reverse psychology when talking about tickling?

[SemoreBellys]

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[Bugman]

I am thinking about "outing" myself to a friend. But I had this thought, since I am not sure how they would react, what if I were to build up whatever my confession is to something thats sounds really serious. Like what if I built it all up to as if I was going to confess that I killed someone, and then just say I really like tickling. Think this reverse psychology could work that way?

If you want to tell someone just come out with it.I don't see how your idea would change the reaction of the person you want to tell.They will accept it or not.

 

[leechmaster]

I am thinking about "outing" myself to a friend. But I had this thought, since I am not sure how they would react, what if I were to build up whatever my confession is to something thats sounds really serious. Like what if I built it all up to as if I was going to confess that I killed someone, and then just say I really like tickling. Think this reverse psychology could work that way?

Actually I'd suggest to do it exactly the other way around: Make it sound like it isn't a big thing for you to bring it up. Tickling is a fun thing and not a crime. People will rather be freaked when you already present it as a sick fetish.

 

[nylonsnfeet]

My 2 cents 🙂

I agree with bugman. Just put it out there. If they r a good friend, they may not "understand" it, but should be able 2 know it doesn't change who u r.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Actually I'd suggest to do it exactly the other way around: Make it sound like it isn't a big thing for you to bring it up. Tickling is a fun thing and not a crime. People will rather be freaked when you already present it as a sick fetish.

This has been true for me. 😀

 

[Leo tickles]

Or just tell it straight up how it is....

 

[drew70]

Actually I'd suggest to do it exactly the other way around: Make it sound like it isn't a big thing for you to bring it up. Tickling is a fun thing and not a crime. People will rather be freaked when you already present it as a sick fetish.

Truer words were never spoken. We tickle people tend to be very guarded, embarrassed, and even ashamed of our interest/obsession. It's all completely unwarranted. Once you make the decision that tickling is actually a cool thing and not some terrible thing that you're ashamed of, you'll start talking about it naturally, like it's no big deal. And people will receive it that way.

Recently I was outed unintentionally. I've been working on producing this tickling song parody medly. It's a string of 3 or 4 (I haven't decided on whether or not to keep part 4) old classic rock/R&B tunes with the lyrics changed to reflect the topic of tickling. I do all of the instrumentation, the arrangements, the singing, the recording, the mixing, all of it.

My brother is also interested in production, and so I made a recording of my progress and brought it over for him to hear. I left the recording there, and he liked it so much, he played it for a mutual friend of ours, Andy, who is a really good bass player. Andy liked it, but he asked me, "What's up with all the tickling lyrics?"

I calmly answered, "Well, I belong to an internet forum that's about tickling, and this song is mostly for their benefit."

That's all it took. There was no discomfort, and no awkward silence. Just a straight honest answer.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I actually have a somewhat different perspective to offer. For me, it's significant that you were considering giving it a big psychological build-up. With that in mind, let me pose this question to you: Do you and this friend have the kind of relationship in which it actually feels natural and comfortable to be talking about your sex lives and your sexual proclivities? A tickling fetish is, after all, in that category, not merely a matter of "liking" something. If you don't feel comfortable talking about your sexuality with this friend, there's probably a very good reason. And to me that's the question to address. I don't consider it a question of keeping it a secret versus being candid; I view it as a question of whether the relationship is really conducive to "here are the things that get me sexually aroused." Not everything needs to be shared with everybody; use your judgment case by case on what makes sense to share with whom.

 

[leechmaster]

I don't consider it a question of keeping it a secret versus being candid;

That's right and that wasn't the thread starter's question, either. The decision *if* you tell anybody at all can be tough and I can understand if people don't necessarily want everybody to know. But, once you have decided to talk about it or have involuntarily be outed, you should be easy about it. Also, you don't have to tell people right away that it really is a sexual thing for you. At least there is a truth in between: How comfortable do you have to be with someone to tell him or her that you prefer blonde or brunette girls? You don't have to immediately point out how *important* tickling is to you.

 

[scorpionldr]

I'm gonna put it this way, and it's gonna be probably the easiest.

don't be a pussy and say "hey, you know what's funny? I like to tickle the crap out of people cuz it helps me to sport some wood". worked for me with friends

 

[SemoreBellys]

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[aurora5150]

i think if you are just honest and up front that will be the beat way to go. if somebody did that to me i'd be irritated. just be honest.

 

[tickles]

Nope....that is too contrived. The "build up" and eventual delivery is suspicious in itself.....I am with leechmaster all the way....if you are cavalier....they may have a question or two....but just be cool...like tickling is as natural as breathing....then move on...

 

[WorkInProgress]

Yeah...top of that, has anybody ever heard of the concept of "reverse psychology" in any medium other than silly TV sitcoms? I mean that seriously. That's the only place I've ever heard it, and I wouldn't be a bit surprised to learn that that's the only place it's ever existed.

Again: (1.) Make a strong choice whether this friend needs to know about your fetish at all, and (2.) if the answer is yes, then just give it straight. Either she'll be cool with it or she won't. The build-up won't change a thing.

 

[tummytickler69]

well you could try asking them if they have any fetishes . regardless of their answer , they will inevitably ask do you? then tell em

 

[WorkInProgress]

The fetish question is actually a good test of the waters. The thing to remember is, some of your friends are going to prefer not to know the intimate details of your fetish life. When you ask her if she has any fetishes, she may say "No, and by the way, who do you think will make it to the Super Bowl?" That's your cue to leave your fetishes out of further conversations.

A few years back I had dinner with a woman I knew through my graduate school, a woman I had a strong desire to tickle. I mentioned fetishes and asked her if she had any. She said, "Well, I like to hold my kitten's nose up to my nose, does that count?" (And of course no it doesn't; if anything it makes her boringly normal.) Then I told her that the Spanish word for my fetish is cosquillas, Spanish being the language that some of her academic research made use of. She replied that she would look the word up when she got home. In other words, she really didn't want to know what my fetish was. And it was quite clear that I wouldn't be getting any opportunities to tickle her. And understand this: we were still just as friendly, but fetishism was not something we could share.

Point is, some of our friends would just rather not know. It's not that they feel morally superior to people with fetishes, they just don't feel comfortable hearing anything this deeply personal, the same reason they might not feel comfortable hearing people describe their styles of having conventional sex.