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repressing the fetish?

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has anyone tried repressing the tickle fetish? I saw a post a while ago, some dude broke up with his girlfriend because she found out about his fetish, or caught him red handed or something, so he swore in his post that he is done with tickling and will never come back here... so I am curious if any body else tried (unsuccessfully) saying goodbye to tickling... I tried doing such in my teen years, and my stupidity lasted no more than a couple hours.
 
A lot of people try it, for many different reasons. Repressing it leads to a lot of unhappiness. Some people are ashamed of it, some can't find a partner for it, they try ignoring it, but I don't think it can be ignored any more than homosexuality. It's a part of our sexuality.
 
What is the true point of repression? It is because you care more about other people's happiness, and not your own. It is a disease like boredom, and that is called, 'conformity'. You are conforming to resist conflict... You can fight against your conformity thru conversation, observation, and honesty. If the conversation is open-ending, you observe no physical objections, and come clean.

Why would you need to repress anything? This is not a law but theory... Human nature is complex, and at times suck - but, be yourself and not a coward.
 
True, I tried the repression route, it just gives more energy to the fetish. Got to the point just seeing women's bare feet propped up somewhere in public would send me into anxiety attacks. It's not worth it. After leaving the ex and having years of play with like minded people, it's not an issue anymore.
 
Every psychologist in the world will tell you that it is impossible to repress a fetish.
 
NY ler said:
has anyone tried repressing the tickle fetish? I saw a post a while ago, some dude broke up with his girlfriend because she found out about his fetish, or caught him red handed or something, so he swore in his post that he is done with tickling and will never come back here... so I am curious if any body else tried (unsuccessfully) saying goodbye to tickling... I tried doing such in my teen years, and my stupidity lasted no more than a couple hours.
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I know someone that did.
And he hasn't been back since.
Congrats to him on missing out on amazing people.
 
rhiannon said:
Every psychologist in the world will tell you that it is impossible to repress a fetish.
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ooooh... i don't know... 'tamp down' maybe even repress... but not eliminate. To expound, one can cease all fetish related activity (viewing, chatting, drawing, writing, etc.) but the thoughts will creep in from the brain cracks now and again... that's fer darned sure.
 
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ooooh... i don't know... 'tamp down' maybe even repress... but not eliminate. To expound, one can cease all fetish related activity (viewing, chatting, drawing, writing, etc.) but the thoughts will creep in from the brain cracks now and again... that's fer darned sure.
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Word!
 
I think control is the operative word rather than repress. If the thing, be it tickling or eating sugary cereals, is interfering in negative ways with your life, you need to control it. Repressing it is probably just a great way to build the pressure up inside you until it erupts like a long dormant volcano.
 
NY ler said:
has anyone tried repressing the tickle fetish? I saw a post a while ago, some dude broke up with his girlfriend because she found out about his fetish, or caught him red handed or something, so he swore in his post that he is done with tickling and will never come back here... so I am curious if any body else tried (unsuccessfully) saying goodbye to tickling... I tried doing such in my teen years, and my stupidity lasted no more than a couple hours.
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I tried repressing all sex. Needless to say, someone started talking to me, ended up breaking that, and I found out she was full of shit and went back to being alone but realizing it was good to just feel sexual. Tickling is just a stimulant, don't knock yourself over it
 
I imagine it's much easier to acknowledge and just commit to repeatedly avoid it, than to repress it. (But still a bad idea.) In the case of the "dude" you mentioned, NY, it sounds like a bigger problem was that he had just chosen not even to try to share it with his girlfriend.
 
A battle one cannot win. Only if I truly love someone I might be able, but even than I'd doubt it and my sex life would remain incomplete.
 
Just find someone who accepts you for you. People compromise all the time with kinky, religious and other values each person has. If they can't handle it then it's just not meant to be.
For me it's easy to break up with someone if they can't accept everything or at least talk about it to understand.
 
People say a fetish shouldn't become an obsession. However, fully repressing it is neither good. Of course the best scenario is to have a GF who gets into it herself, then that obsession argument vanishes. One could always dream. 🙂

All of my tickling material (and other erotica as I have different categories) is saved on an external hard disc and secret. When I get another GF I doubt she'll find out soon. It's the only way to be able to allow someone else browse my computer without feeling like follows:

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It might not be the wisest decision, but it's the only way I feel safe and comfortable just in case.
 
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Yeah I agree with what a lot of people are saying in that its easier to control than repress completely. It does make me laugh how people seem to get annoyed when someone tries to leave though, I remember the thread mentioned in the OP and the guy got so much stick for it! Like what's the big deal?
 
ooooh... i don't know... 'tamp down' maybe even repress... but not eliminate. To expound, one can cease all fetish related activity (viewing, chatting, drawing, writing, etc.) but the thoughts will creep in from the brain cracks now and again... that's fer darned sure.
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Let's just say you can't change what you're turned on by. You will always be into it.
 
Repression only leads to trouble. You do it to avoid outside conflict (socially and emotionally) but in the end it just causes more internal conflict for the individual. I think its admirable that some people feel like they could do it for "love" or "the right person". But really, if they can't accept you the way you are, with a non significant sexual quirk are they really worth it to begin with?

I agree with the control aspect others have mentioned though. If the fetish is leading to harmful behaviour in your personal life it certainly needs to be controlled in some way. Repression is not the same. It has an unhealthy aspect of denial and shame associated with it.
 
That everybody thinks like that, does not make it true.
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Depends on how you define it. If "repress" means you don't act on it, of course you can do that. But I doubt it will affect people positively in the long run.
 
I repressed this fetish for a long time, too damn long, in fact. After a while, I began to accept that it was a part of who I am. So my advice would be to embrace it, enjoy it, and explore it 🙂
 
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