I've never been able to feed my foot/tickling fetish. I haven't had any sexual interaction with a woman even on "normal" levels. I am so sexually frustrated, I feel as if I am going to explode, and it is quite often unbearable, to the point where I have to masturbate 5 or 6 times within a short time frame, just so I can function normally for the rest of the night, without becoming distracted by the obsessive thoughts, and unbearable physical urges. Let me save some of you the trouble of telling me to go see a psychiatrist, because I know. I can't. It would be more emberassing than I could live with, to sit in a room with someone, and tell them how I'm obsessed with women's feet and tickling I am, and that I have no release whatsoever. I don't know what to do, any suggestions or advice? Serious and tangible advice only please, I'm really not in the mood for jokes, or far fetched ideas. Am I alone here? Does anyone else feel the same way? Have the same difficulty?
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Serious Problem Fetish Related Sexual Frustration
cosquillero1
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Oni said:
Well, i've been a women's feet fetishist all my life (since i had 5 years old) until present, and when i was younger, i did the same thing as you, masturbating several times each day, especially when i saw outstanding woman bare feet. My advice is, take it easy, you won't die for this fetish, meanwhile the time is elapsing, you'll learn to control yourself better than now. Right now, i can't to take sex with a woman without to tickle her bare soles, but this isn't a trouble to me, i explain to the woman than that situation is pretty attractive to me, like breast are for many men, butt for anothers and so. Be calmed and relaxed when you're with the woman, show her how her feet excite you, that is easy, i only tickle her bare soles and voila !!, my penis do it 🙂. I try to get the best thing of each situation. Good luck !!.
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cosquillero1
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You get it my friend !! 😉 😀.Oni said:
Oni said:
It's good advice, and a very valid point. A fetish isn't some crazy psycho thing...it's just a matter of what turns you on. Most women are very acceptive of this, if they love you enough to understand. 🙂
Take it easy man. Good luck to you.
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Thank you for your encouragement, Kunoke. Women are accepting of this though? All I've heard is horror stories, of being laughed at mocked, and sometimes even scaring off women with it. Yes, if they love you enough to understand, of course it makes sense then, but it's hard to find one like that, when I am having trouble finding one at all! ::Sarcastic laughter::
But thank you for your encouragement.Everyone else, keep the advice and stories coming!
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Oni--you're in San Francisco, a region of the world where anything goes sexually. Have you checked any of the clubs in the region? I guarantee there are outlets for you right in your own town if you do some research. And you and Cosquillero are right--it's no different than some people liking breasts or butts--we like what we like. Nothing to be ashamed of...it's all good!!! Best of luck in your pursuits!!!
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The feet are your portal to the whole woman
They attract you but you must open yourself to the whole experience and avoid solely concentrating on the feet.
They attract you but you must open yourself to the whole experience and avoid solely concentrating on the feet.
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A fetish, by today's standards is not the sickness it was described as in the past. In fact, fetishism was never "sick." As repressed as our culture is, fetishism is considered "quirky" now, as opposed to "sick;" it's kinky instead of depraved. These new vernaculars have helped to bring many fetishes and kinky behavior into the forefront of American pop culture, and as such, has exposed more women at younger ages to the nature of fetishism. This gives you a leg up (no pun intented) on being accepted and finding someone who not only understands your prediliction, but may even embrace it as kinky fun, herself.
Until that day comes, however, you're going to have to do something about your pent up frustration. Anxiety compounded by frustration and embarrassment causes a repressed emotional state that, if gone unchecked, may actually interfere with your ability to interact with women in the future. You need to gain some confidence and peace of mind through an uncomplicated, and non-judgemental outlet.
If you haven't done so already, I suggest you seek the services of another kind of professional - someone in the fetish business who can, for a fee, offer you the kind of outlet that will allow you to realize your fantasies without the concern about their acceptance. I'm not talking about sex for hire here, so don't get the wrong idea. Just the experience of being able to tickle and play with a woman's feet will sate some of the psychological anxieties that you presently feel. Check the web for role play professionals, dominatrixes (ones who offer submissives as well), and psychodrama. It will do you a world of good.
Until that day comes, however, you're going to have to do something about your pent up frustration. Anxiety compounded by frustration and embarrassment causes a repressed emotional state that, if gone unchecked, may actually interfere with your ability to interact with women in the future. You need to gain some confidence and peace of mind through an uncomplicated, and non-judgemental outlet.
