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pushing limits ?????

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tickmankyle1

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hello all not been on much in a while and had a question???? haveing a session in a day or so. how do you push limits in a tickling session while still having a safe word. i want to try to go longer with out saying my safe word but if you tickle me good i sy my safe word a lot. i want to go and be tickled pass my limits a little. though i have had people tell me that they take your safeword lightly to do that. i want to go past my safe word being tickled, but i want to have a word that says stop if i need it. thanks for any help tickmankyle1 could i have 2 safe words one for kinda stopping and one is for stopping no matter what. just want a safe word for safety sake it kinda hard to explain later thanks for any help or idea's
 
The thing about safewords is that so many of us use them more like simply crying uncle rather than truly as a SAFEword. It's intended to be used only if you're in trouble. So, saying it a lot really would lead someone to not take it seriously...which could be bad if you really needed it to stop for real.

If you're playing with someone who's not used to playing with you and able to read you well, then a true safeword along with simply saying "time out" if needed is one option.

I use a safeword no matter who I'm playing with so that if I'm starting to flash or have a medical issue arise I can let them know. Aside from that, I simply communicate normally. If I need a quick sip of water, to get my breathing back on track or even use the bathroom, I simply say so. If you get out of breath when you're tickled, you might also want to have a hand signal that would act as your safeword in case you really need to stop and are unable to speak.

Have fun!
 
A safeword actually makes it easier to push limits, by giving you an out if you need one and the top a better idea of when he reaches your limits.
 
What worked fine for me was a time-bet. I would bet that I could go a half hour or so without using the safe word. Of course there's also something good coming to you if you win. 🙂

That trick usually has me endure way more than what I would do without a bet.
 
Or an agreement on extended time? Say two or three minutes extra tickling AFTER safeword screaming?

But that in itself is sort of a violation of BDSM ethic. I think.
 
So what if the safeword is uttered because you actually need it? How could you tell the difference?
 
How about instead of a safe word, you have a "safe count" when you feel you need it to stop, you must count to a certain number, as fast as you like but make it a highish number so it takes you a while to get there.

That way the tickling will go thru your limit, ad if you want to be pushed a little harder, simply raise the number
 
I personally can't even count to ten when I'm tickled. 🙂
 
The9thDoctor said:
Or an agreement on extended time? Say two or three minutes extra tickling AFTER safeword screaming?

But that in itself is sort of a violation of BDSM ethic. I think.
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hmm.. bdsm and ticking.. yummyyyyyyyyy I agress go past for a few min
Haribish! said:
How about instead of a safe word, you have a "safe count" when you feel you need it to stop, you must count to a certain number, as fast as you like but make it a highish number so it takes you a while to get there.

That way the tickling will go thru your limit, ad if you want to be pushed a little harder, simply raise the number
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ok the number is 137
BrightEyes1082 said:
"Yellow" for slow down, or need a break, and "red" for stop.
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good idea.. I have heard of those using the stop light.. red, yellow and green
IF your playing with someone who knows you-- they will be able to read your body language and know when it is time to stop and be brave and go without a safe word.
 
rhiannon said:
And what do I do if I really need it to stop NOW?
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Count quicker, if you were trying to push limits then you would expect to want it to "stop now".

Besides, a decent ler should be able to tell if your in actual danger, I can imagine in trying this once, you would quickley learn wether the desire to push limits is just a fantasy or something you actually want to have done to you.

Ive never used safewords and ive never had any problems as a lee or a ler.

Ive also found that once im pushed past my limits, I really do want it to stop, and ive never wanted it to continue or be pushed harder, so I now always stay within my limits.
 
Count quicker, if you were trying to push limits then you would expect to want it to "stop now".
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What if I can't breath, feel dizzy, am in pain, can't feel my limbs??

Besides, a decent ler should be able to tell if your in actual danger
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If the ler is not very experienced or doesn't know me thoroughly (which he won't if he is not my long-time partner!), I can't count on correct judgement on his part!
 
This is why I ONLY play with freinds.. those who are freinds first and know me personallly
 
Dittos to what Lisa said. If we're playing with folks who really know us, it's much easier...and infinitely safer....to push limits.
 
milagros317 said:
Exactly. You need two different words. A slowword that you are free to overuse and a safeword that means "Stop right now, I am in real trouble."
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:yayzorz::yayzorz:
I like this idea. I hadn't thought of it. If we are talking about pushing limits, though, it can be hard to know how much I can actually endure.
Perhaps if I think that I am at my absolute limit and cannot take another second, I might be able to use a slow down word to see if I can recover for more, or if I truly can't go on. Something to think about.
 
hello all

hope every one is well I made it to lisa's aka dimpletoes house made it in good spirts and in ok time considering the detour i had to take. i'm here for a few days i well let you know how pushing the limits go. going to class or should i say test maketing. she says hello to all in tmf lands hugssssssssss from both of us!!!!!!! later all
 
Not that the tickler shouldn't be able to notice if you're about to pass out from lack of oxygen, but just in case they get a little too immersed then a slow-down-word is a really good idea, I hadn't thought about it. But first and for-most, you have to trust the person, that should be common sense. Even if common sense is up to interpretation.
 
To my 'ler, the safeword doesn't usually mean stop! He can just change the spot or give me break, it's up to him when he actually stops....the safeword will just cause him to look at me more closely and find out what I need right now.
 
However you look at it, plan it or feel about it, if you have a safe word you will use it. Green Yellow Red Black White Gray....if a word will make the tickling stop the word will be used.
If you truly wish to push your limits, either have full trust in your tickler and give that trust and power totally to the tickler to stop when you absolutely need it to stop and you trust that the tickler will be able to see that or use the time ladder system.
You are tickled 30 seconds non stop then it stops for (x) seconds.
Then it starts again for 60 seconds non stop...and again stops for (x) seconds.
Then it is increased to 90 seconds...then 2 minutes and so on each time the session of tickling is non stop, period. Eventually you will know for sure how close you are to your limits upon the prior session or after the next... .
It may be 5 minutes non stop or it may be more... eventually you will know as will your tickler.

TTD
 
hmmm I will have to try all these things on Kyle.. (insert evil Laugh) Kyle says hi by the way. We have have been having fun visiting and play time. Gonna introduce him to bdsm as well this week with a few friends of mine...give him a demonstration.

HUGSSSSSS/Lisa
 
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