Relationship Question (girlfriend not into tickling)

[giggle-maker]

Here's a test for ya...if tickling someone other than your GF isn't cheating, would you tickle a guy?





...didn't think so...

 

[drew70]

RE: It's not that black and white

I love my wife very much and would never even think of leaving her, but she also is not into tickling (or much of anything else for that matter). I could not get a massage, go to a movie, or even have cup of coffee with another female without my wife being at least concerned about it. So I usually don't tell her when something I know will upset her happens, but I don't hide it either.

To say that this is cheating is like calling someone a liar when they tell the cook the worst food they have ever tasted is good.

Very well said. Many here want to define cheating as "anything you do about which you'd prefer your significant other not to know." It's a load of bollocks, if I may be permitted to use one of Headsnap's favorite expressions. Do you tell your wife or husband everytime you see somebody at the office who inspires R-rated imaginings?

There is a far more reasonable system for determining what's acceptable. Make an effort to consider how you'd feel of the roles were switched. If you are considering whether any particular activity is cool with females other than your significant other, you must determine how YOU would feel if she were to engage in that very activity with other men. If you can honestly say it wouldn't bother you, than there's no double standard and you are good to go. She may feel differently, and it might be a good idea to talk about it, but only if she is reasonable. If not, than it's probably better not to bring it up, because once you AGREE to her terms, you're basically fucked.

 

[Icycle]

When LindyHopper and I first got together, I had no idea she was into tickling and I was a rather vanilla person. Luckily for her, I am also a rather liberal and open-minded person. When she did come out to me as a ticklephile, it didn't bother me at all, and I incorporated tickling into our play. But In our case, I because I'm not a 'ler, I can't really fulfill her tickling desires the way a true ticklephile can, so we regularly attend tickle gatherings together and she has private tickle play sessions with people who can really tickle her.

If this is someone that you really love and trust, and someone that you want and expect to stay in a long term relationship with, then you really need to be open about how important tickling is to you. It sounds like she's already willing to incorporate tickling into your sexual play. Can you talk to her to see if there is anything she could do differently to make it more fulfilling for you? For people who aren't ticklephiles, it isn't necessarily intuitive what a ticklephile wants. Would she be willing to attend a tickle gathering with you, where should could see others tickling, and maybe even allow you to participate? If she won't or can't fulfill your tickling needs herself, might she be willing to let you engage in tickle play with others? That option doesn't work for everyone, but it does work quite well for Lindy and me.

I would urge you not to engage in private tickle play sessions without your partner's knowledge or consent. Regardless of whether you call it "cheating" or not, you already know your partner will get angry when she finds out.

 

[tcklft]

There is a far more reasonable system for determining what's acceptable. Make an effort to consider how you'd feel of the roles were switched. If you are considering whether any particular activity is cool with females other than your significant other, you must determine how YOU would feel if she were to engage in that very activity with other men. If you can honestly say it wouldn't bother you, than there's no double standard and you are good to go. She may feel differently, and it might be a good idea to talk about it, but only if she is reasonable. If not, than it's probably better not to bring it up, because once you AGREE to her terms, you're basically fucked.

Wow, that's a great system. Just do what you want to do w/o your gf's input. I mean, it's not like she's part of the relationship or anything. If she finds out and gets upset, just tell her she's being unreasonable and you didn't want to be fucked over by her terms. I'd try it myself if I were able to tolerate anyone lame enough to accept such shitty treatment.

 

[LuckyAndre]

I'm not gonna bite my tongue. I say: LEAVE. If you gotta second guess, there is a problem. If you can't be upfront and honest about what your thrill is...then your going to wind up cheating somewhere down the line. Women will think just about ANYTHING you do with another woman (besides regular work/on the job type stuff) will be CHEATING! Imagine when she puts 2 + 2 together to realize that SHE isnt into being tickled, and YOU got caught with another woman ONLY TICKLING? Oh the humanity. You WILL catch hell. GUARANTEED! When you get caught, and the flames are spewing from her lips about how "evil" you are and "betrayed" the relationship...AND she leaves you...guess what? You will STILL have your lust for tickling. Its IN you. You can't erase it. You will continue to seek and search for THE one that will allow you to enjoy your fetish for tickling. Embrace it and enjoy it my friend.

 

[nuno]

My Wife Dont Have Ticlkes

My wife do not have tickles... it's by big frustration... i can't have it anymore...can someone help us?? how can i transform her into a ticklish person?? There any medicin?? an operatition?? Please if someone can help me please say it?? My marriage depends on it!

 

[tcklft]

My wife do not have tickles... it's by big frustration... i can't have it anymore...can someone help us?? how can i transform her into a ticklish person?? There any medicin?? an operatition?? Please if someone can help me please say it?? My marriage depends on it!

Okay: "It."

 

[ThymeHBF]

I'm not gonna bite my tongue. I say: LEAVE. If you gotta second guess, there is a problem. If you can't be upfront and honest about what your thrill is...then your going to wind up cheating somewhere down the line. Women will think just about ANYTHING you do with another woman (besides regular work/on the job type stuff) will be CHEATING! Imagine when she puts 2 + 2 together to realize that SHE isnt into being tickled, and YOU got caught with another woman ONLY TICKLING? Oh the humanity. You WILL catch hell. GUARANTEED! When you get caught, and the flames are spewing from her lips about how "evil" you are and "betrayed" the relationship...AND she leaves you...guess what? You will STILL have your lust for tickling. Its IN you. You can't erase it. You will continue to seek and search for THE one that will allow you to enjoy your fetish for tickling. Embrace it and enjoy it my friend.

Thank you for just being honest with him and not dogging him for asking...I feel that is part of what this site is for...