Question About Honesty

[inthenameoffun2]

I have been a member here for a while, under this username and even longer under another one that I have. This username is a husband and wife username that we both use, but I'm on more than my wife, so now you know, (if your were asking who is this, husband or wife), lol, but thats not why I am sending this out. I have a question when it comes to honesty here. Yes this is a place for many to live out their fantasy, hey I do, ( mine happens to be talking to those about the self tickling thing ) but yet I or should I say we, can talk about other things too. But yet I have noticed that for some reason there are some others here that we have spoken too, who for some reason just can not be honest, like it is not just a game for them to not be honest, but they need to say one thing and then do another. Now do not get me wrong, we have met many here that are nice and honest too, and thats great and we have made a nice friendship with them. But what I mean is like this. We talk or one of us talks to someone, and all is fine, we get along we have nice conversation and we or I are told that the honesty that is being used is nice and refreshing, but then..... Lets say that a phone conversation will happen, or a webcam or mic thing for that matter, and a time and a day is agreed for when this will happen. Then nothing happens, and I underdstand that things happen or something can come up. So a IM ( on yahoo has been sent ) or a PC here has been sent, 1 maybe 3 and then it is left alone. The the next day or 2 later, another IM or PC is sent, asking hey what happend?? Nothing, no replies, to either of the attempts. But yet, they are posting or replying to a post here. Now why does that happen??? If your not interested in talking or doing what ever we spoke about doing, then why no reply but yet keep on going on posting, or replying to post, as if we never spoke??? I just do not get this. Now I'm not out to say names, that has never been my style. I'm just asking for a little help. Are we just too honest, or just too nice? Or are we in the worng place to be like that. Does this even make sence??? Thanks for your time and please, this is not meant to one person only, there are a few that are like this. Thanks for your time.

 

[slacker2114]

Ok, now that my eyeballs stopped spinning from trying to keep track of all the 'we's and 'I's, lemme take a shot at this...

Sometimes, for whatever reason(s), when someone sets up a meeting of one sort or another online, things do come up. And then, because they missed the set time, they feel too embarassed to answer for whatever the reason is. Others sometimes have second thoughts for one reason or another and simply decide not to respond any longer.

And then, sometimes, some people are just plain rude jackasses.

Hope that gave you some insight.

 

[isabeau]

since he chose to air this in public. i will answer by saying i was one of the females he is talking about. i admit and am sorry that yes i did avoid him the last few days. i should have come out and told him i was having two extremely bad days and didnt feel like talking to him. instead i avoided him. the truth is i am not interested anymore in the self tickling but was trying to be nice anyway. sorry about that.

isabeau

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I guess the cat's out of the bag and I thought watching Law & Order took care of my drama fix..this beat that gig..wow.

 

[TickledToDeath]

For some........talking about tickling arises the fantasy thrill and gets the juices flowing and for them.......that is all they want. They get off on the Possibilities that could happen and would happen and therein lies their fantasy world and they do not want to venture out of that world. After all the promises and conversations......they feel too embarassed to "explain" themselves' to those they have.......lead on so to speak.
Online stuff......self tickling......webcaming.......etc. is NOT something "we" (my fiancee' and I would ever even consider getting into therefore neither I or her or we would start anything like that with anyone HOWever, MEETING is another story.......we love to meet others'(especially couples) and if and or when we promise to meet with someone.......we do it Unlike those who say they will come here and meet us and fail to show and never explain themselves regardless of the reason they copped out.
That is just plain rude, period.
It happens unfortunatly and you have to weed out those who do not live up to their word.
Yes.....s**t happens and cannot be avoided but should be explained otherwise there is no room for bull**it and lies(liars).
You just have to brush them off like lint!
Liars are the dandruff of life. Shampoo them away.
You will find others that are "head and shoulders" above the rest.

TTD

 

[Furion]

Hmm.

You expected honesty from the majority of the people of an online message board?

I have a nice bridge I'd like to sell you.

 

[TickledToDeath]

You expected honesty from the majority of the people of an online message board?

I have a nice bridge I'd like to sell you.

LOL.......That reminds me.....I have a tunnell in new york that I was considering putting on the market!
Maybe a package deal can be arranged with some folks!

 

[Furion]

Interested

inthenameoffun2 might buy your tunnel and my bridge.

