Same old questions

[totally_evil]

Does anyone else get bored of the same old questions from everyone when they're talking to someone for the first time?

I am getting so annoyed at having to repeat myself atleast 5 times everytime i'm in the chat room that i'm thinking of posting my answer to the usual questions like where i'm most ticklish etc on a thread that i can just tell people to look at before asking anything else. Then adding to it when something new is asked.

Does anyone else have this problem, or can suggest a better solution?

 

[Headsnap]

Try this; the next time you're in the chatroom, make a shining example of the first person who asks you a stupid question. For example, let's say Tickler1998 asks you if your feet are ticklish (which I'm assuming, and probably quite safely too, is one of the 5 questions you're referring to). Most people would sigh and simply answer the question; instead of doing that you explode at him. When I say explode I mean really, really tear into him, unload on him for all you're worth in a very public fashion until people start getting the message that you're sick of being asked the same 5 questions by every person you talk to.

Either that, or just don't go into the chatroom. It's mostly crap anyway, too much roleplaying and desperation for my liking.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

lol yeah that gets annoying 😛 don't have that problem in the TMF chatroom but like chatrooms in general if someone pms u or something. not the tickling questions but yeah. for some reason everyone asking me what i do irritates me, i don't know why. like the first thing someon asks me when I use IRC or go into a yahoo chat room. blah.

however, I believe when you let me pm you I looked at your profile first.

 

[Bugman]

The chatroom has changed so much in a short period of time.Most,if not all the regulars have drifted away for various reasons.I have not been around that long,but it used to be a lot of fun.I seldom bother with it anymore,and when i do check it out i seldom stay long.

If anyone is bothering you just ignore them,they will get the hint.If the problems continue,ask a mod for help.

 

[totally_evil]

however, I believe when you let me pm you I looked at your profile first.

That makes you one of the only ones. The most annoying bit is that one of the questions is almost always, am I lee or ler. My little info thing on the chatroom ALWAYS says i'm a switch!

Headsnap, if I unloaded at everyone who did that, all I'd ever be doing was ranting about it, and I just can't be bothered writing it and I'm sure other people wouldn't want to be reading it.

 

[gerard]

I have a different opinion, but may be I am wrong. In chat rooms, I always try to make a connection with persons in order to know them a little bit and see if i can be interested in chatting to them and if they are interested in me. It's difficult to write very original thinks to people you don't know, because they would very easily say that it's strange, that you can't be intimate before they know you better.... So asking this basic questions, where are you ticklish, are you lee or ler.... is just the equivalent of what people say when they meet in a cafe or at a party and try to start a connection, eg where are you living, do you like it, what's your job..... It's definitely not fascinating dialogs, but they are an introduction to a relationship that could develop with more interesting exchanges after the participants get accustomed to one another (sorry if my english is not perfect or not clear). It can be necessary to start withvery basic thinks or dull ideas.
Of course people can be more or less boring when they do that, but, maybe I am pessimistic, and I think that everyone has to be boring in social life because human relation ships are so standardized sometimes.....

 

[tklcouple]

patience

I have noticed much of the same thing. Keep in mind, you do not HAVE to answer anything to anybody in the chat room. That said, if someone asks if your feet are ticklish, etc. then they are showing some interest in the idea of having social contact with you; ergo - take it as a compliment. If these people were insulting you and criticizing everything you say then I could see "ripping into them" so to speak. If such introductory questions (in a forum consistent of tens of thousands, mind you) annoys you then maybe you ought to take some time away from the chat room.

There are some people out there who are offensive and rude, and those people ought to be ignored (or banned) if they persist. Shadow recently posted outrage over such an experience and I recall that as I was in the chat room too that evening, and that jerk ought to be banned because he was just saying offensive things to "stir the pot" and make people mad - nothing social, nothing constructive, simply offensive for the sake of being so. But if someone asks you a simple innocent question (eg "are your feet ticklish?") and you are to respond in a rude way, as suggested by one of the earlier posts on this thread, then that action stands against the point of having a forum/chat room in the first place - to bring people together with a common interest. This goes back to the "stuff I learned in Kindergarten" principle - play nice with others. I am not saying you are not, but I AM reccomending that you disregard any advice to respond to an honest inquiry with a barrage of offensive remarks to "make an example out of them". The only person who would be made an example of would be you and that is the kind of example most of us do not wish to be.

