Scared to share tickling.

[robotickler3000]

I haven't dated in a long time.
My last date was the Saturday after Labor Day 2003.
I have had a tickle torture sexual fetish since I was 8 years old.
Seriously. I masturbated to the Fraggle Rock episode when the Fraggles get tickled by those catapiller things.
How does an adult share a tickle torture fetish with another adult without shame and embarrassment?
I've never told anyone that I'm in to this. Dating is hard enough in mid-40s.

 

[The_Kev]

My approach has always been to go with the flow of conventional flirting and sexual advances, and work tickling in as a cute, flirtatious kind of thing until the time is right.

You'd be surprised how many guys and gals end up saying that they like it, or at least discover that they like the power that they have over you.

Incidentally, I used to get triggered by that scene in the jungle book where kind louie gets tickled by baloo. I feel u bro. *chest bump*

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[The Internet]

Don't sweat it so much. It's really not a big deal.

First off, people are a lot more "aware" and accepting of fetishes than they used to be. They've heard more about it, maybe even seen it.

Secondly it's already in the toolbox of foreplay and flirting. All it really takes is to tell her she looks "hot" or "beautiful" when she gets tickled, say it in the moment, while she's getting tickled. Plant that seed, and then later that night....or later in the relationship...you can be more candid. Ask her what SHE likes. Which is good to know. And when it's your turn you can just offhandedly say you've always thought it was sexy when a woman gets tickled. (then turn it on HER). I think it's sexy when YOU get tickled.

My experience has been women (and guys Ive simply told about the kink) get a kind of lightbulb moment. My girlfriends have all (at first) thought it interesting, intriguing......One said "it's so original!" she thought it was great. It's when we overdo it, get selfish (as some of us guys can be) and act overly fetishistic about it that they can get turned off to it.

But the first step is this: There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with this. It's cute, it's sweet, it's hot,it's all good clean fun. It's like having a fetish for kissing,or hugging. You dig? You're not weird. You may be weird.....but not because of this. This is GOOD weird.

The more confident you are with it, the easier she's going to be with it. Being shy and vulnerable about it works also. They think you're going to tell them you have a fetish for having sex with rats and instead it turns out to be "that's it? That's your big secret? Tickling? Awwww!"

If she goes EWWWWWW. You're creepy! Then maybe she's not the one......but at least you've already tickled her! lol. You've got your war story!

 

[Libertine]

I haven't dated in a long time.
My last date was the Saturday after Labor Day 2003.
Dating is hard enough in mid-40s.

No hope whatsoever, I'm afraid. No woman on earth likes being tickled, especially all the women on this forum. They're lying. So those 16 years come Labor Day you've spent in onanistic solitude are merely setting the tone for the rest of your entire monkish existence.

If, after going out with a girl a few times and discovering there's mutual attraction and you so much as tickle her playfully, it will be far worse to her (because this will have never happened to her before) than if you'd admitted you like stealing women's underwear from clotheslines after peeking through their windows at night, or sleeping with extremely unwilling eight year old boys, or ravishing corpses of both sexes during the night shift at the mortuary where you work, or that you're actually a roving psychopathic serial killer, and she's going to be the next -but of course far from the last!- of your uncountable tally of victims.

Also, you're too old now. Of course, I did marry a very beautiful just-turned 24 year old in 2006 when I was 50 after two previous wives and a very eventful time while single (although far from being tall, looking like Apollo or having a regular salary) and we're still together, but I am actually lying and this sort of thing never could happen in a million years.

Now then- until you hate the idea of celibacy more than you hate the idea of rejection, you're going to be stuck in neutral, miserable, lonely, unlaid and generally being 'that guy'. So get out there and start developing a suitably calloused ego by clocking up a few fresh rejections and a few fresh hurts until some girl says 'Yes', as will happen eventually. And when you screw that one up after a date or so, take a deep breath and try again within a week. This is called 'Being a male'. And I promise it does get easier. It's never fun approaching any woman for the first time or judging the right time to make a pass, but it does get easier if you keep trying with different 'persons of femaleness'. Because they are people with all the plusses and minuses thereon attendant and don't forget that.