 

[isabeau]

look,,, sighs.... i didnt answer one pm and it hadnt even been a week yet. some people immediately jump to conclusions.

isabeau

 

[isabeau]

For some........talking about tickling arises the fantasy thrill and gets the juices flowing and for them.......that is all they want. They get off on the Possibilities that could happen and would happen and therein lies their fantasy world and they do not want to venture out of that world. After all the promises and conversations......they feel too embarassed to "explain" themselves' to those they have.......lead on so to speak.
Online stuff......self tickling......webcaming.......etc. is NOT something "we" (my fiancee' and I would ever even consider getting into therefore neither I or her or we would start anything like that with anyone HOWever, MEETING is another story.......we love to meet others'(especially couples) and if and or when we promise to meet with someone.......we do it Unlike those who say they will come here and meet us and fail to show and never explain themselves regardless of the reason they copped out.
That is just plain rude, period.
It happens unfortunatly and you have to weed out those who do not live up to their word.
Yes.....s**t happens and cannot be avoided but should be explained otherwise there is no room for bull**it and lies(liars).
You just have to brush them off like lint!
Liars are the dandruff of life. Shampoo them away.
You will find others that are "head and shoulders" above the rest.

TTD

o so i'm a liar... thanks.

isabeau

 

[Furion]

isabeau..

Some people over react. I'm positive TickledToDeath didn't mean anything by it!

 

[isabeau]

Some people over react. I'm positive TickledToDeath didn't mean anything by it!

i was honest enough to come out and say i was one of the females inthenameoffun was referring to. and i think that takes guts.

isabeau

 

[Furion]

Agreed!!

I agree with you. Besides what happens in Private should STAY private.

 

[milagros317]

i was honest enough to come out and say i was one of the females inthenameoffun was referring to. and i think that takes guts.

isabeau

In any case, you did meet with Dtrell, so you are not one of the people that TTD is talking about, those who promise meetings and never follow through.

 

[TickledToDeath]

o so i'm a liar... thanks.

isabeau

Nope......never called you a liar. IF I throught of you as a liar I would have come right out and called you a liar by name. Directly.
Subtley is NOT in my genetic makeup.

 

[Furion]

WAit..

In any case, you did meet with Dtrell, so you are not one of the people that TTD is talking about, those who promise meetings and never follow through.

Just because someone promises a meeting does not mean they have to go through with it provided they give the person they are to meet ample notice. Everyone has the right to not meet someone they don't really know.

 

[TickledToDeath]

In any case, you did meet with Dtrell, so you are not one of the people that TTD is talking about, those who promise meetings and never follow through.

Exactly.......isa.....you are not one of the people I was talking about. I would have definitely made reference to you directly if I did.
I could go and name names but..........I have not the time right now and actually, those who have...fallen into the catagory I reffered to have been told so BY me privately and directly.
I could indeed post those names but........well......that would lack class.
Naming names in private is one thing but posting publically......not my style.

 

[kis123]

o so i'm a liar... thanks.

isabeau

Folks have to stop taking things so seriously around here. This is the world of the internet where people can be whoever they want to be whenever they want to be. Sometimes we make friends and forge relationships, sometimes we don't. Sometimes we let it all hang out, and sometimes it becomes a place to fulfill fantasies and explore and stretch our imaginations. I've started and ended friendships and even cyber-dated. Sometimes things simply just don't work out. Stop taking it so personally and stop trying to make others take it personally too.

Izzy, you were having some tough times and didn't want to be bothered. Nothing wrong with that even though a response would have been a better way to handle it. You've apologized pubically about a thing that started privately-that should be enough.

Hey it's called "private messaging" for a reason. If you're (you being hypothetical) having a private problem, maybe it should stay private. Little bothers me more than taking private matters and posting them publicly. It's embarrassing to some and it really doesn't solve anything.

 

[isabeau]

Folks have to stop taking things so seriously around here. This is the world of the internet where people can be whoever they want to be whenever they want to be. Sometimes we make friends and forge relationships, sometimes we don't. Sometimes we let it all hang out, and sometimes it becomes a place to fulfill fantasies and explore and stretch our imaginations. I've started and ended friendships and even cyber-dated. Sometimes things simply just don't work out. Stop taking it so personally and stop trying to make others take it personally too.