One thought: place the answers to common questions in your profile and politely refer inquiries to the profile. That would make everyone involved a bit more happy. When in doubt, to be too gracious in the better mistake to make, in my humble opinion.

Just my $0.02,

Professor Tkl​

 

[marcusb]

lol yeah that gets annoying 😛 don't have that problem in the TMF chatroom but like chatrooms in general if someone pms u or something. not the tickling questions but yeah. for some reason everyone asking me what i do irritates me, i don't know why. like the first thing someon asks me when I use IRC or go into a yahoo chat room. blah.

however, I believe when you let me pm you I looked at your profile first.

They ask what you do? Answer: "professional killer" 😛

 

[Capnmad]

They ask what you do? Answer: "professional killer" 😛

I concur. If you tire of the same questions, give them unusual answers... Same thing with telemarketers.

CHATTER: "Where are you most ticklish?"

YOU: "Next to my superfluous nipple, of course! (Don't ask where it is!)"


or:


TELEMARKETER: "Would you like to refinance your mortgage at new low rates?"

YOU: "Yes. Next to my superfluous nipple, of course! (Don't ask where it is!)"


Trust me. The superfluous nipple response is the ultimate conversation ender if you deliver it genuinely and stick with it. If you don't, they'll just think you're funny, and that might be cool, too.

Seriously, though, I don't know... Just try to be kind, I think. I didn't really chat much before I came here (and I'm only now really starting to in earnest) -- and I didn't know the conventions nor the clichés, so I did the same thing you're talking about with the first person I chatted with on here. But she was nice enough to point out in a kind fashion that those were the sorts of things everyone asked, and so I was freed up to just talk about all sorts of other stuff, which is much better for a good conversation anyway. Take into consideration you may be talking to someone new or even someone socially inept (there are many such folks on chat), and just handle things with kindness and grace like my friend did. 🙂

 

[totally_evil]

They ask what you do? Answer: "professional killer" 😛

Lol, this is what happens when people get to know me!

I tried to put it all in my profile, but there just isn't enough space. So far I have a list of over 10 questions, some of which have some reasonably long answers.

I don't like being rude to most people, and try not to ignore or offend anyone, but its getting annoying very quickly, and I'm on the chat room to get to know people, not tell them all about me and my tickling.

 

[sonictails77]

Well, as a newbie, I guess I can defend those who do ask the "typical questions". I mean, people come to the TMF to meet others, to find someone to "talk tickling" with. This is their outlet, so I can't hold too much against them for asking questions like that. I just know that I want to get to know people on here and to talk tickling with them, but it just seems so hard to find a way, surprisingly. But, I can understand where these questions might become annoying. If I've ever put anyone through that myself, I apologize.

 

[lespieds]

I have been to chat only a few times, but do they ever actually talk about tickling?

My fav Q to be asked is A/S/L in PM.
Seems the quit talking when I say male, which is really the case here.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

That makes you one of the only ones.

well like i've said before, I like being different 🙂.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I have been to chat only a few times, but do they ever actually talk about tickling?

My fav Q to be asked is A/S/L in PM.
Seems the quit talking when I say male, which is really the case here.

They do talk about tickling part of the time, once in a while, but not a whole lot. Its just a normal chatroom where u can come and relax.

Yeah, the stupid A/S/L question. It gets irritating. Like during Christmas time I use the nick name RappinSanta for some instant messengers and i go into chat rooms with it and stuff and I kept getting A/S/L... dangit, i'm Santa lol. Santa is a guy. I even said to one person "I'm Santa, what do you think I am?" or something like that, and he goes "so..your fem?" GAH! people are so stupid.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Yes however the new people who venture on in here may not know of the questions asked in the past regardless of the redundantcy of said questions asked.
Pehaps an Archive or Subforum should be created...."Questions Asked"?
This way, newbies or those who have yet to see the questions may do so without sifting through an entire forum of various tickle topics looking for questions that have been asked.... 🙄

 

[totally_evil]

I have been to chat only a few times, but do they ever actually talk about tickling?

My fav Q to be asked is A/S/L in PM.
Seems the quit talking when I say male, which is really the case here.

Lol, I always ask that one cos its like saying 'hi how are you, and who are you' but in fewer letters.

