Question regarding the fetish

[mass1926]

Does anyone out there ever wonder what their life would've been like if they didn't spend a great deal of time indulging in their fetish? Now, I know that many people on here balance it out well with other parts of their life, but this is more geared towards those of you like myself who probably spend way too much of your free time searching ticklign websites and the forum. In fact I'd go as far as to say that overindulging in my fetish is a good reason why I quit college in my early 20's as well as ruined a great relationship with my longtime girlfriend at that time in my life. I literally became addicted to to fetish sites much like a porn addiction, and my inability to control my urges cost me the beginning stages of my adult years. I cant even add up how much my credit card bills got too on fetish memberships and clips. I fell pretty deeply into debt. I went from a straight A high school student with lots of promise to a college dropout that couldnt hold onto a job for nearly a 5 year span of my life. I am 27 now and trying to pull it all together. I am back in college doing well, and also stuck with a job for the last few years, but I still struggle with the ability to not indulge in my fetish every free moment of time that I have.

I often wonder if I would have more ambition and maybe have led a more productive life had I stayed away from my fetish. I have tried many times in my 8 years since I discovered fetish sites to just stop and move on, but the urges just pull me back in. I realize this name says i joined recently, but I went by another name for many years before I forgot the password and made up a new name. Does anyone else have this problem and wonder the same things?

 

[Soda Bobinski]

I coulda had class.

I coulda been a contender.

I coulda been somebody ... instead of a bum ..... which is what I am.


🙁

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Nope, I got my shit together.

You should probably see somebody about that though.

 

[English]

Some of the best advice I was ever given was that if you want to be happy then you should work out what it is that you love to do and then find a way of getting paid for it. I mean I would love to run my own tickle fetish site and I can definitely see that happening in the future but up until now, running a fetish accessories business has been the best career move I ever made because that is what I am happy doing. If you spend your money on fetish sites then why not make money from them instead? I wish you the best of luck mate.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

I wouldn't procrastinate as much. That's all I know.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Ah, them Nobel Prizes and Oscars and Grammys are way overrated anyway. Just more stuff to dust, and my feather duster has more important work to do. 😉 Whether in a career, relationship or having a family, you have to be ready willing and able to pay your dues. You need some me time too for balance, but ususally the harder you work the luckier you will get.

 

[Morpheus72]

Does anyone out there ever wonder what their life would've been like if they didn't spend a great deal of time indulging in their fetish? Now, I know that many people on here balance it out well with other parts of their life, but this is more geared towards those of you like myself who probably spend way too much of your free time searching ticklign websites and the forum. In fact I'd go as far as to say that overindulging in my fetish is a good reason why I quit college in my early 20's as well as ruined a great relationship with my longtime girlfriend at that time in my life. I literally became addicted to to fetish sites much like a porn addiction, and my inability to control my urges cost me the beginning stages of my adult years. I cant even add up how much my credit card bills got too on fetish memberships and clips. I fell pretty deeply into debt. I went from a straight A high school student with lots of promise to a college dropout that couldnt hold onto a job for nearly a 5 year span of my life. I am 27 now and trying to pull it all together. I am back in college doing well, and also stuck with a job for the last few years, but I still struggle with the ability to not indulge in my fetish every free moment of time that I have.

I often wonder if I would have more ambition and maybe have led a more productive life had I stayed away from my fetish. I have tried many times in my 8 years since I discovered fetish sites to just stop and move on, but the urges just pull me back in. I realize this name says i joined recently, but I went by another name for many years before I forgot the password and made up a new name. Does anyone else have this problem and wonder the same things?

This was pretty much the story of my life from 98 to 03. That being said, for me, if it wouldn't have been tickling sites and searches, it would have been something else. I actually dropped out of college, after a promising HS career, in 1994. For about 10 years, I didn't really want to do anything productive, and I really didn't. As with you, deep debt and losing a long-time girlfriend came along for the ride.

What led me to lead a more productive life was necessity. I was living away from home and I had no money. I was depressed and such, so I talked to my father, who said simply, "Get a job, you'll feel better". After an adjustment period, I did indeed become happier. There's something to be said for supporting yourself and living as an adult, on one's own.

I am certainly not in as deep with this tickling stuff as you are, but I hope you can take this advice. Moderation, even with a fetish as strong as you have, is the appropriate path in most things. Put more simply -- I assume you're an adult if you're on this site; act like one, and get your sh*t together. That advice worked for me, and it'll probably work for you.

 

[ChicagoDavid]

I'm no expert, but if you feel so compelled to consume a good or service that it messes up the rest of your life, that sounds like addiction. If you were into "vanilla" stuff, you could as easily be addicted to vanilla porn. Or alcohol, or shopping . . .

I'd look at it from that angle, and work toward a solution. A counselor might make sense. It's nothing to be ashamed of, just an important issue to be dealt with.

Good luck!

 

[lzamora]

Hey man, the best advice I can give you is to get rid of these open doors. If it werent for the internet I never would have discovered any of this. If this world is colliding with your life in such an impact, you should try to lock all doors that lead you this way. When Im outta town or just out of reach of my computer, there is no temptation, because I know there is nothing I can do about it. Hope this helps, but Im not a phycologist.

 

[pfromptown]

I'm younger than you (22) but have recently gone through everything you have said except the breakup thing (Which hopefully won't happen), so heavy debts, have dropped out etc. My demise came through another addiction than tickling however: pot. I became quite seriously reliant on pot for a good two year period but managed to snap out of it by realising that it didn't have to be my everything. I still smoke, but generally save it for shitty times and times of great stress (So usually after work). When things are going good, there's no need for vices. That's what I learned and it's stood me in good stead.