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[QazW]

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[thetickleking]

How long have you been with her? During the first 9 or 10 months of my relationship with the lady who is now my wife, I felt very much the same way. I believe that I felt that way, because I was scared to death that she might one - enjoy another person touching her in that way, or two - be extremely uncomfortable by another person touching her in that way. Both scenarios troubled me greatly. To top it all off, we had a long distance relationship (we lived 3 hours apart). Over time, as our relationship has matured, I know that she is mine, and I trust her. I have learned that when someone makes her uncomfortable, she's gonna let them know (usually with whatever object is closest to grab and swing). So I don't worry about that like I used to. And as far as her maybe enjoying someone tickling her - as long as they don't touch her in places she's uncomfortable with, I really don't have a problem. But, she's not a tickle lover, like I am, so she usually batters someone who tries to tickle her (unless its my sister, then she curls up into a ball and screams). I've been in your shoes, and I promise you, you will worry yourself to death. I am sure, however, that she appreciates your concern for the well being of her ticklish feet.

 

[blondie46]

Hey Tickleking,
I think it is very natural and protective for you to feel jealousy over your girlfriend.

I can relate to your feelings very well because I know I could not share a man with someone else. I'm really possessive, and would never feel truly interested in someone who has a girlfriend, lover or wife.

Yes, and socks are the perfect solution.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

Please dont take this the wrong way but you have to take into consideration of what makes her comfortable. I can understand how you feel about someone else other than yourself touching her feet. There are alot of girls that I work with who are married or have boyfriends I've seen they're feet many times including the soles of they're feet and the girls know that I have a foot fetish and that I'm into tickling but it doesnt bother them or they're significant other because they all know that I would'nt jepordize our friendship or they're relationship just to satisfy my fetishes 🙂

 

[George Hull]

I love seeing my girlfriends tickled by other guys, I mean absolutely LOVE it! Sometimes I think it's even better than actually tickling them myself. Maybe it's because when someone else is tickling them not only do the girls have no control over the situation but neither do I, which makes it even more suspenseful and exciting. I never know how long it's going to last or where the tickler will attack next. Or maybe it's that when someone else is tickling them, no matter how long it lasts or how bad it gets I know I'm not to blame! Although there's sometimes the "Why didn't you rescue me?" factor that can get you into trouble. Most girls I date, though, soon come to realize that when it comes to tickling they're not going to get any help from me. In fact once or twice I've even held my girlfriends down so other guys could tickle them. A particular girl I used to go out with, a big blonde amazon, was being tickled to death by a couple of guys once and she kept giving me these looks like "You're really loving this, aren't you?" And when they let her up she glanced down at the physical evidence of how excited it made me and gave me what could only be described as a sh*t eating grin, like she'd done it on purpose just to turn me on!

I guess I'm in the minority on this one, huh guys?

 

[Mitchell]

I dont have a girlfriend now. (I have in the past, of course). Here is how I see this question:
As far as the idea of someone else not tickling your girlfriend, and wanting to be protective of her, I completely understand that. Unless it was a very playful and innocent non sexual intent tickle by a family member or friend, I'd feel uncomfortable about that.
It is your peroggative to feel uncomfortable about having others see your girlfriend's feet. For myself, I love women who go barefoot a lot, so as long as I knew my girlfriend or wife was faithful, whether she went barefoot a lot or not would be really up to her. If she enjoyed it, I'd love it. If she didnt like to go barefoot, because of her feet being cold, or just not liking to go barefoot, I would be fine with it as long as her feet were available and bare to pay attention to at the appropriate times. That would be up to her. As far as the idea of not having others see your girlfriend's feet because you dont want others to feel attracted to your girlfriend's feet, I can understand that. For myself, I realize that in summer and by the pool or such, many women wear sandals and go barefoot, and, inevitably, someone at some time is going to see my significant other's feet. As long as the relationship stays faithful, I really dont care what others want to think about her. Heck, in my life, I have had plenty of foot and tickle fantasies with married women of people I know well. There is quite a difference between fantasy, and actually acting something out and cheating. How you feel is your peroggative, and I respect that, but for myself, what shoes my wife wore or where she went barefoot would be up to her. The most important thing to me is that the relationship stays faithful, not who sees her feet.

Mitch

 

[maniactickler]

I can understand perhaps being a tad jealous, but thats over the top.

 

[Iggy pop]

I have to agree I think you are being over protective. This often pushes girls away. It's the same as the guy that liked the girl in the mini leather skirts when they met, but now that they are together he does not want her to wear it anymore.

 

[drew70]

I gotta go with the maniacal one. If you're uncomfortable with people seeing your girlfriend's bare feet, something's dreadfully wrong here. Somehow you have attached ownership to her and her feet. You feel that anybody seeing her feet is enjoying something only you were meant to enjoy. There is only one direction this road can take you and that's toward misery and unhappiness. What's worse is that by adopting such a posture of extreme possessiveness, you will make her equally as miserable.

You know, they say that if you have a bird and let her out of her cage, and she stays, she's yours forever. But if she flies away, she was never really yours to begin with. Let these feet go, Serena. Let go of your claim to them and just enjoy them for what they are, not who they belong to.

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Jealousy sucks. It is that simple. Before this party and at anytime, I would and always will allow anyone and everyone to admire and tickle my girlfriend's feet. She has great looking feet and they don't deserve to be in socks and shoes hidden away. I would try to view it this way, They are admiring the lady that they can't have. You should be more secure in yourself.

 

[Soda83pop]

Yea...I think this sounds more like your insecurities and less about her. I am a married man, and my foot partialism is much stronger than my tickling partialism, and even I dont lose any sleep over my wife's feet being touched or seen (although I dont like her to go outside barefoot, but that has nothing to with her feet being seen).

