinion, includes things such as sex, kissing (in a sensual manner), touching all over of the body (from someone other than a doctor or massage therapist). Obviously, if her male brother or cousin started tickling her it wouldn't bug me because it's family. With that being said, I wouldn't be okay with someone putting their hands all over my partner in that manner, nor would I want my partner to be okay with another female putting her hands all over me. I'm just old-fashioned I guess in that respect. When it comes to relationships for me it's always a black and white situation, never allowing any type of gray area. It's either you're loyal or a cheater.

So what if your S.O. had a couple of friends over, and they were all goofing off and one of her buddies started to tickle her, playfully? Would that make it cheating, to you?

If it does, then that's fine; it's your relationship, and all relationships are certainly different when it comes to strictness and such. But keep in mind, said friend of hers who tickles her might not know that. I'd say, in stricter relationships like that, it would be a good idea to have that understanding between you and her, and if something like the earlier scenario were to happen, then she can simply tell her friend not to do that. If he keeps going, then of course you have the right to be pissed at him...but more because of the fact that your S.O. had warned him seriously beforehand.

We've got to remember that not everyone in the world who likes to tickle people are getting any sort of sexual satisfaction from it. Tickling happens - often spontaneously - and it's more than likely an innocent thing. So I suppose that should call for a bit of flexibility on the topic, at the very least if the person doesn't know you might take issue in that.

As for me, I'm totally fine when my fiancee's friends tickle her and such, which apparently happens often. :lol I suppose it's mostly a trust thing, as I know she wouldn't like run off with someone simply because they're tickling her or anything. xD And, as TKLVR said, I do often encourage it as well. 😉

Given a scenario where we're both in a setting with other known tickle-lovers (a future gathering, let's say), I'd also be fine with it just as long as she and I have that mutual agreement and consciousness of the situation. Again, personally (may be different with others), I'm ethically fine with others tickling her, even if it's causing some sort of sexual reaction. But because of that consciousness - and trust that she knows what she's doing - it really wouldn't be anything for me to sweat about. 🙂

Will I get jealous? Ohh, very much yes. But it's a good jealous. :lol

Anyways, that's my view on it. :happy: (Gads, I gotta learn to shorten my posts more... >_<; ))

 

[P[a]pi]

I don't like other guys tickling my wife, but it's fair since I play with other girls. We just let each other do what we want, even if we may not like it. Either way it doesn't matter though cus us playing with others is way different than when we play together.

 

[rivers121]

So what if your S.O. had a couple of friends over, and they were all goofing off and one of her buddies started to tickle her, playfully? Would that make it cheating, to you?

If it does, then that's fine; it's your relationship, and all relationships are certainly different when it comes to strictness and such. But keep in mind, said friend of hers who tickles her might not know that. I'd say, in stricter relationships like that, it would be a good idea to have that understanding between you and her, and if something like the earlier scenario were to happen, then she can simply tell her friend not to do that. If he keeps going, then of course you have the right to be pissed at him...but more because of the fact that your S.O. had warned him seriously beforehand.

We've got to remember that not everyone in the world who likes to tickle people are getting any sort of sexual satisfaction from it. Tickling happens - often spontaneously - and it's more than likely an innocent thing. So I suppose that should call for a bit of flexibility on the topic, at the very least if the person doesn't know you might take issue in that.

As for what you said about tickling not being gratifying sexually to everyone, that may be true, but what guy tickles a girl if he's not trying to be flirty with her? If a guy is tickling my girl, that tells me he's just looking for an excuse to touch her and I'm not gonna be cool with that.

As for me, I'm totally fine when my fiancee's friends tickle her and such, which apparently happens often. :lol I suppose it's mostly a trust thing, as I know she wouldn't like run off with someone simply because they're tickling her or anything. xD And, as TKLVR said, I do often encourage it as well. 😉

Given a scenario where we're both in a setting with other known tickle-lovers (a future gathering, let's say), I'd also be fine with it just as long as she and I have that mutual agreement and consciousness of the situation. Again, personally (may be different with others), I'm ethically fine with others tickling her, even if it's causing some sort of sexual reaction. But because of that consciousness - and trust that she knows what she's doing - it really wouldn't be anything for me to sweat about. 🙂

Will I get jealous? Ohh, very much yes. But it's a good jealous. :lol

Anyways, that's my view on it. :happy: (Gads, I gotta learn to shorten my posts more... >_<; ))

Not cheating, but I'd get pissed if it was a guy friend doing it. Being unfaithful would be if she told me that she's going to some guys house to let him put his fingers all over her body and she was totally okay with it. Although there isn't actually any sex involved, if she was willing and happy about the idea of having another guy's fingers all over her, then yea, that's as good as cheating in my book. I don't think it's ever okay though to tickle another guy's gf or wife. There are boundaries when someone has a significant other that should be respected.

 

[LittleFeather1]

My SO enjoys watching his male friend tickle me, as long as he himself is able to participate, and there is consent from all involved. However, I can say that if I saw him being tickled by another girl, I would probably feel very jealous and possessive of him. This isn't to say that I'm insecure or clingy, I just find tickling to be very flirtatious in most situations even outside of the tickling community, and feel that it is a normal reaction to be offended when watching someone of the opposite sex flirt with my SO.

 

[dalekfire]

Hmm. Guess it depends on the type of relationship, then. Jenna and I love to flirt with others, as jealous as it makes us. We're natural flirts. xD

My point though is that we shouldn't hold it against the other people who may end up tickling our partners, at least if said people don't know the true meaning behind the tickling within our own relationships. Or at the very least, make sure our partners know that it isn't fine with us and trust them to inform those who don't know, before it happens. Otherwise, it wouldn't be fair to the others, ya know?

