Really desperate!!

[Nuciferyne]

I'm not sure if there's an appropriate area to post this, so if I'm posting in the wrong forum or something I shouldn't, I apologize to the mods. I'm just panicked and really trying anything I can.

The lengthy explanation can be found on my tumblr blog post, here: http://nuciferyne.tumblr.com/post/91086934080/eviction-notice
(Not using URL formatting because I want people to see it's a legit link.)

The jist of it is, due to health complications for well over a year now, my boyfriend (of 10 years) has been disabled. The procedure needed to fix this is happening at the end of July, so everything should start getting better in August.... unfortunately, we're going to be evicted on Tuesday the 15th if I can't somehow come up with rent... and that means we have to be out by the end of the month.


I'll elaborate a bit more here, so it'll still be shorter than that post:
I am unable to do much in the ways of lifting thanks to being born with scoliosis (and further damage added by car accidents, yippee). However I've been working my ass off doing everything I can job wise, taking artwork commissions, applying for second jobs, etc, at a constant -- all the while trying my hardest to fix my own health while taking care of him full time. He's still waiting on a disability decision, we've applied for interim assistance, we've taken out 401k, any loans we had, exhausted our savings...we don't have anything left to really sell. If I sold my computer I would lose two sources of income so that'd actually make things WORSE. We don't even have a couch to sell anymore... ;__;

I'm truly in a desperate bind here, and I just don't know what else to do. Homeless assistance can't help due to there being a freeze on it this month for budgeting, and my income isn't high enough to qualify anyway. Odd that it's /too low/ but can't argue the facts.

I don't have any family, and his family won't help us (they'll give him a couch to crash on but I'm shit out of luck... which is pretty sucky considering I've done nothing but try my best for everyone but that's a whole other topic). I'm honestly pretty terrified of living in a homeless shelter or on the streets, it's frightening enough as is but I have the worst luck apparently... I'm allergic to the sun. So it's probably going to especially dangerous.

So I'm freaking out and going anywhere and everywhere I can to ask for advice. There's been some kind people who have donated to try and help pay, and some who have commissioned artwork. But unfortunately, I'm still short. :s

Does anyone have any advice or experience in something like this? Anything serious is appreciated. If you're willing to commission me or want to donate a little, I have info on that tumblr thread, and I also have a thread here on the forums about commissions: http://www.tickletheater.com/showthread.php?p=710021#post710021


I dunno I hate begging and pleading because I don't like bothering people but I just don't know what else to do right now.

 

[matnor]

Well this must be very hard On you, I'm praying for you and your boyfriend , maybe you can live with a friend or something..? Try to sell other stuff, like clothing, you could maybe make some stuff and sell it at ebay? , or give private leassons in something you are good at.. i really feel for you and you should know I'm impressed by your bravoury. Best of luck

 

[NicholasA1]

How short are you on rent money? Just out of curiosity.

 

[dalekfire]

Sent you a PM.

I support what Noor16 said. Ask around - there may be someone here at the Theater who is close enough to lend some living space until you've got the money situation handled. I'd also try looking around the community, perhaps a local church, as some people there may be able to help in proactive ways as well.

This is undoubtfully a stressful time for you, but remember to keep your head clear of too much negativity or despair, because then a solution may be found easier. As mentioned numerous times, please keep us updated on things, and don't forget about your friends, as we can offer all the support that we can, even if only emotionally.

 

[Nuciferyne]

@Noor16 Thank you for the encouragement and input. Unfortunately, I've only lived in this state for just over the year I've been spending just about 24/7 taking care of him. So while I've befriended some co-workers, most of them are college students living in dorms or have grandchildren and such to take care of. My friends are all at least 8-12 hours away... v_v; So even though they would definitely let me stay there it's getting there that's just about impossible. I've pleaded my case with the landlord and am just really, really hoping he will work with us. I do have an appointment with the woman in charge of the homeless prevention deal on Monday but she doesn't think I'll be getting assistance. She does plan to show me some different landlords around town though, maybe something will come out of that... just hoping for something to happen. T__T

Thank you though! For the thoughts and the encouragement!

@NicholasA1 For July, we're short around $250 (but that's out of $750). We owe June too, but he doesn't have much of an issue if we're only one month behind since he has our month's security deposit to fall back on. :\
(I want to get completely caught up, but one milestone at a time).

@Dalekfire Thank you for all of the support and encouragement! I really appreciate it, I really do. I hate putting this stuff out there because I know what it's like to want to help people but you can only really provide the morale support, you know? It never feels like enough for me when I'm in that position I always just want to take their pain away T__T

But it really means a lot to me to know people care and worry about me. Especially throughout all this. Thank you all so much and I will try to keep everyone informed.

 

[TKLVR181]

We absolutely care.

I honestly wish I could do more than just pray for you, but right now we're in a bad financial situation ourselves. You're on my mind and in my prayers, and definitely keep us posted. I wish I had great ideas like Dalek and Noor, but I couldn't have put them better myself. I once made a hundred bucks selling my percentage of a family garage sale, but that's as far as I've ever gone with making my own money.

Keep us updated, come to us for moral support because that's what this community...nay family is all about 🙂

~K

 

[Nuciferyne]

We absolutely care.

I honestly wish I could do more than just pray for you, but right now we're in a bad financial situation ourselves. You're on my mind and in my prayers, and definitely keep us posted. I wish I had great ideas like Dalek and Noor, but I couldn't have put them better myself. I once made a hundred bucks selling my percentage of a family garage sale, but that's as far as I've ever gone with making my own money.