Im sure you are a nice guy, and may be one helluva boyfriend, but it looks like you may have a jealousy issue.

 

[mart]

I have a question posed for the gentlemen, opinions/experiences would be greatly appreciated.
When it comes to my girlfriend, I don't even like to consider the thought of her feet being touched or tickled by someone else.
Bear with me here. I don't even like the idea of the bottoms of her feet being able to be seen by others. Like if she is totally barefoot around other people, for example. If she is lounging around the house, I prefer her to wear socks. It doesn't bother me if she wears sandals or anything, just the idea of her feet being exposed and potentially being touched really makes me very uncomfortable.
Has /does anyone share this?

I welcome all comments.
Thank you.

Have you been in this realtionship for a long time? My feeling is that this is a natural reaction in the early years of a relationship, but could be classed as a sign of exessive jealousy and need to control in a long established relationship.

If, however, your relationship is young, don't worry. It will change in the course of time. Nor should I let what others say matter too much, because every couple has to protect the space around their relationship for it to grow and flourish.

 

[kis123]

I have to agree I think you are being over protective. This often pushes girls away. It's the same as the guy that liked the girl in the mini leather skirts when they met, but now that they are together he does not want her to wear it anymore.

Interesting answer! But I think this sums up my thoughts pretty well. I'm not a guy, but as a female, would be very concerned if my man were so jealous that I can't even be barefoot in my own home. I feel that's a little much. She may find it attractive, even romantic for awhile, but continued jealousy can kill a relationship.

I hope you come to terms with your jealousy issues and find a happy medium between you two.

Forgive in advance for what might be an extremely stupid question. With a screenname of SerenaW, are we dealing with a male-female relationship? Even if this is not male-female, my same thoughts apply.

 

[Druidici]

I would have to say drop the jealousy act,because while it may be cute the first time around to your significant other,it is a habit that grows tiresome. If she is with you at the end of the day,that should tell you all you need to know.Like the old proverb says If you love something,let it go and if it returns to you then it always loved you..or something like that. But the gist of the whole thing is,if you start telling or even requesting how your significant other should dress,behave,etc.,then that's when the relationship starts getting abit controlling and creepy.

 

[TickledToDeath]

An interesting quandry and issue you have.
Not all people are ticklers or ticklees. Everyone who sees your gfs' feet are not thinking of tickling them. Perhaps YOU are and that being in your mind you believe that everyone must be. That is not the case. It may seem natural to think that way in your mind but in general and reality, again, not everyone who sees feet is thinking of tickling them.
If you were to have friends over whom you KNOW are into tickling, I am sure they would not(or at least hope)just go grab and tickle your gfs feet without your and her permission but if you still wish to cover the temptation of those folks, then ASKING her to please wear socks may be fine but overall, being barefoot is natural and damn comfy and you should try to convince yourself that all is safe and well.
You couldn't ask her to wear socks at the pool or beach now could you? NO of course not soooooooooo talk to yourself and tell yourself her feet are for you to play with unless you give permission to another to join you otherwise, they are safe from being touched and or tickled except by you.

If this doesn't work for ya, feel free to contact me for further discussion.

TTD

 

[steph]

It might be a song by 38special...
Does anyone remember this? Maybe the best advice ever given in a song..."Hold on loosely..." My whole life I've lived by this. Never steered me wrong.
XOXO

 

[QazW]

Thank you everyone for your replies. In an attempt not to mislead, I am indeed a male involved with a female.

I do, in fact, view her feet as sexual objects, I can't help but feel intense sexual attraction and desire toward them. To me, it is no different than if she was completely naked with her "lower region" or breasts exposed. I understand that not all people have mine (our) point of view, its just that her little feet are something I hold so precious and so dear, just as her breasts and "lower region" are. Those three areas are incredibly and equally personal to me. It is not that I am trying to control her in any way shape or form. I love her with all that I have, and making her life easier and more comfortable is a primary focus of mine. Again, thank you all for reading. I very much appreciate your time.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

You're welcome and the very best of luck to you both

 

[mytoesrticklish]

Foot Tease

Hi, this is an interesting post. My bf loves my feet and he is quite conscience of them. I know it sometimes makes him uneasy if I slip off my sandals at a party or at home when other people are noticing. Since he knows I am a bit of a foot tease anyway, he is not that concerned. With that said, he does not want another guy to physically tickle my feet under any situation. He loves me, but he also knows what tickling my feet does to me sexually. Understandably he wants that experience for himself only. Thank you for the post.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Thank you everyone for your replies. In an attempt not to mislead, I am indeed a male involved with a female.

I do, in fact, view her feet as sexual objects, I can't help but feel intense sexual attraction and desire toward them. To me, it is no different than if she was completely naked with her "lower region" or breasts exposed. I understand that not all people have mine (our) point of view, its just that her little feet are something I hold so precious and so dear, just as her breasts and "lower region" are. Those three areas are incredibly and equally personal to me. It is not that I am trying to control her in any way shape or form. I love her with all that I have, and making her life easier and more comfortable is a primary focus of mine. Again, thank you all for reading. I very much appreciate your time.

You're welcome. Best of luck to ya BUT................
Be careful with this situation and feet and the breasts and nether region are in no way even close to being the same. That is an issue you best come to grips with and remedy real quick.

TTD

 

[QazW]

TTD, I appreciate your reply.

I must reiterate, that, sexually, they are equal to me. I realize that in terms of sexual relations they are completely different, but in my eyes her feet are just as intimate as her two other affirmentioned areas.

Again thank you all very much for your replies.