Good luck, don't dress like a slob and and get your arse out there.

Repeatedly.

 

[Lisatheticklee]

No hope whatsoever, I'm afraid. No woman on earth likes being tickled, especially all the women on this forum. They're lying.

Somebody actually said that once on here or it was something along the tune of how no women are ticklish.

As for the OP it's basically what everyone else is saying and its very simplistic but you'll never know unless you try. I know its really daunting but the only way you'll ever find out is if you ask. Rejection is harsh but you'll overcome it and its better than sitting around contemplating about what could be.

 

[Libertine]

Rejection is harsh but you'll overcome it and its better than sitting around contemplating about what could be.

Or as the Spanish say, 'No country is sadder than the Land of Might-Have-Been'.

 

[robmic]

I had some interesting interactions when I was younger. I never brought out that I was into tickling per sey. I was mainly interested in getting layied. Tickling was an after thought. I just brought it out as a way to initiate the process. But, it worked pretty good getting to the actual goal! I would play the game making out and just throw in some tickling to move things along. It seemed to work good. By playing around tickling them some, they would decide that getting cozy was better than being tickled and things would move along. Worked for me! Remember, this was the 80's and the one night stand was king and it was easier to throw in tickling to get to your goal.

 

[FFT32]

I haven't dated in a long time.
My last date was the Saturday after Labor Day 2003.
I have had a tickle torture sexual fetish since I was 8 years old.
Seriously. I masturbated to the Fraggle Rock episode when the Fraggles get tickled by those catapiller things.
How does an adult share a tickle torture fetish with another adult without shame and embarrassment?
I've never told anyone that I'm in to this. Dating is hard enough in mid-40s.

IMO, One of the greatest and most frightening things in life is the pursuit of what you love.

We all have different thresholds. You have to decide what is right for you.

Good Luck Sir.

 

[OmahaTickler]

Just some general advice:

--Avoid trying to "convert" someone who is simply averse to tickling. Warning signs: "Oh, I hate being tickled" or "my siblings tickled me until I couldn't breathe." This suggests hard-wired negativity that not even the most skilled tickler can overcome.

--Before you mention your fetish, watch for red flags when she talks about things and people, e.g., "You're not a freak, are you?" "I've dated some real weirdos," or "He gave me the creeps." This suggests that she is not adventurous and is skeptical or otherwise unwilling to experiment. As someone above rightly said, many fetishes have been mainstreamed in the past 20 years, but that doesn't mean everyone necessarily is open-minded.

--Don't call it "tickle torture," which suggests "This dude's got a dungeon with chains and wells."

--Don't over-explain, just demonstrate. This, of course, is for when you've reached the ballpark and are at first or second base, i.e., in private, touching, etc. Ask her if she's ever received a "sensual massage," then massage her, and now and then do some light strokes here and there and gauge her reactions. You should be able to gauge her vibes by then. If she tenses up or gets in the fetal position, she's not touchy-feely, and you're likely at a dead end, but she might just be all, "it tickles, but it feels good." Then go from there.

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[tickletherapist]

If you do something, don't be ashamed of it. Or else don't do it.
It's "weird" only if you think it's weird yourself.

 

[duderino84]

I haven't dated in a long time.
My last date was the Saturday after Labor Day 2003.
I have had a tickle torture sexual fetish since I was 8 years old.
Seriously. I masturbated to the Fraggle Rock episode when the Fraggles get tickled by those catapiller things.
How does an adult share a tickle torture fetish with another adult without shame and embarrassment?
I've never told anyone that I'm in to this. Dating is hard enough in mid-40s.

Well, forget the fraggle stuff. That's one. Basically pretend you're just a guy into guy stuff.

Meet a woman. Take her out. Joke with her. Maybe fit in some dumb shit about how "laughter is important" and sandwich in "even if it means tickling them". The worst reactions have been "cut that shit out, nobody likes that" and the standard is "oh God I'm so ticklish". Don't spend time being too timid, you'll only ruminate on it, being additionally unattractive to others.