Keep us updated, come to us for moral support because that's what this community...nay family is all about 🙂

~K

Thank you ;__; And I appreciate even just the care and prayers, it means a lot to me! <3

 

[knicks255]

I know it sucks, but you might have to ask some friends for a loan or something. Or send in a request to a welfare agency, charity, or something like that. In addition, maybe try some sort of fundraising website. It's a long shot, but desperate times and all that.

Best of luck.

 

[Nuciferyne]

I know it sucks, but you might have to ask some friends for a loan or something. Or send in a request to a welfare agency, charity, or something like that. In addition, maybe try some sort of fundraising website. It's a long shot, but desperate times and all that.

Best of luck.

I appreciate those suggestions -- unfortunately, I've already done all that. ^^;
Tried Gofundme and Fundly, been asking for extra commissions, things of that nature. Applied for interim assistance (which is like welfare, only you pay it back after your SSDI arrives), we're basically just waiting on all that to come through. It's our landlord that's not willing to wait. 🙁

I've wracked my brain trying to figure out more things we can do, even contacted the homelessness prevention deal -- which is the one that said I didn't make enough. She's still going to meet with me on Monday and perhaps help me find a cheaper place to rent or something, so I'm hoping that pans out if nothing else. That's why I'm pretty desperate for advice and anything at this point, because I just don't know what else to try.

Thanks though!

 

[dalekfire]

It's good to know that you have plans for after the month's rent is hopefully paid, for we wouldn't want to see you in the same situation a month from now. o.o That it's more a timing issue, I hope that you're able to make the mark and then hopefully things will slide into place a bit easier in the months to come.

May be a bit late to try this if you haven't met your current month's goal yet, but perhaps this'll help for future rent if you and your boyfriend are able to find a place with cheaper rent and move in. Some people in the neighborhood may be open to paying you for helping out with small tasks - mowing a lawn or cleaning something up for them or something, nothing that is permanent, but just one-time jobs that they'll be willing to pay you for. Well I guess anything outside will be hard as you have the sun allergy (my mom has the same allergy, so I know how crappy that can be at times >.<). But you never know what people might think up to help you out, if you can manage to knock on their doors and ask - especially if the immediate goal is to help you along until the SSDI thing kicks in or funds start to balance out.

Also, if you still have your computer and internet access, there's always online turk jobs you can try. The pay might not be much, but if you have the time to spare, it might at least ensure that you both have food in your tummies or some extra gas money.

Keep up hope! You'll both pull through this!

 

[MistressValerie1]

This forum helps identify reputable Turk jobs: http://www.mturkforum.com/

The good writing jobs there have dried up, but some people say they have made decent money doing transcription. Doing surveys there pays about $4/hour, which may or may not be worth your time.

Best of luck!

 

[Nuciferyne]

Keep up hope! You'll both pull through this!

While I'm sorry to hear your mother has this allergy, it's also... not sure the word I'm looking for, I don't want to say it's "nice" to hear but it's reassuring I guess? To know someone else knows what I mean. Most people I say it to are like "You're joking, you can't be allergic to the sun" or just crack jokes about me being a vampire. Admittedly I joke about it too now, because it was easier going with that than some of the other stuff. "You're just using that as an excuse to stay inside."

I rambled quite a lot in that PM, so I'll just let you read that for the rest. But thanks for all the suggestions! With all the work I'm already doing I don't really have much time, but I will definitely check them out and maybe Caliburn can do some of them too. 🙂

This forum helps identify reputable Turk jobs: http://www.mturkforum.com/

The good writing jobs there have dried up, but some people say they have made decent money doing transcription. Doing surveys there pays about $4/hour, which may or may not be worth your time.

Best of luck!

Ahh, thank you very much! <3

 

[Cryptic71]

This is a duplicate post, but... Well... It needs to go here. Might end up being a deciding factor. Best to be safe and suggest as many options as possible in these situations.

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Oh my... Hmm... Well. If I had to throw out a suggestion, I'd recommend going to Newgrounds, finding a programmer, or writer in need of an artist, and offer your services. Maybe they'd be willing to pay you to create art assets for games. There's a whole page devoted to teaming up with other developers.

http://www.newgrounds.com/collab/browse/artist/everyone/1
P.S. That link seems to time out after a while. If it does, go to Newgrounds.com, then under the "Games" drop-down, click on "Team up," and change the boxes to say "I am an artist, seeking everyone". That should get you to where you need to be.

I'm absolutely certain that you can find some work around here.


I hope everything works out okay. 🙂

[EDIT]
Hmm. Just had another, much riskier idea.

Go find a programmer, musician, and writer, get a good concept for a game going, and submit it to kickstarter. It's much more of a commitment, but it could yield much larger returns if you can all pull it off.

 

[Nuciferyne]

@Cryptic7 Thank you for the suggestion, I'll definitely have to look around!

Update on the situation;

Yay! I managed to earn just enough for a month's rent, which prevented the eviction.
Boo! Rent's due again on the 1st so here we go again... x__x;;

Hubby had his cryo-ablation done, and he's still really sore and miserable... but his pain "feels different". It's more dull and achey than sharp and sudden, that's a good sign I hope! ;__; *optimism*

I'm still offering commissions and accepting any assistance via Paypal though, to those who are interested. Paypal is [email protected], which is also my email if anyone would prefer to discuss a commission there or something. (I got a few nice orders from people here, at least... I think you guys were members haha thank you so much I'm still working!) Otherwise, feel free to PM here I'm checking them every few days at least!

But I wanted to stop by and update you guys and thank everyone for all the support. You guys are really awesome. ;__; <33

Edit: You can see some example works and my prices either in my forum in the artist's pad here, or via the link in my siggy. 😀