Safeword

[blair]

What should a person do, if their tickler gets carried away, and does'nt stop when the ticklee uses a safeword?

 

[Artoo]

Nothing much that can be done in that sort of situation - I mean, if the tickler isn't going to stop, they aren't going to stop. It does highlight that the 'ler in question is probably a ****, and should in no way be in that position of responsobility.

A good 'ler should be able to read their 'lee and decide for themselves that enough is enough, when it actually is enough.

(As to my own opinion on safewords, I think they are necessary evil, but they shouldn't be used unless there is a real emergency. Where's the fun if it just gets used when the ticklee has had enough? )

 

[Ace Riley]

The kick to the groin approach has worked pretty well for some people.

 

[maniactickler]

Pray.

 

[milagros317]

Never trust that Ler again.

 

[Spenser]

Blair,
Perfect question. And that's ---exactly--- why we host parties and gatherings, and encourage people to go to them to get a feel for the social tickle experience in a SAFE atmosphere.

As other's mention; safeword said in a private one-on-one experience, you have only your trust in your partner of the moment to heed your safeword.

Safeword in a party or gathering, if it's not immediately respected by the Ler; then that Ler can expect several large mean and pretty angry people to go hauling the Ler off the lee, and perhaps even physically to the door and out of the building!

 

[marcusb]

I would say do not play with that person again.

 

[Adam]

If you're securely tied down, scream for help. If you're not, I agree that a well placed kick to a sensitive area might be a good idea. Once the session is over, never play with that 'ler again. Then warn the rest of the community about this person.

 

[manic971]

Never agree to secure bondage until you have a strong trust with that person.

Other than that I'd suggest having a third party know where you are the first few times you meet for a session and have them call your phone at a certain time, if you don't answer they come and kick the sadistic bastards ass.

 

[xSamanthax]

What should a person do, if their tickler gets carried away, and does'nt stop when the ticklee uses a safeword?

Depends on who you are talking about and the context.

If my husband (or anyone else that I know/respect/trust) did this, we would sit down and have a talk about it. Find out what the hell happened and why. Discuss any feelings about it, etc.

If it was someone I was just playing casually with, then that's a different story and I honestly don't know how I would handle it. I cannot imagine ever playing alone with someone that I don't know that well so it is hard to say. My hubby is usually present and my safeword would trigger his immediate involvement, lol.

If I were alone and this happened...I dunno. I would be some dangerous combination of scared/angry and start lashing out in a panic. And yes, I would have to alert the community if it were something deliberate/malicious.

At a gathering...I'd wait for the DM's to rescue me, lol.

I hope this didn't happen to you. =(

 

[nylontickler(m)]

what the hell...

is a safeword?

 

[BorisandNatasha]

What should a person do, if their tickler gets carried away, and does'nt stop when the ticklee uses a safeword?

A slap upside the head and the loss of any chance of tickling you again, that is if the tickle had you tied. Not much you can do until the tickler lets you go and once he/she does, a semi violent reaction to the ticklers action would truly be in order.
That is all in order provided you use a safeword.


Boris

 

[BorisandNatasha]

is a safeword?

LOL 😎
Yeah, really.....safe( a place to lock and secure valuable items and or money) word.....well that has billions or meanings...or just one.. word is a word, letters placed together to form an intelligible meaning definable sound that is spoken or written...🙄

Boris

 

[Spenser]

nylontickler,

Go to this article in wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword

Replace the abbreviation "BDSM" with the term "erotic tickle play" and the terms, Dominant and Top with Tickler,
and Submissive and Bottom with Ticklee, and you've got the basic description of what safewords are and how they are to be used.

 

[-Hari-]

the second the safeword is used and ignored is the second your session changes from fun to the the sick world of REAL torture, and this shouldn't happen to anyone, if someone abused my trust like that, i'd have a hard time looking them in the eye again, or even communicating with them again. It's sick! Having said that, i don't use safe words for myself, i only get tickled by the partners i've had, and i've always been able to trust them enuf to let then decide my fate. Doesn't work for everyone tho.

 

[tcklft]

Scream until the neighbors call the cops.

 

[Brock Samson]

A good way to guard against this is to have a group of big guys with steel bats in the next room. Scream out the code word, and they give the 'ler the 'Casino' treatment.

No, but seriously, there should be a certain amount of trust between a potential 'ler and 'lee. Once this trust has been broken, it can't be mended. End all contact with this person and warn the rest of the community.

 

[nylontickler(m)]

nylontickler,

Go to this article in wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword

Replace the abbreviation "BDSM" with the term "erotic tickle play" and the terms, Dominant and Top with Tickler,
and Submissive and Bottom with Ticklee, and you've got the basic description of what safewords are and how they are to be used.

Spenser:

See this article: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sarcasm

But thanks for your help