roles during the session

[damdu]

Are women mainly lee during the session, or are they them because they prefer it or because of the expectations towards them?

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

Not all women are into tickling. Those who are it can go either way of being the LER or LEE sometimes both depending on the person and who they’re with

 

[yinzer]

Are women mainly lee during the session, or are they them because they prefer it or because of the expectations towards them?

If I'm understanding you correctly, you're asking if women are mainly lees, and if so, is it because they prefer that or it is because of {cultural or societal I'm guessing} expectations of them.

When I was a kid, I literally thought I was the only one that had fantasies about tickling girls I liked. It was the same thing with my foot fetish. I felt like a complete weirdo, both excited and ashamed about these things. I even created a game with a neighbor girl my age I called something like "Spider," where the game was she would pretend to be prey in a spider web, and I'd be the spider that would "attack" the prey with tickling. That was the entire "game" from what I can recall 😆 We were probably 6 or 7 years old at the time, if that. Of course, tickling is a common way of playing, including parents tickling their kids, so it's obviously not an erotic thing for everyone, but for me it always has been, and that's where I thought I was completely alone.

When I got older and hit puberty, I became all too aware tickling was a sexual turn-on for me. I still didn't know there was a such thing as 'tickling content' at the time. Once I found that I realized there were other people like me, but I made the false assumption these were all guys, and women would never be into this as a Ler. The earliest content I was exposed to was guys tickling women, possibly because this was what I sought out, and this made complete sense to me. Even later when I saw women tickling other women, I assumed they were just doing it more as a job, and not because this was really something they were into. And it was the same thing on the other end, that no guy would actually want to be tickled, and if there were any, there's no way this is something they were doing because they liked it 😂 They must just be doing this for the $. So even long after seeing women as both lers and lees, I'd never actually thought of the concept of a 'Switch,' so this remained a foreign concept to me.

I don't know the stats on this, but I finally realized being a Ler or Lee isn't at all a gender specific thing. My guess would be there are more guys that prefer being a Ler than a Lee, and possibly vice versa for women, but after being active on this forum this past year, I'm not so sure anymore, so this would be entirely speculative 😆

So, back to the questions I'm not even sure are the ones you're asking... I really don't know what the answer is without seeing the data. My intuition would be there are more guy Lers than Lees and more women Lees than Lers, but obviously, my intuition has completely failed me in the past 😆 So like I mentioned before, this forum now has me thinking it could very well be the opposite!

 

[Native-Phoebe]

Honestly. I always see men as 'lers. I feel they are naturally more dominant. Plus I am small and I could never see myself as anything more than a submissive and a 'lee. I don't think you HAVE to be a 'lee if you're a woman. Or a dom if you are a guy. But I do aee guys as the more dominant type. It's always weird seeing men in the ticklee role.

 

[yinzer]

It's always weird seeing men in the ticklee role.

I'm all for people having the freedom to do whatever they want to do as long as they are not hurting others, but this is something I don't think I'll ever get used to seeing, and I can't seem to avoid seeing this shit on the internet no matter how hard I've tried 😂 Maybe I can make the argument guys shouldn't be allowed to be lees because it's hurting my eyes and my brain 🤣 Really tho, to each their own.