Scared of Nest...

[bickee]

Hi all. Here's the long and short of it. I've been a member of this community for a while now. I participated much more a few years ago, now that I am married to a non-tickler I peruse the site much less. But I've always been interested in Nest...yet afraid! What am I afraid of, you ask? Many things. I am mostly a ler and I'm afraid people will try to get ME tied up and tickled. I'm afraid of men leering at me. I'm afraid of being stuck in a group of people where I feel uncomfortable. Is that silly? You guys seem to have such a great time but I wonder...is tickling ALL that we have in common? Has anyone had a "bad" nest experience? Ok enough babbling.

 

[isabeau]

from what i have heard you are perfectly safe. there are security guards and all. also no one would make you do anything you wouldnt want to do. and i have heard that people make good friends by attending nest. no one will jump you and tie you up. how can i speak never having been to one? i have friends here who tell me exactly what to expect, if ever i get to go. these people want you to have fun and have a pleasant experience.

isabeau

 

[venray]

There are many ler only folks that attend the various community gatherings such as nest. there are also many Lee only folks as well.....

All who attend nest respect that and no one forces or coerces anyone into doing something they do not want to do....

Most folks dont do a lot of play at all but come to meet new friends and get to know people from the community....

If you have some questions you would like answered feel free to email me at [email protected]

My wife and I live in central CT and are always willing to talk.....


Ray

 

[rajee]

Bickee, your not alone. I too feel nervous and scared about going to a new event alone such as NEST. I think anyone would naturally feel anxious, nervous and scared about going to a big new event in a different location alone.
Yet, I would feel more at ease when I see familiar faces that I see here at TMF in the member photo forum.

 

[bickee]

Thanks. I guess it's not so much about feeling that I'll be forced to do anything...I think it's partly that the tickling fetish has always seemed so taboo to me...that I can't imagine it being out in the open and NOT seem sexual. I'm pretty young 29 and pretty cute dammit! Haha. I just don't want to feel as if I'm surounded by a bunch of pervy men giving me the eye! I'm not trying to offend, just expressing my worries and concerns. I guess I've kept it a secret for so long I don't know how to bring it out in the open like you all!

 

[Hiryu]

Believe it or not it scares me a little too. I've never been too it and even if I did go, I'd probably have to go with someone who'd been there before. I would be so scared that someone would look at me and say "Look! It's him! That crazy guy!" Then I'd be seized and thrown out on my face with a "Sorry but, no crazies allowed!"

 

[drew70]

Bickee, I hear what you say. The best I can tell you is that in the last four NEST's I've attended, I've never witnessed any sexual tickling. Now granted, some folks arrive a few days early and they get together in hotel rooms. What goes on there I can't say for sure, but generally when 3 or more are present, there's little to no sexual tickling happening. I only go to the Sunday event at whatever dungeon or lair they book for us. Even some vanilla friends of mine whom I've told about NEST are interested in taking a look.

Plus, since you are a ler, I can guarantee at least one guy who'll volunteer as your first victim, should the urge to play take hold of you. 😀

 

[tommytikl]

Hi Bickee...

Good questions about NEST and I think some that anyone considering going to NEST has faced.

First there are DM(Dungeon Masters), not security guards, that are there to monitor the various scenes going on at the NEST event.
So if you ever felt uncomfortable about something just ask a DM and they will take care of it.

Second, people will always ask before just outright trying to tickle you.
And you can make it clear that you are just a ler, you could put it on your name card...

About the "leering" at you, yeah people may look at you but not outright stare at you..although I will say that if you are in a tickling scene, as the ler, and someone seems to be "leering" at you, that may simply be because they enjoy the facial reactions you produce when you are tickling or your tickling technique you are using in your scene.

And there are quite a few lady only Lers that attend NEST and there are many male only lees as well.

I hope you come out to NEST and see what it is all about.
It is a great place to finally bring your fetish, interest, obsession, out in the open and talk about it.

I hope to see you there.

Tickle On,
Tommytikl

 

[kis123]

I've never been to NEST before but am considering it for 2006. I went to my very first gathering in Dallas back in Sept. I was scared to death from the time I booked the reservations, through the 1200 mile plane ride, and when I actually started meeting the participants. I hung onto my host for dear life the entire time. The guests were very sweet and understanding-no one forced anyone to do anything they didn't want. I got my "ler" on and even got to explore my "lee" side a bit. I had a great time that weekend.

If you want to go to NEST I suggest you go. It'll be like anything you could imagine and you'll get a chance to learn a lot about yourself in the process.

