Ooooh...i like these questions. i have to write essays on them, lol.
Reality so far as we commonly take it cannot be proven nor disproven to objectively exist, for our only direct understanding of it comes from our sensory experience, such as sight, touch, smell etc. Now, the problem with this is that until these little bits of "sense data" reach our brain, the're something quite alien to us indeed: Colour, for example, is but a lightwave of a certain frequency, and remains so even as it hits our retina and travels down our optic nerve towards the brain. Somehow, though, the second your brain receives the data, it interperates this into the something that we can identify better with: In this case, the colour red.
In case you haven't guessed it yet, what I'm trying to get at is the fact that colour does not exist in objective reality...its our brains visual code for interpreting reality. If we didn't exist, neither would Red. The frequency that causes us to see red would exist still, because *thats* independant to our own existance, but thats it.
Now the same theory can be applied to other senses...touch is an electronic pulse of sorts that travels through the nervious system, and and when it reaches the brain it become a sensation of rough or smooth, hard or soft, etc from which we can then more easely understand and react with. Its commonly called the Veil of Perception: That which we experience of the world is like an imitation of it which we can never bypass, because its so rooted into how we perceive anything full stop.
Tickleme was kinda there when she distinguished reality into two groups: So far as standard opinion goes, we tend to look at any given object in reality, and place its properties into two distinct and seperate groups: Primary and Secondary. Basicaly put, an objects primary properties are those that we can explain through maths and physics: That being its mass, weight, height etc. They exist independantly of our experience of them, and they constitute what objective reality really is. Its Secondary properties are those qualities that come into play when we are directly experiencing them, so thats things like its colour, texture, and the sound it makes, if any. Obviously, these are only exist when we are there, expereincing the object with our senses, but they count as apart of the object in a distanced sense because they cause them to happen (kinda).
I hope thats not too vague, and I hope that helps a little with your understanding 🙂
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