Reality vs Fantasy

[TklDuo-Ann]

LOL Smug furry bastard, eh Wolfie? Good to see you posting. It's been a while. Not that I've been very active of late with life's craziness.

I neglected to check back in on this thread after being away. So, I'd like to point out a couple things to clear up any misunderstandings about the motive of this thread...in case there are any out there. I tried to make clear in the initial post that this is not something that I'm making any judgments on. I wouldn't have a right to do so anyway. I don't see fantasy as being a negative thing. I was just curious about where people were coming from in what they chose to post...or not post. Perhaps a bit of a story on my part will help clear up where I'm coming from.

In the early days of my realizing that I had a "thing" for tickling (I won't get into terms for it since folks tend to debate that as well.), nearly everything was fantasy based. If I liked someone...not necessarily on a romantic level...I would tend to fantasize about having tickle fun with them. I had plenty of innocent playful real life fun with relatives and friends. But, the fantasy tended to be more fun for me at times....mainly because it went beyond what my real life experiences were. It didn't cross into anything sexual since that happens to not be my interest in it. But, it did go beyond the simple playful tickle fights to more intense sessions.

Over time, I wanted those fantasies more and more. They never disappointed me. I always got as much tickling as I wanted...because I controlled the fantasy. Even when I was dating a guy who was into tickling, I prefered the fantasy. I was always less than impressed with the ability of real life situations to fulfill the intensity I was looking for. So, rather than be disappointed, I often stuck with the fantasy. It became more enjoyable, more important, more everything.

Then, Drew came along. Here was someone as into it as I was. Here was someone with whom I could dare to share my deepest tickling desires. And, you know what? Real life is better after all! I'll still play around with online fun and fantasy a bit at times. But, it doesn't equal what I have in reality.

Why am I sharing this? Well, I guess it's to encourage those for whom fantasy is still most or all of what you have to enjoy. If, like I was, you're hesitant to give real life experiences a chance, I'd encourage you to take that step. Hey! If it doesn't work out the way you want, the fantasy is still there. If it DOES turn out the way you want, you've just taken a big step to having even more fun with your love of tickling.

For those who may be thinking, "Yeah. But you're a girl. It's easy for you." keep in mind that Drew contacted ME, not the other way around. There ARE other women out there who love tickling as much as we do. They may even be lurking around here watching for the right guy to show himself. If you make yourself known for who you are, you might be pleasantly surprised.

OK, now I'm starting to ramble. So, I'll shut up. I just wanted to lend a bit of encouragement to this thread to get it back on the intended track.

Ann

 

[BLUE_THUNDER]

ann's right

ann hit it right on target, if you dont put yourself out there your chances of anything "real" are pretty much nil. once you've been shot down a couple times its not that big a deal anyhow. but if you want reality over fantasy, you have to try. peace.........BLUE_THUNDER




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[Strider]

I've posted a couple things, and if one of the people I've played with here makes a reference to something, I'll usually make one back; but in general, I don't share things unless prompted.

 

[luv2tcklprklyua]

I am a newbie here, so remember as you go through this, that I have no reference point from whence this forum came. At the point in time that I entered the forum, about a week or so ago, give or take, this is normalcy from my perspective so far. But perhaps some might benifit from these comments, at the very least, they can provide another angle on the subject. Believing that we can rid ourselves of the "garbage" ( and I have observed much even in such a short time on the forum) this kind of site invites?....now there is a real "fantasy". Consider this with me for a moment,..."The Garden", in the beginning, the absolute most "perfect" place, where the least amount of negativity had opportunity to enter, and where the very least amount of influence (only three parties involved then: God, man, and woman) on the interaction existed....still, "smut" found a way in to ruin the environment. If smut cannot be exile from the level of even the most perfect environment, we will not be rid of it here either, (especially here in this environment with the content we're dealing with...IMHO). Now, I'm not of a fatalist perspective, throwing my hands in the air saying, "...oh well, if we can't reach our goal, what is the point in trying",...I am NOT saying that at all, let me make that clear! As long as we keep shooting at a high target, (....we keep striving for improvement, and I purposely use the word "striving" as opposed to "trying" because I think striving has a stronger connotation about not giving up,...just throwing that little bit of perspective in the mix for free) we can acheive a higher standard, coming closer and closer to the bullseye!
In essence, we can repair old walls, even build new ones, change the boundaries, (...yes, these are things we can control), but, we cannot control the one thing that I see, as the root of the problem,....ones personal choice to "demonstrate" unshakable prudence in good judgement and impeccable integrity in the choices they make. A good paralell to consider to illusrate what I'm saying is the world of technology. Despite all the safegaurds, firewalls, and whatever's (can you tell I'm not a "tech-ie?) to ensure a good safe, and clean environment for users to enjoy, "hackers" still find ways to get through all of that to ruin the enviroment for everyone because of their relentless and incessant desire to be that "bad seed" (....and it stems from their personal choice, purposing to be that way). The harsh "reality" is that we can't dig deep enough to extract the root of the problem, but we can keep striving against such, as valiant warriors do!!! Hey Wolf, you don't mind that I borrowed your soap-box a minite or two do 'ya?

Be encouraged!

Jef