 

[BellaRisa]

NEST: Utterly Amazing, and yet not that big a deal 🙂

I can't imagine it being out in the open and NOT seem sexual. I'm pretty young 29 and pretty cute dammit! Haha. I just don't want to feel as if I'm surounded by a bunch of pervy men giving me the eye! I'm not trying to offend, just expressing my worries and concerns. I guess I've kept it a secret for so long I don't know how to bring it out in the open like you all!

Um, Bickee? If you're a cute female and live in the world, on some level you're always surrounded by men giving you the eye. At least at NEST, they all behave like perfect gentlemen and they're no pervier than you 😉 Personally I like the eye, let's me know I'm still a MILT (Mom I'd Love To Tickle). but I digress:

I'm a 4'11 female who's been attending NEST all alone since spring of 1999 when I was just 26. I also ran Midwest-NEST once upon a time and will again at some point. Let me tell you quite bluntly that NEST is just a really great party. Period. It's only as weird as you want to make it in your mind. Sure, there's tickling, and that's fun and exciting and stimulating and all that, but you get over the taboo feeling *very* quickly and it becomes like the thrill of being at an amusement park; fun and a rush, but certainly not uncomfortably sexual. A *lot* us ladies like us have fretted for months (or years) over it before they attended, then wondered what they were worried about. Over the NEST weekend you meet awesome people just like you and have dinner, talk about all kinds of topics, basically make friends for life who actually understand this part of you and 'get' that taboo, flushed feeling. If you find yourself wanting to play, you do, if not, you don't. It really is that simple. Furthermore, if you do feel a bit overwhelemed at some point there's always someone cool to talk to and relax you again. I've made girlfriends, like QBweaver and WMassdomme, not to mention wonderful gentlemen like Danimal, MKeemer, Jeff of Magic Touch and Max Speer himself, that I'll have for life. It's the event I look forward to all year, and as much as I love to play I can do that any time I want here in Ohio; I fly to Philly to see my friends.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] or PM if you'd like to talk

Bella

 

[steph]

Now my opinion may not count for much Bick, as I live in Cali and have never attended NEST but I HAVE been to several gatherings both here and at Passive Arts in LA and I am friends in real life (yes we've met!) with many of the regular NEST guests. Also, some of the NEST hosts~QB, Danimal, Terrorizer are dear friends, they live here in Northern Cal and we meet all the time for munches, gatherings, etc. I PROMISE you, no one will force you into anything you don't want. Go and have an amazing time!
XOXO

 

[Storm_Cat]

Quote:
Originally Posted by bickee
I can't imagine it being out in the open and NOT seem sexual. I'm pretty young 29 and pretty cute dammit! Haha. I just don't want to feel as if I'm surounded by a bunch of pervy men giving me the eye! I'm not trying to offend, just expressing my worries and concerns. I guess I've kept it a secret for so long I don't know how to bring it out in the open like you all!

Um, Bickee? If you're a cute female and live in the world, on some level you're always surrounded by men giving you the eye. At least at NEST, they all behave like perfect gentlemen and they're no pervier than you 😉 Personally I like the eye, let's me know I'm still a MILT (Mom I'd Love To Tickle). but I digress:

yes ... I wanted to comment on Bickee's reply as well ... any hetero man with a libido will look at an attractive female, and I'm sure some females would look at you as well ... otherwise, we'd all have to think of you all as Medusa, and not gaze upon you, elst we'd be turned into a pillar of stone! j/k 🙂

I'm a 4'11 female who's been attending NEST all alone since spring of 1999 when I was just 26. I also ran Midwest-NEST once upon a time and will again at some point. Let me tell you quite bluntly that NEST is just a really great party. Period. It's only as weird as you want to make it in your mind. Sure, there's tickling, and that's fun and exciting and stimulating and all that, but you get over the taboo feeling *very* quickly and it becomes like the thrill of being at an amusement park; fun and a rush, but certainly not uncomfortably sexual. A *lot* us ladies like us have fretted for months (or years) over it before they attended, then wondered what they were worried about. Over the NEST weekend you meet awesome people just like you and have dinner, talk about all kinds of topics, basically make friends for life who actually understand this part of you and 'get' that taboo, flushed feeling. If you find yourself wanting to play, you do, if not, you don't. It really is that simple. Furthermore, if you do feel a bit overwhelemed at some point there's always someone cool to talk to and relax you again. I've made girlfriends, like QBweaver and WMassdomme, not to mention wonderful gentlemen like Danimal, MKeemer, Jeff of Magic Touch and Max Speer himself, that I'll have for life. It's the event I look forward to all year, and as much as I love to play I can do that any time I want here in Ohio; I fly to Philly to see my friends.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] or PM if you'd like to talk

Bella

I'm glad you and others are informing those of us that have never been to a meeting and are curious about it. Personally, I'd love to go just to meet those here, but I have to say I would view a group tickling the way I view group sex .... not interested ... it's a private thing to me.