I think people generally pm to talk about tickling on there, unless people aren't having random conversations like normal.

And I'd keep talking to you unless you were really boring or weird, regardless of gender.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

They ask what you do? Answer: "professional killer" 😛

lol u know, i think i'll use that! lol

 

[tickles]

You could put the answers in your profile...and nicely ask the new folks to please refer to your profile.... 🙂

 

[chicago]

I usually fill out my chat profile in hopes of avoiding some unfortunate situations, but I find many people don't read it.

The ASL question is annoying because many people ask it before they "introduce" themselves. They don't even say "hi" to you, just an out of nowhere "ASL." And usually, when you get a PM like that, you know what the person on the other side of the screen is looking for.

Another question that is really annoying is when people go "So, you like tickling?" Whenever someone asks me that, I sit there for a second wondering why else I would be in a tickle-fetish chatroom. I've started to chalk it up as being the TMF's version of a lame pick-up line. Kind of like "Come here often?" only instead "So, you into tickling?"

As for the rest, I try to be patient, but it's not easy. I think one of the reasons we get tired of the questions is because most of the time they don't really lead to any type of conversation. It's more like a barrage, one after another, after another that we get asked again and again. And it's like we're being interrogated.

So yeah, that may be a reason why it's not exactly fun.

 

[Capnmad]

Another question that is really annoying is when people go "So, you like tickling?" Whenever someone asks me that, I sit there for a second wondering why else I would be in a tickle-fetish chatroom. I've started to chalk it up as being the TMF's version of a lame pick-up line. Kind of like "Come here often?" only instead "So, you into tickling?"

Yeah. At the same time, I think the people who don't see the problem with that come in, see the group just bantering about anything -- current events, silliness and such, as we're like to do -- and really wonder if the people there are into tickling enough to talk about it. They've probably asked to PC with one or two and been declined, and so are left to wonder. The thing is, some people are just interested in hanging with the group and chatting all together, and really, the place can't be just tickling 24/7 lest it get boring or über-bizarre. There's just more to life than that.

 

[Iggy pop]

I don't go in the chatroom very often, but what questions would you like to be asked in the chatroom? Why do you guys go in the chatroom? The times I have been in the chatroom, it has eithier been dead or people are engaging in cyber tickling. Cyber tickling, in my opinion, is one of the lamest activities ever, and I have no desire to participate in that. I have a girlfriend, so I really have no desire in hooking up with anybody. I like to get to know people some more, but I do not think that is the main reason people enter the chatroom.

 

[totally_evil]

I don't go in the chatroom very often, but what questions would you like to be asked in the chatroom? Why do you guys go in the chatroom? The times I have been in the chatroom, it has eithier been dead or people are engaging in cyber tickling. Cyber tickling, in my opinion, is one of the lamest activities ever, and I have no desire to participate in that. I have a girlfriend, so I really have no desire in hooking up with anybody. I like to get to know people some more, but I do not think that is the main reason people enter the chatroom.

Mostly cyber tickling does seem to be done by those who have never actually had a real life experience of tickling. With noted exceptions of course, but the majority ...

 

[Headsnap]

Cyber tickling, in my opinion, is one of the lamest activities ever, and I have no desire to participate in that.

My man 😀

I might be weird but I go into the chatroom to like, talk to people. I don't want to do cybertickling, I don't want to fucking roleplay being hugged or slapping people or that shite, I want to speak to interact with like-minded folks on a human level, not act the twat :O The bad thing is a lot of people seem to enjoy pissing about like the aforementioned, which makes it difficult to find people who actually want to engage in conversation instead of typing stuff like *bumz ur dog*. They are about though, so my advice would be to just grin and bear it until someoene turns up (or spam about prawns, they like prawns 😀)

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Mostly cyber tickling does seem to be done by those who have never actually had a real life experience of tickling. With noted exceptions of course, but the majority ...

i dunno, maybe the majority, but I don't know, maybe they just don't get it on a regular bassis or something... i dunno, but your smart so maybe you're right 😛.

 

[totally_evil]

i dunno, maybe the majority, but I don't know, maybe they just don't get it on a regular bassis or something... i dunno, but your smart so maybe you're right 😛.

Don't let mindmindmind hear you say that. I'd never hear the end of it.