Question for females about your man being tickled

[Thatdrizzygirl]

It seems like there are several discussions around about how men feel about seeing another man tickling their wife or girlfriend, but none about the opposite. Ladies, how do you feel about seeing your man tickled by another female? Does it turn you on or make you jealous?

For me, it's kind of a combination. If absolutely definitely makes me jealous. In fact, even the thought of it makes my blood boil. I don't even really like it when a family member tickles him or another guy. He is 6'7 and just about all muscle, pretty much the most masculine guy I've ever met, so I wouldn't think I'd have to worry about another men tickling him, but he plays sports. It's surprising to me that when I've gone to his basketball games, how his guy friends will goose him in the ribs all the time or tickle his sides to make him lower his arms when he's blocking them from shooting in practice. Them doing it is more just kind of annoying & doesn't really make me mad even though I don't love it.

BUT when a female tickles him, it infuriates me. It's funny bc the thought of him being tickled actually kind of turns me on, but when it happens in front of me, it makes me so jealous I can't think straight. The first time I saw it happen was a female personal trainer at his gym. She stuck her hands UP HIS SHIRT to tickle his abs while he was doing an ab workout to see if he could continue doing the exercise while being tickled. He immediately went nuts and had a very hard time doing the moves & was twisting everywhere. It pissed me off badly and he thought it was cute that I was jealous & ended up teasing me about it for days. Then he tried to "make me feel better" by assuring me that she hadn't dug into his ab muscles or anything, but just used her nails to tickle the skin on top of his muscles & it gave him goosebumps. Made me even MORE mad!

How do you other ladies feel about seeing your man tickled or the thought of it?

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

Hm, well I've only been in one relationship... when I was 13, lol. Here's my input, hopefully without breaking the "minors" rule: I saw him tickled by another guy and I really loved watching that. I can't remember whether I've seen him tickled by other girls, and I have absolutely no clue how I'd feel about that. I probably would have enjoyed it.

About a year ago, I kept seeing my crush tickled by one of his female friends. I thought that was just adorable, even though the girl and I disliked each other a lot. I think hypothetically, it would probably depend on how I felt about the girl.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

We're in an open marriage, so it never bothers me. We're also both pansexual, so who tickles him doesn't bother me either.

 

[CapturedDoll]

I would love to see my Boyfriend tickled... but He won't let me nor anyone else.

As far as what happened with your bf and the trainer. You have brought the jealousy topic up before (I think.) and I am here 2 tell you I have been there myself a couple of times. But I never carried this anger for days. And my Bf helped me get over it with a bit of heathy teasing yes... and reassurance. From where I am sitting your bf is trying to reassure you... but maybe not in the way you would want him to. It's up to YOU to tell him what you need. NO ONE is a mind reader.

If he already knows someone else tickling him makes u jealous and uncomfortable... then he should have put the weights down and said something to her. THAT would have helped put you at ease right? If he knows this but acts like you are just silly for getting jealous... then you need to sit down and really think about WHY this makes you jealous and CALMLY explain this to him. Nothing solves anything with anger. Now... if you do this... and he continues to let this happen... then that's on him... and you need to decide if this would be a deal breaker for you and tell him this. Idk the entire situation. But... no hints no mind reading no anger will solve this but communicating why you have come to feeling like this over the years... and how he can make you feel more comfortable in the future. This is not his issue... its yours. But for him to effectively fix his side of involvement... you need to calmly tell him how he can fix it so both of you never have to go through this again. And you in turn will be working on the anger. It's like writing an essay in school. Your presentation has to be well thought out... not rambling, angry, or with mixed messages. Film yourself saying what you need to say first. Then watch it. Would you listen to yourself to what you said in the video... or would you dismiss it altogether. This is a tool to help you say what it is you need to say... effectively...while leaving the anger behind. It seems like he's trying to diffuse your anger with laughing it off... which is a mistake yes... but... so is confronting someone with rage or anger. Communication is the key to fixing this once and for all. But please look into your own past. If you have been cheated on etc... realize your current bf is not one of your ex's. And you might be repeating yourself in a new situation hoping for different results. You can't change the past. But you can help shape the future. Both of you working as a team.

 

[Wade]

My wife thinks it's hilarious when other people tickle me, and she has been a total enabler with regards to her sister or her best friend reducing me to helpless hysterics. There's nothing sexual or romantic about either of those relationships, of course, so I guess jealousy isn't an issue there. I suspect she wouldn't be uncomfortable unless the tickling constituted overt flirting from someone who was clearly hitting on me.

 

[milagros317]

Wade, you should thank your wife for all that she does for you. 😀

 

[Wade]

Wade, you should thank your wife for all that she does for you. 😀

Ha! She enjoys every second of it; no thanking required.

 

[JennyTickles]

I personally would get very jealous. That is all lol

 

[anonymiss86]

I don't mind when other people tickle my boyfriend. I actually kind of like it because I get to see his reactions from others compared to me. I trust him and I know he doesn't have the fetish. In high school before we dated we had a couple classes together and I actually remember seeing him get tickled by the girl sitting next to him on multiple occasions. I was actually surprised at the intensity she did it with given we were in class. She had him on the floor literally. So, that got my attention as a ler. Haha! I was always too self-conscious about my fetish to actively do anything like that to anyone back then. There have been a few girls I've seen tickle him and a couple of his male friends and his parents. He's not super ticklish. Sort of like if you get him in the right spots he is but if you walk up and goose his sides there's sometimes not a reaction. It depends. So I've seen a lot of unsuccessful attempts too... which can be disheartening. Haha! Anyway, that's my two cents! 🙂

 

[Bellylaughs]

I haven't had the opportunity to see my dude being tickled by anybody else yet. If I know myself well enough, and I believe that I do, I feel like I would probably feel bad for him or be at various levels of amusement. I'm generally a super chill, non-jealous type person. I would superficially feel bad for him if he were tied up by a ler that I'd barely handle (haven't found one yet) and I'd stand by in case he got in trouble and the ler went into ignorant instinct mode. However, if anybody of any gender or orientation were to insult HIS loyalty to me and mine to him by forcing unwanted suggestive or blatantly sexual tickling upon him when he already doesn't like being tickled at all, I'd have to hold myself back FOR him. Not because I was jealous, but that I would feel the insult to him as well and nobody should have to go through that kind of crap. Likely something like that would make him mad and also panicked that I'd think he was letting the person but I know him better.

 

[Alliekat]

I would say it would not bother me at all, but my husband is not ticklish.