Question for the ladies

[stdave]

To the ladies:
I am going to start getting into the dating scene again soon and I was wondering if you ladies could help me on this. I read an article about a lady that was questioned about what sold her on her husband when she first met him and she said she could sense that if she did say no, he would not have been offended. Now I have rejected before, and, although I probably did not look happy, I don't think I seemed offended. To me, that seems a kind of an ego thing and I don't think I have one (at least I think so). So the question is, can ladies really sense when they think a guy is going to be offended if they say no. I thank you for any thoughts on this.

 

[steph]

Hm...

I'm not sure I understand your question correctly Dave but I'm going to try. Your question seems a bit loaded with tons of possible answers and I'm not sure there's a definitive response. Bear with me while I try to illustrate with a couple examples:

Some women (I consider myself in this group) are fairly intuitive. Doesn't mean we can't be tricked (some guys are just naturally good at being manipulative.) Other guys are harder to read--they don't wear their hearts on their sleeve like some of us do.

Then you have the sicker version of the species, those who live to be cruel and rejecting for the fun of it. I'm not one of these but have met more than a few...

I think maybe the couple in the story was one of those where both parties meshed well from the get-go--she possessed the self confidence to be able to speak her mind, and he was open-minded enough to not feel threatened by that...

Finally, whether the girl "rejects" the guy or not may have a lot more to do with her than with you. Sometimes she's approached, but not necessarily looking, and other times, although you're a nice guy, you simply might not be "her type."

I hope I haven't confused you more than necessary, but in my mind, the only real answer I feel confident giving you is "it depends"...

In essence I think you're best off just being you (forget about what she may or may not be sensing about you) and go into "the dating scene" knowing some will respond well and to those who who don't, well ya move on to the next...

XOXO