 

[ViperGTS]

I got here late!

The general ideas are like this:

a) Yes, we are perverts. But that's what we share: we're ALL perverts! That's why it's not wierd. We don't just tickle each other, we go to dinner, hang out, watch the game, whatever. The tickle play takes up maybe half of the time and us just being humans is the other half.

b) If you're strictly a ler, no one will tickle you. PERIOD. But, I have to admit that it's ALWAYS a good idea to allow yourself to be tickled by someone you TRUST, just to give it a shot.

c) Leer? I don't know about that. What you have to understand is that there are two types of interaction at NEST: The normal, vanilla stuff at restaraunts, or even at the lair when you're taking a break, during which time you'll get leered at the same way you do in every day life. The other type of interaction is tickle play, and if you're not involved in a scene, chances are, not a whole lot of attention is being paid to you anyhow.

I went to my first NEST at 18, took my lovely girlfriend last year at 19, and have every intention of attending the next one!

 

[bickee]

Thanks everyone for your replies. They make perfect sense. By "leer" I mean more of a look that you get from a construction worker who whistles as you walk by. Lol! But I'm willing to try depending on the date. I'm too intrigued not to!

 

[Ticklee1973]

I can understand your apprehension but from someone who joined the tickling community only two years ago and then just jumped right in and attended her first NEST five short months later, I can honestly say I don't regret it one bit and I have never met such incredible welcoming people in my life. As a female attending by myself, I didn't once feel like my safety was in jeopardy and no one tickled me that didn't ask for permission first. It was honestly the absolute best time I've ever had and I didn't once feel out of place. That's my story and I'm sticking to it, lol.

Sandee

 

[WorkInProgress]

Yeah, there's a well-defined code of appropriateness, and that precludes leering.

I'm not sure I'm quite ready to wear the "pervert" label, though, Viper. I'd say we're all kinky.

 

[Illtcklu]

Hi all. Here's the long and short of it. I've been a member of this community for a while now. I participated much more a few years ago, now that I am married to a non-tickler I peruse the site much less. But I've always been interested in Nest...yet afraid! What am I afraid of, you ask? Many things. I am mostly a ler and I'm afraid people will try to get ME tied up and tickled. I'm afraid of men leering at me. I'm afraid of being stuck in a group of people where I feel uncomfortable. Is that silly? You guys seem to have such a great time but I wonder...is tickling ALL that we have in common? Has anyone had a "bad" nest experience? Ok enough babbling.

I had some reservations at first too. And I'm a guy! But TickleJen has put me at ease with the idea, she told me there's security. So no one gets anything they really don't want!

 

[MrPartickler]

Actually, all the inevitable leering is why I've never gone to NEST either.

Ladies, my eyes are up <i>here</i>!

 

[bickee]

LOL!

 

[steph]

Oh ya babe, if you've ever seen the SIZE of Terrorizer or Big Dan, you'd know there's NOTHING to worry about. I'd hate to see those guys pissed. They're very protective of the gang.
XOXO

she told me there's security. So no one gets anything they really don't want!

 

[ViperGTS]

Agree, Steph. Also, I might not be half their size, but I think everyone knows not to cross me, either, hehe. *flexes*

 

[TickledToDeath]

Everything I would have said positive about NEST and the folks who attend has been said. I will add this.
If NEST is too overwhelming for ya with the sheer number of attendees, then try one of the smaller get togethers/gatherings/parties.....like The Hyenas Club, The MOTown Gathering and others like.......(see Gatherings Section).
Those are relatively smaller in scale.
Alot of the same people attend the aforementioned.

 

[maniactickler]

As long as im never at a nest to leer at you, you have nothing to worry about.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Everything I would have said positive about NEST and the folks who attend has been said. I will add this.
If NEST is too overwhelming for ya with the sheer number of attendees, then try one of the smaller get togethers/gatherings/parties.....like The Hyenas Club, The MOTown Gathering and others like.......(see Gatherings Section).
Those are relatively smaller in scale.
Alot of the same people attend the aforementioned.

Oh and one more thing, bickee, you can LER to your hearts desire. Nobody is gonna kidnap you against your will and MAKE you LEE.

TTD

 

[isabeau]

Oh and one more thing, bickee, you can LER to your hearts desire. Nobody is gonna kidnap you against your will and MAKE you LEE.

TTD

welllll rats there goes my fantasy. sighs. lol

isabeau