Izzy, you were having some tough times and didn't want to be bothered. Nothing wrong with that even though a response would have been a better way to handle it. You've apologized pubically about a thing that started privately-that should be enough.

Hey it's called "private messaging" for a reason. If you're (you being hypothetical) having a private problem, maybe it should stay private. Little bothers me more than taking private matters and posting them publicly. It's embarrassing to some and it really doesn't solve anything.

thanks kis..... this forum is full of too much drama. yes i should have responded. thats where i went wrong.

isabeau

TTD thank you

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

And the drama increases. Maybe its just me but I have had a lot of PMs unanswered. I am not going to get all bent out of shape about it. Especially with the females on the forum. Im surprised they have to time with all the PMs they recieve on a daily basis. It must exhausting to type an answer to everyone especially (like I noticed) the same subject keeps being brought up time after time on there PMs. If you think your going to be the center of every female's attention around here then get in line because there is a guy before you and after waiting for the same thing. I believe the girls on here are pretty patient with all the guys around here and there attitude of ME, ME, ME not to mention the one-time weirdos they get PMed has caused many of them to turn off there PMs. Sorry , ladies, thank you for putting up with this.

Get over it. Give them a break. Its a forum for crying out loud. We all have lives outside the computer. If a woman feels uncomfortable with certain things its her business. Now regarding meeting people..of course it is rude to not show up when a meeting is to take place without a call or instant message or some sort. But if you are unsure about meeting someone..dont waste their time unless you really plan to go through with it.

 

[TickledToDeath]

i was honest enough to come out and say i was one of the females inthenameoffun was referring to. and i think that takes guts.

isabeau

Yes it does take guts HOWever, something that was supposed to be private should have remained so. He should probably have not posted this to begin with but then again perhaps isa......you should have delt with him in PM.

Things are so blown out of proportion here and sometimes taken WAAAAY to seriously.
Lighten up folks. Sh** happens all the time. The sky will be turning brown.

 

[TickledToDeath]

isabeau

TTD thank you

You're welcome.


Like I said....many folks have made promises to us. Said they were going to show up here and just blew us off. Others have given us notice and reason for not showing. Everyone has reasones for doing whatever it is they do or not do. So be it.
It all falls in the catagory of the "whatever".

 

[isabeau]

And the drama increases. Maybe its just me but I have had a lot of PMs unanswered. I am not going to get all bent out of shape about it. Especially with the females on the forum. Im surprised they have to time with all the PMs they recieve on a daily basis. It must exhausting to type an answer to everyone especially (like I noticed) the same subject keeps being brought up time after time on there PMs. If you think your going to be the center of every female's attention around here then get in line because there is a guy before you and after waiting for the same thing. I believe the girls on here are pretty patient with all the guys around here and there attitude of ME, ME, ME not to mention the one-time weirdos they get PMed has caused many of them to turn off there PMs. Sorry , ladies, thank you for putting up with this.

Get over it. Give them a break. Its a forum for crying out loud. We all have lives outside the computer. If a woman feels uncomfortable with certain things its her business. Now regarding meeting people..of course it is rude to not show up when a meeting is to take place without a call or instant message or some sort. But if you are unsure about meeting someone..dont waste their time unless you really plan to go through with it.

yes exactly... and i do try to answer my pms. but the last few days i didnt feel like it. however i did pm him last night.

TTD i did take it private with him last night. but i felt i needed to post this publicly , if i was wrong so be it.

isabeau

ps this is the last time i post on this thread.

 

[Tamia78]

Wow....I'm just reading all the posts, and man, it is kinda a lot of drama. I've "met" the originator of this thread, and he seems like a nice person. However, I think TTD was right in that this was a private issue that should have been dealt with as such. Because of this post, everyone he ever talked to is going to come at him.

On another note,this is a public forum, we just all happen to have a love for the same thing. I hate that things like this cause it to be "just another chat forum" like all the others, but it happens. I agree with Kis, and the statement that people on the internet are who they are, when they wanna be, whether it be all lies or the truth, it's just something we all have to deal with.

--T

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I agree with Kis, and the statement that people on the internet are who they are, when they wanna be, whether it be all lies or the truth, it's just something we all have to deal with.

--T

you mean you aren't a white tiger tam. how disappointing..

I like how you have that human beside you..what? huh? oh , she is the human?! Ohhhhhhh.......boy do I feel sheepish.