 

[Mash]

I have some serious jealousy issues that I need to get around to working out. In light of this, provided that I was in a relationship, I would probably have problems with it... but I also have a problem with expressing discontent with things.

In a nutshell, I wouldn't voice my concerns over it, and they'd probably end up building up.

In my opinion, so long as they aren't blatantly getting sexual about it, then it certainly isn't something to get upset about. (Unless you don't mind sharing) However, the logical side of me and the emotional side of me rarely get along. xD

 

[Nomming]

My SO enjoys watching his male friend tickle me, as long as he himself is able to participate, and there is consent from all involved. However, I can say that if I saw him being tickled by another girl, I would probably feel very jealous and possessive of him. This isn't to say that I'm insecure or clingy, I just find tickling to be very flirtatious in most situations even outside of the tickling community, and feel that it is a normal reaction to be offended when watching someone of the opposite sex flirt with my SO.

Exactly how I feel.

Now I don't need to make some long post. This one explains my thoughts perfectly.

Hell yeah!

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

Other women tickling me or my mistress...yeah...no problem there. Haven't been able to do that in awhile though (and probably won't get the chance for awhile longer either) due to both of us trying DAMN HARD to keep our jobs. 🙁

 

[Nomming]

Other women tickling me or my mistress...yeah...no problem there. Haven't been able to do that in awhile though (and probably won't get the chance for awhile longer either) due to both of us trying DAMN HARD to keep our jobs. 🙁

I wish you luck in keeping your jobs or finding even better ones. You deserve some good karma.

 

[Kujman1]

I have no problem with such and have engaged in this for years-- publicly, privately-- depending on if the tormentor is good at what they do. Now that's a big 'if' because most engage in the fast, cheap, & easy approach loaded with tickle banter, which is a no-no.

However..if they are good at what they do.. can add headspace, atmosphere, a seriousness to it all (while still fun)... then I'm all for it.

To add fuel to the fire I'll whisper in har ear some horrible things that might happen...in my absence..

..and as the panic from those words rises...

......I leave.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I'm not knocking anyone who thinks that tickling another person when you are in a relationship is considered cheating.......

BUT- I am well aware of the fact that I love tickling on various levels. It isn't as if every single time tickling happens, I can't help myself and I go straight to a sexual place.

With that in mind, I have to have a sexual attraction to the person that has NOTHING to do with tickling. And if I am sexually attracted- a hug might do it to me, a caress, a kiss, and of course... tickling.

When I tickle other people, it is fun- I love it. Same with when I am being tickled, but I am able to separate fun from erotic. I guess that's why my husband and I are cool with the play. They just can't even compete/ compare to him on that level because I'm not in love with them. So- Not cheating to us. 😀

(All about communication and consent- as several have stated before, as well.)

 

[sadi]

As for me (aside from being TREMENDOUSLY naive/thick-headed), I think - in general - I'd feel quite 'dandy' if another girl decides to tickle my boyfriend, especially if she seems quite attractive herself. 😉 (Gives me another excuse to tickle him later.) And I generally see any tickling on me as solely unbearable - and that's it. 'Sexual' doesn't even enter my mind when I feel like my skin's crawling off, unless they 'do' do something overtly sexual to me; rage overrides any ticklish sensations, leaving the overpowering compulsion to beat the 'assaulter' into unconsciousness. (Yes, I may seem like a child, but we all have our vices, don't we? And mine's being groped or otherwise treated like a piece of meat.)

I'm fine with my bo being tickled by another girl 'in general', means that there isn't an undue amount of sexual tension/arousal from the 'ler (I'm going to say you're either a sociopath or dead if there isn't any level of arousal in even a 'friendly' tickle - unless if it's family-related -. I mean, what instigated the 'attack' in the first place, right?) and the 'attack' is overall friendly, fun.

Friendly + Non-sexual = Party-time! 😀

Now, I want to do anything I can - or not do anything that's unnecessary in the first place - to make my boyfriend happy. If he feels uncomfortable seeing me involved in such a 'personal' and 'sexual' an act as tickling, then I'll desist as much as I can (with friends and family being exempt).

Tickling's fun and it's supposed to be fun! If it isn't fun for someone I hold in higher regard (my partner), then it isn't fun. That simple. I just want it to be fun, even if I can't Stand it at times. :stickout

 

[J-Wolfe15]

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as I was there watching.

 

[randi65tft]

My husband wouldn't let one of his friends tickle me, but he'd love to see one of my female friends tickling me, but that's a whole other story.

 

[Journia]

*browsing the forums, Journia looks around*

Some people put so many standards on each other...its not that serious people.

 

[shadowghost]

Unless you're tickling a child for shits and giggles, tickling leads to sex.

 

[HopelessDreamer]

I find it adorable when my bf is tickled by someone else. I'll either sit and watch or help them out, because his laugh is cute heh. As for me getting tickled I actually don't know how he feels. Sometimes he let's it happen, but one time when I got gang tickled by a bunch of my friends he got a little angry/jealous.

 

[Relent<]

I have it on good authority that you shouldn't ever let Kujman do it.
But in general, I think it would be a good idea to find someone you know to do it. Make some friends with a few local couples that share your fetish. Hell, give papi and meka a call 😛

 

[atreyu1]

It always bugged me watching someone else tickle my girlfriends over the years. even if it is just playful tickling i hate it just for the simle reason that it is an arousal for me and watching someone else to to my girl what i do to get off just dont fit in any equation.