People's reactions to your tickling thang

[Veedubnut]

Hi people,

Something Ive been meaning to ask a while now. Those of you that are more open about your fetish, those that have let others in on it (unlike me ), I was wondering a couple of things. Whether it be partners, friends, (I was gonna say family out of habit here but I dont think I will 🙂 ) um, complete strangers! basically what did it feel like telling them, and my main question, what kinda reactions have you had? I feel like Im beginning to live in denial a little, keeping something Im so passionate about so secret. I feel like a huge weight would drop off my shoulders if somebody knew, but the thought of it backfiring aint much fun. Any feedback is good people 😎

 

[Michael514]

I myself have been there and it wasn't easy. There was a sectetary at my first job and she figured it out when I kept tickling her feet, and when she confronted me with it, I told her that I loved her feet and I loved to kiss and tickle them. She accepted it but she tried to stear away from that. At my second job I had a thing for another secretaries feet. She figured it out because I was always trying to tickle her feet and finally ,shockingly she did enjoy it and I ended up tying her and tickling her feet. This too was luck. I told my wife also' and that was the hard one because when we were dating, I made a comment about going to a poker game.She objected because the game was on a saturday night.I told her it was a little fetish I had. That's when she told me like the one I have for her feet. See she didn't like her feet touched or tickled. She just flat out hated feet. But I told her about my fetish and I took a big chance. She did accept it but she said easy on my feet with the kissing and tickling. I did feel alot better but somewhat embarressed. That was a long time ago, I am still married to the same woman. Truthfully if someone asks me about my little fetish I tell them straight out now. Let them think what they want. I can't tell you what to do but like I said I have been there and it's no fun. All I can suggest is take it one step at a time. If you are interested I have a 3 true experiences oin the story forum of how I was confronted and how I handled them. Dated 09-05-05, "no tickling, yet", 09-11-05,"no tickling, yet part 2" and on 10-03-05, 'no tickling yet part 3". It tells of how I was confronted with a foot fetish after my wife, who knows of it, blurted it out. I foyu read them I hope they are of some help. GOOD LUCK. :happy:

 

[gilmourwaters]

simply put...i never hid my fetish and overall the response has been great.Sure some will not understand but most will accept it and the opportunities ull have by letting it be known will more than make it worth while!

 

[CheshireCatNY]

LIke I've said before.....most of my friends know about my fetish, when they first learned about it I think a lot were relieved that it wasnt something stranger...(I'm kind of an odd guy...LOL)

 

[Sockstickler]

LIke I've said before.....most of my friends know about my fetish, when they first learned about it I think a lot were relieved that it wasnt something stranger...(I'm kind of an odd guy...LOL)

It's true. You could have been one of those people into chains or sharp objects or soemthing 😛
Not a whole lot of people know about my love for tickling, only about three of my best friends, but after I told them, they thought it was ok. A couple of them even thought it was kind of cute, and they'd let me tickle them if I wanted to. Too bad one of them doesn't seem to be ticklish anywhere. Drat!
Oh, and dude, I've got to ask. Where did you get the picture of that cat? That's one crazy looking feline!

 

[Goodieluver]

Well, as ive told gals i know, ive typically gotten the response of "ew feet are gross" or "my feet are gross" Heh and typically when i get the positive reactions, its from the ladies who are taken. Tickling is somewhat the same, im told thats weird or interesting, i had one girl say she never thought that about me and thought it rocked\was kinky

 

[z284ca]

I've told 3 people, my girlfriend and two lady friends of mines. Told my girlfriend after about 4 months of being with her, she knew I had some sort of fetish (I let her know that much) but not what, when I told her it was tickling/feet she laughed, best reaction I could have hoped for.. I was SOOO nervous telling her and she's the first person I ever told heehe.
As for the other two I was so hyped that I had finally told someone I just wanted to tell someoen else, see how they'd react :-D I'd been friends with both of them for AGES and just thought I'd try and uhh bring it up 😛 did both times, didn't get any dodgey reactions at all hehe both just laughed again and said "it suited me" :-D

 

[Taj]

My family and a couple of choice friends have always known. Never really had to say a word about it. Usually if you take an opportunity to tickle someone, or continue to try and tickle the same person as often as you can, they pretty much figure out for themselves that you have a tickling fetish. Personally, I think that if you control your fetish and not the other way around, the majority of people are ok with it. The ones who look down on it, usually have a fetish of their own that they think is normal. EXAMPLE: "You're into tickling!? What a weirdo you are! Well I'm off to watch people pee on eachother." Some people are very open, and "come out" so to speak with what they are into. Others choose to hide it because they find it embarassing, and don't want the people they care about to obliterate them. To be honest, I don't think there is a right or a wrong way to handle the situation. How or if you choose to tell someone is completely up to you. My one useful piece of advice would be to first tell someone you would trust with your life.

 

[-Kunoke-]

I've been open with it for quite a while now, and the worst reaction I got wasn't even bad. Something along the lines of "hmm that's cool I guess", and while they could have been thinking something else, they didn't treat me any differently after that, so I didn't care much. Most girls I told, actually at least 99% of them 😛, said they liked the fact I had little quirks about me like that, and that they think it's cute when guys feel like they can tell a girl that. So, very positive. 😉 Several of them let me tickle and play with their feet on a regular basis.

I'd say, just go for it man. And the suggestion above was good. Tell someone you know you could trust with your life.

