Relationships and tickling

[Giacomo_Corto]

Hey there, my second thread.

My last thread has raised another question I felt deserved a thread of its own (mods feel free to merge if you wish 😀 )

Can someone who has a full tickling fetish (cannot orgasm without tickling) be absolutely happy with someone who does not have a tickling fetish?


Anyone here in such a happy relationship? How does it work for you?

Cheers

 

[voided9]

For me personally, I don't think it could ever work. Because a sexual connection is very important in a lasting relationship (for MOST people)... and tickling, for me, is necessary for me to be aroused. I can't have sex without it - I tried once, it was miserable, no fun whatsoever. So, I don't know about other people but for myself, I would have to have a partner who would indulge my fetish at least in some way.

Very luckily for me, my fiance is a tickle fetishist as well, so I don't have much to worry about.

 

[Giacomo_Corto]

For me personally, I don't think it could ever work. Because a sexual connection is very important in a lasting relationship (for MOST people)... and tickling, for me, is necessary for me to be aroused. I can't have sex without it - I tried once, it was miserable, no fun whatsoever. So, I don't know about other people but for myself, I would have to have a partner who would indulge my fetish at least in some way.

Very luckily for me, my fiance is a tickle fetishist as well, so I don't have much to worry about.

I see.

Congrats on finding a fiance who is a tickle fetishist. The world must be your oyster!

I wonder how many other people have a similar view to you?

 

[Mane'o]

if two people are not sexually compatible, regardless of the preferences or fetishes invovled, without some compromise on the part of both to find an acceptable middle ground, chances for a successful intimate relationship are slim. For inhstance, each intimate encounter does not necessarily need to end in climax for both. If both partners aren't open to some compromise they probably aren't that committed to one another anyway.

 

[shygirl08]

A "full tickle fetish" is one where you can only orgasm from tickling?

Huh. Perhaps I don't have a tickle fetish after all. *shrug*

 

[wodanbrlam]

if two people are not sexually compatible, regardless of the preferences or fetishes invovled, without some compromise on the part of both to find an acceptable middle ground, chances for a successful intimate relationship are slim.

 

[tickledorange]

I tried dating someone who wasn't kinky. It lasted a whole two weeks. I think the easiest way is to convert someone slowly who is open minded and willing to go along with your kinks. That's what I did, and we are married today.

 

[JoePTickle]

I'm happy in my relationship. I suppose it's because sexual intimacy is not near the top of my list of items that matter. Tickling's a big part of my life, but it is mostly superficial. The other aspects - humor, kindness, responsibility, support of my ambitions, etc. - have made me more well-rounded in the ways that count (to me, anyway).

 

[TickVix]

I don't think they would have to have a tickling fetish per se....though that's a bonus, but they'd HAVE to accept me and the things I'm into and be willing to indulge my tickling interest. If not it's not going to work at all.

 

[Raytheon]

Realistically your never going to find someone with a full blown tickling fetish to live happily ever after with. Saying that, you can date people who indulge your fetish but when you break up the truth inevitably comes out that she hated it and thought you were a freak. Ive been in this situation three times now.

You have to date the right sort of people who already understand fetish, who probably have their own weird set of kinks so that you can both share and explore together. Either that or be comfortable in the knowledge you have to give up your fetishes for love.

 

[YouNeverKnow175]

I've been in several long-term relationships where the girl was not "into" tickling. In all of them, I told them about tickling being a turn-on for me about 6-8 weeks into the relationship. They were all very open to it and over time came to enjoy getting me turned on in that way. I wouldn't say all of them came to actually enjoy being tickled, I do think some "endured" it for me, while others actually grew to see it didn't have to be painful torture but could be fun and sexual.

So for me, being with another "tickle fetishist" hasn't been necessary.....being with someone who is ticklish, definitely. I wouldn't enjoy a relationship sexually if the girl wasn't ticklish.

So I think it's finding a balance with all the important things in a relationship - if we're talking about a real, lasting relationship. If being with another tickler/lee is the only requirement, you might find the relationship lacking after a while. Then again, who knows. I guess it depends what you want.

 

[whatev]

A "full tickle fetish" is one where you can only orgasm from tickling?

Huh. Perhaps I don't have a tickle fetish after all. *shrug*

LOL

 

[shygirl08]

LOL

😀 teehee

 

[Alliekat]

Based on your definition, I don't have a "full tickle fetish" but I do consider myself to have a tickle and foot fetish. Mu husband, who I've been married to for 19 years does not. We have a very happy marriage. So it depends on who you ask, it works for some people but not for others.

 

[guysmiley]

I don't think they would have to have a tickling fetish per se....though that's a bonus, but they'd HAVE to accept me and the things I'm into and be willing to indulge my tickling interest. If not it's not going to work at all.

I've been in that situation and it really wasn't what I hoped it would be. I decided after my last LTR that my next one would be with a woman who enjoyed it as much as I do. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the efforts my previous partners had made. I just feel that being on the same page when it comes to tickling would be a wonderful experience.

 

[cutenticklishnc]

I personally dont think it would work just my opinion