Relationship question...

[Bizkit]

I have come to the realization that in order be truly happy in a relationship the person I am with has to share my feelings about tickling.Call me close minded but for me it has to be that way.I have tried dating girls not into it and it just flat out doesn't work.I work a lot and just don't have time to go and meet a lot of people and over the years I have convinced myself that I am happier alone then to be with someone that I don't connect with.
What I want to know is how many people would stay in a relationship that really isn't working for them just to avoid being alone?I do feel close minded at times and have become content with being alone but that's not really what I want.Lately it has become quite the frusterating situation.

 

[GarreleFeet]

Mate, love isn't based upon interests; it's based upon fate. You and your soulmate were made together in Heaven and said, "Find me on the other side," when you took the plunge. It's a matter of patience, wisdom, and passion. Ticklephile or not, she's just waiting to be found. Never get into a relationship to escape loneliness; have patience.

Praying for you, mate.

 

[Sammy Scales]

Relationships

Ryan,

Well let's see...

1. You are unhappy unless your partner shares your interest in tickling.

2. You're happier alone than being with someone you don't connect with.

3. But being alone is really not what you want.

The first answer to this that comes to mind is... find a lady who has the same interest... I know that's not an easy task, even more so for us guys... But if you can't be content with one who is not into your fetish, what's your choice?

Of course, if you're more of a conventional dater, there needs to be a connection first... If things seems to be clicking between you and your new girlfriend, then bring it up to her... be confident about your passion for it when explaining and, if she is truely connecting with you, she will have interest...

However, my advice would be to use and think about every resource possible to help you seek someone who already shares your interests...


Be patient and it will eventually happen for you!

 

[dskodj]

I have come to the realization that in order be truly happy in a relationship the person I am with has to share my feelings about tickling.Call me close minded but for me it has to be that way.I have tried dating girls not into it and it just flat out doesn't work.I work a lot and just don't have time to go and meet a lot of people and over the years I have convinced myself that I am happier alone then to be with someone that I don't connect with.

Not close minded at all my friend. Im half with ya on what you said and kinda half not. The half not is the person in a relationship has to ACCEPT the tickling fetish and care to learn about it as its part of me if they wanna be with me in that way if they arnt into it or know nothing about it.

Also, its not all about tickling...im with you on the bit about being happier alone than with someone you dont connect with..hence, why ive been single since August...and will probably remain that way for a while. With truely connecting with that special someone, tickling should be the least of your issues. I mean, as long as they are open to it, it should be all good.

The things you should be looking at are, is the person on your same wave length mentally, are they on the same page as you with life, do you think alike, do you have simmaler interests, can you confide in this person and be able to have a best friend like friendship along with the other...those are some of the things you need to be most worried about. Cause so what, they may be into tickling...but if thats it, thats all you have in common...your gonna be just as miserable.

 

[Bizkit]

Thanks for the thoughts guys.Dskodj,I agree with you on the point you made about tickling being the only common factor probably won't work either in a relationship.From what I have read and experienced it seems that people that have any fetish tend to have more difficult times finding a fulfilling relationship.I'm not saying all people but a good majority.Again,thanks for the replies. 🙂

 

[Iris]

well here is my feeling ....

Hey there...
I myself am in a marriage where not only does my husband not know about my tickling interest, which living a tickle free life is KILLING me.. but we really don't have much in common at all............ so don't get stuck in a relationship that doesn't fulfill your needs like I did.........be alone and one day the right mate for you will come along.............be patient!!!!!! peace ~Iris

 

[Jhod09]

wait!

I completly agree with Iris... I had a relation with someone who was in tickling and it was really great... now I'm with someone who doesn' understand why I need that, and for sure I'm not in a relation that make me full happy... so wait and found the real good one for you .

 

[SapphireRose]

From a Different Perspective

I had no idea that this sort of thing existed. Finding someone who has at least some of the same interests that you do is important, especially in the category of "can't live without." Had you asked me a few months ago about needing to be tickled for a healthy relationship, I probably would have laughed at you...

My relationship with Viper has been nothing but a rollercoaster ride!!! But it is one that I have been thoroughly enjoying. One thing is for certain though, I don't think I could ever go back to having a "normal relationship" if ever we split.

Keep searching. Being alone does suck. Humans are social creatures. That one person that will fill that void is around here somewhere, you just have to find them. Or maybe even stumble upon them!

 

[susannah355]

I love tickling and being tickled but I can't imagine basing an entire relationship on that. There is so much more to a relationship. Other like and dislikes, sexual compatibility, feelings on raising children. I hope things work out for you.

 

[MrPartickler]

Ryan23's concerns aren't unique. And whenever it comes up, there seems to be a tendency to assume that when someone decides tickling is too important to do without in a relationship that what they really want is to base their future relationship(s) on it. I don't think that's really what's being expressed. It's far too extreme.

For example, while (hopefully) few of us think sex is something upon which to base a relationship, I also suspect few of us also would enjoy a relationship where sex was nonexistent--or even one in which it was abysmally bad. I believe that for many of us the same applies for tickling. So I don't get the impression that ryan desires a relationship that is "based on tickling." However, he simply realizes it's important enough to be one of his "must haves" in within it. ...and don't most of us have more than just one of those necessary criteria anyway?

 

[tickleshotel]

Ryan , I understand where you are coming from..I have a major passion for tickling and I have had relationships where the tickling was little or non existent and the relationship was great in other ways but the lack of tickling broke the camels back . I stayed in the relationship making sacrifices,trying to compromise while my partner at the time was set in his ways.

Now , I know what I want and tickling is not the most important need,compatibility but it is a Deal Breaker if it isn't there .

 

[Bizkit]

It's like I don't want to base everything on tickling by any means but it just feels like that person wouldn't understand me unless they see it the way I do.That's how I percieve it.I hate to put so much emphasis on it when it comes to relationships but that's the way it's gonna be I guess.We'll see what happens.

 

[ticklerNI]

I hate to put so much emphasis on it when it comes to relationships but that's the way it's gonna be I guess.

ryan23 if tickling is so important to you, never be afraid to put emphasis on it!!! its who you are, any potential partner will have to accept this or there is no point. YOU have to be comfortable in a relationship or it wont work- trust me!! bn ther and done that my friend; iv never had a decent relationship with any girl who cant accept my need 2 tickle

gd luck with any decision u make!!

 

[WorkInProgress]

The suggestion that I would make is of a different variety, to complement the other ideas that are floating around here. The way I look at it, only you can decide what you need in a relationship, and it wouldn't make sense for you to be in any relationship where you feel as if you're settling or making allowances for anything, but indeed it gets lonely when you're not in one. My suggestion would be that you try to make your life busier with activities that bring you into contact with lots of people who share common interests with you, in order to accomplish two things: take your mind off how lonely it is not to have met your soulmate, and increase the chances of finding that soulmate. But I do want to emphasize, finding the right one is a matter of luck, and you can't make it happen, so even while you strategize to increase the odds, you should still strategize to be more patient about it while you wait. Incidentally, these are all things that I'm trying to figure out how to do myself.