Question for the lers...

[BionicFingers]

when meeting a person you find attractive and may like to tickle someday, or even just looking at someone and thinking "hmm, I wonder if they're ticklish", does it take the fun out of it for you, knowing that most people don't like to be tickled? I mean down the line if they get to know you and like you, they might tolerate it to make you happy. Or at the very least they might tolerate it in small doses as long as you don't "overdo it". But chances are not good that you will ever hear them say "oh wow, that was so much fun!" or anything like that. Is it enough for you if your partner(s) just tolerate it because they know you like it? I know, what choice do we have? But when you think of it that way, does it take the fun out of it for you? Maybe I need to stop thinking of it that way...lol

 

[MrTicklefeet]

I agree. You maybe need to stop thinking of it that way.
You never know what you got till you get there.

 

[BMoreTklr]

Definitely kills the fun if they're just tolerating it to appease me. Been exposed to those now who LOVE it and I can't go back.

 

[Maestro1874]

Yes, there's definitely a difference between a willing ticklee and a wanting ticklee.

 

[thetmfobserver]

Agreed. My lady is a willing ticklee, and I love her to death for it, but its not the same as someone who truly loves and desires it.

 

[texastickler]

I would be miserable knowint my lee was just tolerating me. If the person I engaged in a tickling session is not enjoying herself also, the whole point of having the session is a bust.

 

[TKL_Rebel]

thats true and it does take the fun out of it when i have tickled girls that say they hate it but as far as girl friends go, all but one have been converted to the dark side 😛 even managed to get one to have a 'ticklegasm' (without any playing with the downstairs area before hand) on regular ocassions through her ribs 😛

 

[Phineas]

But chances are not good that you will ever hear them say "oh wow, that was so much fun!" or anything like that.

...you'd be surprised.

 

[Ticklish9's]

...you'd be surprised.

^^^ Yes, exactly. Very surprised.


You'd be surprised how many people somehow completely miss this website but still love tickling as much as we do. For others, it may not even occur to them to look - there are a lot of people who like tickling but not to the extent that we do.

 

[ElFewja]

Have to agree; I don't think it's as uncommon as we think. Really, you just need to do it right; if you're doing it right it should be fun for both parties. It's not even necessarily about the tickling half of the time: power, control, bondage, all of those things.

I've been told by a girl I used to tickle that she didn't like it, but she never asked me to stop/demanded it either. But I do think the hardest thing to get past is that initial, potentially horrifying, set of experiences that the other individual might have undergone; that bad taste associated with tickling, so to speak. Which is why you have to do it right.

It really isn't all that hard.

But then, I might just have been really lucky with all of my relationships, as some of the other posters seem to be saying (to me indirectly).

Etc~

 

[b0xr]

Agreed. My lady is a willing ticklee, and I love her to death for it, but its not the same as someone who truly loves and desires it.

This is our situation exactly

 

[Em Es]

You mean, "most people don't like to be tickled" by most people

BionicFingers, if an attractive girl who might me like isn't ticklish, that is hard to tolerate!

Regarding those who are ticklish, when someone says they don't like to be tickled, the literal translation is, "I don't like it when you tickle me." If pleasing you matters enough, she will put up with it and maybe learn to like it.