 

[Camel26]

There are 5 people in my life that I've told...one of them is my ler...the others are friends/acquaintances who either a) I know have a fetish already or are totally comfy with fetishes of all sorts or b) have either tied me to a bed or tickled the crap out of me in the past (when I was uber insecure about my tastes in high school) just because back then they knew I didn't like being touched...they just didn't know why then...now they do...all have been supportive...one girl told me she had a similar fetish...another told me it was cute and that she kinda liked the idea (and then went on to help my ler tickle me for a bit)...another guessed it right away because she'd tied me to a bed back in the day and tickled me senseless...and saw how scared I got...oy...stupid high school insecurities...😉

My close friends and family don't know...I really don't have a desire to tell them...I feel as though it's not their business...but it's nice to have a small group of friends that know...always good to be able to talk about it...

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the only person that knows about the hollywood brother likeness for tickling besdies the great ladies on this site here is one or two people and they do not have no idea how big the hollywood brother interest in tickling is.

 

[Veedubnut]

Wow, thanks for the responses people! Ya know, I actually feel more reassured and confident about it now I think. Its not like Im planning on telling anyone right now or anything but I know the opportunity will come again one day. It came once before and I bottled it, (actually being asked if I had a fetish whilst having a girls legs trapped under one arm and tickling her feet with my free hand, like there was ever a better time to come clean 🙄 ) but I wont let it happen again!! Thankyou

 

[DarkPoet]

Mmm. I've never really hid it either. There are a few people who think it's weird and creepy, but they never liked my anyways, so they were probably just trying to blow it out of proportion. As for everyone else, no one seemed to mind, and most girls tend to have a ton of fun with it. Mind, I'm a very playful (non-sexual) tickler, so I may fall into a completely different category, but there ya have it.

On the otherhand, I've never told my family. Well, my brother knows, but not my parents. I imagine my mom has guessed, but she keeps it from my father if she does, because we both know how very little understanding that man has.

Anyways, I think I've rambled on enough here. Hope it might've brought extra insight.

 

[The_Laugher]

simply put...i never hid my fetish and overall the response has been great.Sure some will not understand but most will accept it and the opportunities ull have by letting it be known will more than make it worth while!

I have to agree with gilmorewater, I have always been open and honest about my love of tickling. One on three occastions did it cause a problem. Other then that everyone has been cool and understanding of it and because of this my opportunities have been tremendous.

The Laugher 🙂

 

[Taj]

Now I have to tell my new "almost" boyfriend...grr...

Or you could make a game of it. After you've been with him awhile offer to let him tie you up and bring a few select toys of your choice if you wish to kind of get the mood started. I don't think there is a guy out there who has'nt tickled his girlfriend at some point or another. Makes it even better when he finds out his girl is into it. 🙂 Of course thats only a friendly suggestion.
To me telling someone you are with has to be the hardest thing to do, so I found that method to work pretty well. Of course I was the 'ler and had to be very careful on how to approach the subject, since I was unsure of how she would handle it. Long story short, its now one of her birthday gifts from her to me. 😀

 

[DarkPoet]

At the end of the day, we have to remember that this little 'secret' neither defines us, nor governs us. While it does take a role in the mate we select, it is nothing more than another little quirk just like anything else. People put so much stock into the sex life of others that we make it seem like a really big deal, but our like of tickling is no stranger than Star Trek fantatism or being a computer game junkie. Even ritual attendance to a favorite's sports team can be compared. None of these things make us good, or bad. It just is. It makes us different from one another. And just like in everything else, there are going to be people who like it like we do, who can understand that we like it, and there are going to be people who will think ill of us for it. Just like they might have a unique aspect that we don't quite understand or accept.

However, what does define us as people is our trust in others, our trustworthiness, our character... These are things that can be different or the same whether you're into tickling or not, whether you prefer feet or upper body. There are good ticklers and evil ticklers. Good boob-people, and bad boob-people. It's our job to see past these little differences and cherish others for what really makes them worthy of love. Once we do that, we can appreciate our differences so much easier.

In conclusion, don't be afraid to hide from the world something as trivial as what might excite you. You could spend the energy you would've wasted in hiding in finding friends that would be there for you regardless. Tickling is just something we like to do. It does not govern who we are, and it most certainly does not define us.

 

[ticklehound]

At first, I hid it from everyone like a venereal disease. However, as I've gotten older (more experienced) and bolder, I've been fairly open about it. I don't announce it or such, but IF the topic comes up, I talk about it. I just never really find an avenue to introduce it to conversation.

I don't know about yall, but people I encounter tend to not discuss things that 'private', so I still never really told anybody . . . yet. However, this one time, my friend talked me into posting a local personal, in which I sprinkled hints of tickling in my ad. Sure enough, she found it and confronted me, calling me "Mr. Ticklish." but that was about it.

The few guy friends I've told this think it's OK, in a "dude, one time, me and this chick" kinda way. The girl friends think it's cute in a playful way. Don't believe they realize the entire bondage aspect to it . . . yet. SO, there you go.

Now, if I were to have, say, met someone, and we had a very intensive tickle session . . . that would be something to talk about. I'm here all night folks.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I tickled my husband in public once, many years ago. We were the last customers in a fast food restaurant late at night, so I decided to entertain both him and the young, innocent-looking counter boy by unbuttoning hubby's shirt, putting my hand down it, and gently tickling his bare chest while watching counter-boy out of the corner of my eye. From what I saw, I'm pretty sure that he was as stiff as the hubby by the time we were done 😉 I would never do such a thing where I was known, of course, but I enjoyed getting a "rise" out of the clerk 😱

 

[blackmagicjack1]

That's evil Miss Val.

 

[MistressValerie1]

That's evil Miss Val.

Yep, it sure was 😉

 

[blackmagicjack1]

Wonder if you gave the poor lad a new fetish?

 

[MistressValerie1]

There's a shortage of male 'lees, at least on the Web, so I hope I did 😀

 

[blackmagicjack1]

I'm sure with the proper incentive, you could convert a few to your cause.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I do my best 😉

 

[blackmagicjack1]

If you say so 😎