Rough Times......

[Deadsea7777]

I found out today that my 15 year old cousin was raped........supposedly by two big black men that she met over the internet *cough*myspace*cough* Apparently she gave them her address and they showed up and raped her. I feel bad for her, but who is this world, especially these days, is actually dumb enough to give out her address?!?!??! She not only endangered herself but her younger brother and sister...

I regret what has happened, I hope your cousin will be able to bury this incident with time, and not make her life move around it forever, if necessay push her to get professional help. At 15 years old is easy to trust anybody, but is also easy to forget. I hope she with time would be able to put all this behind her and superate the trauma.

And I hope too that the guilty are brought to justice, so they cannot repeat their acts with anybody else.

 

[Mastertank1]

Okay, this is important....

you must keep on telling her that the rape was not her fault.
It may have been her fault that they had the address and knew where to find her, but it was not her fault that they raped her.
It may sound too obvious to need mentioning, but believe me it ios NOT too onvious. It Does need to be said, over and over and over again.
She may get testy with you over it; she may say she knows.
There is a huge difference between knowing intellectually and bekieving emotionally.
You, and everyone else she has contact with have got to keep repeating to her that the rape was NOT HER FAULT.
I can't emphasize that enough.
I have counseled rape victims before, and I know. They need to keep hearing that until they start to believe it.
If there is anyone around her who is liable to tell her that it is her fault, KEEP THEM AWAY FROM HER!
Send them away, tell them to F*** the hell off, pop them one in the snoot, whatever it takes.
Her psyche will try to take the blame, and she does NOT need to have that reinforced by anyone else!
I pray that she recovers, and that the perps get caught and punished.
If you think it might help her to talk to me, PM me and I'll send my phone number.
I mean that.
Mitch

 

[Mastertank1]

Re: Masterchief2

They say it takes all kinds.
They are wrong.
The world could do very well with no one at all of your kind in it; in fact the world would be better off.
Dry up and blow away.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thanks everyone. We had a talk and I did press it on her that it was not her fault that they would take advantage of her. And thanks for the info Redmage.

 

[Bugman]

They say it takes all kinds.
They are wrong.
The world could do very well with no one at all of your kind in it; in fact the world would be better off.
Dry up and blow away.

Thanks for saying what i was thinking Mastertank1.

 

[12345asdfgh]

Blunt? Yes. Hard-assed? Yes. But thats just how I am.

I'm a FIRM believer in Social Darwinism. I.E. The survival of the fittest.

Its not rocket science to figure out the world isnt safe anymore. Putting yourself out there like that is just stupid, and she'd have learned that one way or another. Of course I'd prefer that she'd learned through a...less direct approach, but we cant all bet off easy.

 

[ticklishgamer]

Huh?

I am sorry for you...but I have no sympathy for her.

Blunt? Yes. Hard-assed? Yes. But thats just how I am.

I'm a FIRM believer in Social Darwinism. I.E. The survival of the fittest.

Its not rocket science to figure out the world isnt safe anymore. Putting yourself out there like that is just stupid, and she'd have learned that one way or another. Of course I'd prefer that she'd learned through a...less direct approach, but we cant all bet off easy.

WTF!!??

 

[Angel_2]

OMG Angel, I am so sorry to hear about what happend to your cousin, I hope and pray she will be fine. My paryers are with her and you. my god how can people do a thing like that? the sick bastards, I hope they burn in hell for this 😡. My heart gose out to her, but how can she just give out her addy in this day and age? dose she not understand how unsafe that is. I hope for all the best for her

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thanks Angel. I don't thinks she understands how unsafe that is.

 

[Angel_2]

someone needs to talk to her now and get it through her head this is not safe

 

[lite]

Temporary thread hijacking...

Blunt? Yes. Hard-assed? Yes. But thats just how I am.

I'm a FIRM believer in Social Darwinism. I.E. The survival of the fittest.

Its not rocket science to figure out the world isnt safe anymore. Putting yourself out there like that is just stupid, and she'd have learned that one way or another. Of course I'd prefer that she'd learned through a...less direct approach, but we cant all bet off easy.

Forgive me, but I'm curious: Does your screen name mean "tickle skids" or "tickles kids"? (I'm not trying to cause trouble; I'm actually just curious. Having said that, if it's the latter, you shouldn't be here.)

We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread.

My deepest sympathies to your family, TicklishGrl4Lfe.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

My deepest sympathies to your family, TicklishGrl4Lfe.

Thanks Lite.

 

[Angel_2]

Did she get tested?

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Yes but I don't know the results.

 

[Angel_2]

when will you get them?

