out of the tickling closet?

[jd58]

i was just wondering how many here talk openly about their tickling fetish with others?

family,friends, co-workers etc.

or do you keep it to just the rest us here on the forum?

 

[Volsung]

Good question!

My guess is like 90% of what goes in here, stays in here.
(Kinda like Las Vegas, don't you think?)

 

[Comfort Eagle]

If it comes up in conversation, I'll tell. But everyone just kinda knows anyway, without needing to ask.

 

[U.N.Owen]

I once told a therapist about it, because it used to worry me (a female therapist, which was hard). She thought it was very cute that I was worried about such a harmless and innocent kink.

I also told my family later, since I was sick of keeping it a secret. They reacted almost exactly the same way. I still prefer privacy and hardly ever talk about it, even though they do know about it.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

i'm torn about this whole idea.

first, i am all for being upfront, and honest with your wife, girlfriend, hubby, boyfriend, whatever. you shoud always be honest and trusting of your loved ones. in return they will see how honest and open you are, and be honest in return.
that is where i think the line should be drawn, in our vanilla lives. only my best friend knows of my love of tickling, and feet. no one else needs to know!
that's part of my private life! do you ever see or hear any "normal" people going around discussing how they are ga-ga over titty fucking? hell no!
this is our private lives, and we have no right to go around tell one and all of our titilations, think of the discomfort you'll cause. do you reall think your sister, or co-worker needs to hear about how you like to tie up and tickle your partners?
let's keep our private lives private.

 

[Volsung]

I once told a therapist about it, because it used to worry me (a female therapist, which was hard). She thought it was very cute that I was worried about such a harmless and innocent kink..

Cute! Harmless? Innocent?!
I would have reached over and started tickling her feet right then and there...!

 

[Comfort Eagle]

She thought it was very cute that I was worried about such a harmless and innocent kink.

I also told my family later, since I was sick of keeping it a secret. They reacted almost exactly the same way.

That'll happen 9 times out of 10. 😀

Not that I'm saying everyone should introduce themselves by saying, "Hi, I'm Danny, and I loooves me some foot tickling!", but I think people keep it a a really big secret for so long, being so nervous about it, only to find out it's no big deal and nobody really cares.

 

[Volsung]

By the way...

areenactor is dead on!
I quite agree.

 

[Wesker28]

The only other person that knows is my brother and I am keeping it that way!

 

[drew70]

My friends and family all know that Drew likes to be tickled. Most of them have heard my songs.

 

[Mistress Aura]

i was just wondering how many here talk openly about their tickling fetish with others?

family,friends, co-workers etc.

or do you keep it to just the rest us here on the forum?

Ooohh...at first, I would have preferred having anything that grew out of my body (teeth, hair, nails, etc) yanked out one at a time than to even speak the word "tickle" out loud, much less tell anyone my personal reactions to it. I think I told one friend while in high school (and in an amazing twist, she stated she actually shared my feelings, citing her own awakening while watching the scene with the captain in the Pippi Longstocking movie--but oddly, we never spoke of it again after that), but then I buried it. It would resurface like a punch-me-clown throughout the years but I continued to jam it back down with periodic, guilty "purges", until I finally hooked up here at TMF.

In another startling outcome, I finally told my husband about what I considered my "dark secrets" last year, and while he absolutely does not share any preference for it whatsoever (personally HATES it, for the most part--he's hyperticklish, despises being tickled and I am strictly 'Ler), he was quite open and supportive as he always is, which made coming online (shoosh, all of you, no pun smacks allowed on that! ) something I was far more comfortable with.

Then, in yet another startling event in the sequence, my daughter-in-law and I were sharing a heart-to-heart several months ago and I mentioned TMF. It turns out that she was already familiar with it, had actually been a member here a long time ago as a result of a previous boyfriend, and immediately set up a new account when she learned of my own activity here. My son is a bit iffy with tickling as a fetish as he doesn't connect it to sexuality, but he's relatively indifferent to any conversation about it...although he is quite a wicked 'Ler himself to my daughter-in-law's 'lee leanings. (The apple never falls far from the tree, hmm? 😀 LOL)

So, in just a year's time, I went from hiding from my preferences like an escaped convict on the lam to having TMF up on the common area PC in the living room almost all the time, discussing events here, reading particularly humorous posts aloud to my family and even flexing my long-dormant Dominant muscles again, thanks to Redscript. Most of my close friends are also now aware of what I like and am involved in but really don't discuss it, other than to ask avidly curious questions about my D/s relationship.

Now, would I tell my mother or father? My in-laws? No, can't see me doing that, I get a bit icky in my head when I even think about it. But for the most part, tickling has become mainstream material and everyday stuff in my household now.

And an interesting side note: Now that the tickling fetish is no longer associated with "forbidden fruit" in my mind, it seems to have lost some of its...hmm, its excitement edge in just viewing or reading about it anymore, unless the content falls within my own absolutely specific parameters. Perhaps that's one of the perils of making what was once "wicked" to me something that's almost vanilla..?

Mistress Aura

 

[milagros317]

I've talked about it at great length (and shown my stories) to one friend. No need to tell my family or co-workers, it has nothing to do with them.

 

[pfromptown]

And an interesting side note: Now that the tickling fetish is no longer associated with "forbidden fruit" in my mind, it seems to have lost some of its...hmm, its excitement edge in just viewing or reading about it anymore, unless the content falls within my own absolutely specific parameters. Perhaps that's one of the perils of making what was once "wicked" to me something that's almost vanilla..?

Mistress Aura

No one I have ever met in person knows of my tickle fetish. A few weeks ago my best friend and I were sharing several joints on the park and talking deep as we always do, and I was discussing my seemingly unique alienation from all things human. Most people on this forum desperately attempt to convince themselves and one another that they are 'not weird' (as it is seemingly most often quipped as), and that's fine, each his own, I am a great advocate of that. However I am weird. I know it to be true and I am not afraid of it. I could fill the memory of the TMF with the whys and wherefores but I will not. Just take it from me. Having a tickle fetish is not the strangest aspect of my personality. I am a weirdo, no doubt.

My friend semi-knows why I consider myself to be an outcast of said magnitude, but still tried to convince me that I was as regular as anyone else; blah blah blah. And so I told him half the truth. That is: I am a fetishist. I didn't specify any further, despite repeated probing from him for what seemed like several hours until we were joined by acquaintances and had to drop it. That night, the only conclusion he had come to on the matter was that I am not pretty enough for this world, and I am more than inclined to agree with him. This is the closest to coming out of the closet as I imagine I will ever come, certainly in the forseeable future, and I found that after it, sure enough, I agree with Mistress Aura (Cool name by the way): (Nearly) admitting it fucked me up! I found myself feeling like something had been taken from inside me, like it was no longer special. I couldn't jerk off (For want of a more subtle term) without visual aids, usually not a problem for me because I am blessed with a vivid imagination, but even with the screen up in front of me with my favourite clips playing, I found it incredibly difficult. I was still successful eventually, but what a weird effect to have! I really don't know what to make of this situation, even though it has improved as my friend has stopped mentioning it and things have returned to relatively normal. Anyone else experienced this? Anyone else know anything (ANYTHING) useful about telling people secrets in general to soften the blows? Thought not.

 

[the wiz]

I made the mistake of telling people I thought I knew for over 10 years; I could tell be the expressions on their face I truly f____ked up.
Now, I don’t see or hear from them unless they want something from me. However, I must say I’m glad I did tell them.
Now I know what type of people they truly are, they are not worth my time. Since they don’t want to deal with me I learnt to say No more often when they come around.
I believe it’s just a matter of time before we will completely part