 

[KoocheeKoo]

I try quite hard to stay away from blunt statements... but that is a terrible thing to say.

She is SO young. 15 isn't 'age of consent' in most states. And perhaps she showed bad judgement. Even if she were 21 or 30 or 40 my heart would go out to anyone who met someone she thought she could trust and was raped. Bad judgement doesn't equal her being deserving of sexual assault.

And the fact that you have NO sympathy for a teenage girl who made a bad choice and will likely forever be emotionally damagd for it... to me it puts you in the same category as them. Yes, that's harsh. But you just said you don't feel sympathy for a CHILD who was raped. I can't understand that.

Well said!!!

TicklishAngel, I'm so very sorry 🙁 My thoughts and prayers are with your cousin, and I hope they arrest the perpetrators who did this and put them behind bars where they can never harm another child.

 

[Mastertank1]

Attention moderators!

There is a member I've never seen post before, who uses the screen name tickleskids, and just posted that he thought the 15 year old this thread is about deserved to get raped for being careless.
I think we have a self-proclaimed child molestor here and we need to be rid of him.
Thank you.

Addendum; I just pm'd this to 5 of the mods.
Tickleskids, if you're angry at me, pm me. I'll send you my real world address so we can address your anger face to face.

 

[german]

NO ONE deserves what she went through under any circumstances, I really cant comprehend how any one would think such a thing especially when its a 15 year old girl.

Priest

 

[kis123]

TG4L, I'm sorry this happened to your cousin. My daughter has had a myspace page since age 14 and took appropriate precautions to protect herself. I know nothing about the website but she's shown it to me-mostly athletes and buddies from high school. She'll be 17 in a few weeks and she's never had a myspace or facebook problem.

Your cousin has a long road to healing and Mastertank1 is correct-let her know at every chance that this isn't her fault. She's learned the hard way not to be so trusting with her information.

These predators know what they're doing and they know how to con their victims; it's unfortunate they found her. I hope they catch them soon so they don't come back! Also, at least she told someone and isn't trying to handle things herself by shutting down and acting out. I wish her well and she's in my thoughts.

You know, you're going to have a minute percentage of those who are just not going to get the point. It's not their daughter, sister, mother, cousin....you get the point. If it's not close enough to them, they'll "armchair quarterback" the situation to death! For those who couldn't provide a word of encouragement you were better off keeping your mouths shut! Everyone doesn't have to know what you think especially when you know that it's not positive nor will it help her situation. In other words, if you can't be a part of the solution, you're part of the problem and your commentaries are ignorant and void of any compassion that you'd want if it was someone you knew in the same situation!

You know, my grandmother used to say "nothing ever hurt a duck but it's bill." Think about it, it's an otherwise beautiful animal except that ugly looking (and sounding) thing in front of its face. Some people are the same way-beautiful in every way until their mouths open.

 

[kilitiinko1]

I`m so sorry!

TG4L,please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all.Nobody deserves something like this,no matter the circumstances!I do hope that your cousin gets the help and support she needs,and will be able to work past this in time.She is indeed lucky to have you to lean on-she will need you!
God bless!

 

[natural tickler]

I am so sorry to hear what happened, and the best to you and your cousin. She will heal eventually, just make sure you are with her every step of the way. The more of a support system she sees, the better she will be. And will she will be stronger after this, I assure you of that. Make sure you're strong around her, and she will be also.

My support and sympathy towards you and yours

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thanks everyone this really means a lot to me.

 

[unit5610]

I can't imagine what you guys are going through to offer any worthwhile advice, but know that you have my sympathy and my hope that she can somehow recover from this horrible incident and find good things in life again.
If the remainder of here family is as caring as you are she has a chance.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Thank you Unit.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Blunt? Yes. Hard-assed? Yes. But thats just how I am.

I'm a FIRM believer in Social Darwinism. I.E. The survival of the fittest.

Its not rocket science to figure out the world isnt safe anymore. Putting yourself out there like that is just stupid, and she'd have learned that one way or another. Of course I'd prefer that she'd learned through a...less direct approach, but we cant all bet off easy.

Well I hope you remember this the next time you beg a girl to meet you somewhere because you are such a nice guy. Get a grip...do you really think that these men got online and said to her..oh by way, I and a friend is going to take advantage of you when I get there..so don't be surprised.

No, ten to one they probably played the harmless..Im such a nice guy bullshit line. Now as for inviting to her house..I don't agree with that. Any woman on here who doesn't know a guy except online should meet somewhere public first. If the guy has a problem with it..kick his azz to the curb!

I'm sorry for what happened to your friend TG.