If you haven't done so already, I suggest you seek the services of another kind of professional - someone in the fetish business who can, for a fee, offer you the kind of outlet that will allow you to realize your fantasies without the concern about their acceptance. I'm not talking about sex for hire here, so don't get the wrong idea. Just the experience of being able to tickle and play with a woman's feet will sate some of the psychological anxieties that you presently feel. Check the web for role play professionals, dominatrixes (ones who offer submissives as well), and psychodrama. It will do you a world of good.
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Maybe try paying for it if you have to.
Hey oni dude, im in the exact same position as you, so yeah I can relate. I have had this foot/tickle fetish since i was about 3 and yet till this day 2 decades later I still have yet to satisfy this overwhelming need. That also goes for "normal" sexual needs aswell. It would probably kill me to masturbate 5 times i day plus being a uni student time flies by quickly and there are not enough hours in the day , it doesnt stop me doing it a couple times a day though. The thing about me is that when i do it, its not about normal sexual interaction i always do it over tickling, in fact i have NEVER done it over the thought of normal sex, it just doesnt work for me.
And yes women are acceptive to this kind of stuff, you just gotta find the right ones whom you know you can trust, eventually your confidence in yourself and your fetish will grow and your chances of finding someone to indulge in your desires will rise.
Its definatly happend for me, before, telling anyonr about it was out of the question cuz i thought i would be ridiculed to death, but there were 3 girls whom i knew i could trust and one night when we were all drunk i told em then and they have been ok with it since and are very curious about it too, some potential oppertunities already if they didnt have boyfriends though, but you get what i mean.
Ignore the women whom are going to look down on you for this and keep searching until you find one who will like and take part in it, dont worry about "vanilla" type people who will laugh, get back up and carry on walking to show them that you aint light weight and you will become more confident in comfronting women in general and things can only get better from that point on.
And yes women are acceptive to this kind of stuff, you just gotta find the right ones whom you know you can trust, eventually your confidence in yourself and your fetish will grow and your chances of finding someone to indulge in your desires will rise.
Its definatly happend for me, before, telling anyonr about it was out of the question cuz i thought i would be ridiculed to death, but there were 3 girls whom i knew i could trust and one night when we were all drunk i told em then and they have been ok with it since and are very curious about it too, some potential oppertunities already if they didnt have boyfriends though, but you get what i mean.
Ignore the women whom are going to look down on you for this and keep searching until you find one who will like and take part in it, dont worry about "vanilla" type people who will laugh, get back up and carry on walking to show them that you aint light weight and you will become more confident in comfronting women in general and things can only get better from that point on.
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Ok here's some advise you'd be wise to take:
1. It doesn't matter if you've found that special someone that'll indulge you or screw your brains out, unless your gettin it every hr on the hr you gonna still masturbate. You know why? CUZ YOUR A GUY! Now we all vary but it's just the way we're plumbed.
Maybe not 5 or 6 rubs a day but if your young and stimulated...unless you plan on being with a nympho you're still gonna fantasize and masturbate.
2. Take small steps towards talking to women about this stuff. What I did was talk about tickling and the foot fetish to the only women who've heard it all before (and probably have even heard of this stuff): exotic dancers. They've probably heard of every fetish and perverted thing known to man in their job and they're very sexually open (In my experience) and once more they might be into it 🙂
Once you become comfortable talking about this to hot women and finding some sort of acceptance it'll be easier to talk to everyday girls about it.
Besides, Dude...you live Frisco! you live in the most sexually accepting city in the nation. Go down to the Mitchel Bros. Theater or The Market Street Theater and find someone that'll rock your world and let you tickle theirs!
3. Don't act like it's a deep dark perverted secret when you speak of the fetish.
The more you talk about it with a certain normalcy and confidence, the less you'll feel self conscience about it. Then if don't feel self conscience about it, the less likely the people to will feel uncomfortable about it. Anytime you want to communicate to other people that something isn't a big deal, you have to come off like it's the most natural thing in the world. It's all about how you carry yourself. If you talk like it's a dirty little secret then that's how it's going to be conveyed, but if you come off like it's just fun, sexy and playful (which of course it is) then that's how it's going to be received.
4. Just remember... and this is important ...EVERYONE has their little fetishes, prefrences or dislikes in the boudoir!! If it's a guy wanting his woman to talk dirty to him or a woman wanting her man to spank her or both like to roleplay...everyones got something they like and fantasize about to spice things up. So remember we're not that far out there.
1. It doesn't matter if you've found that special someone that'll indulge you or screw your brains out, unless your gettin it every hr on the hr you gonna still masturbate. You know why? CUZ YOUR A GUY! Now we all vary but it's just the way we're plumbed.
Maybe not 5 or 6 rubs a day but if your young and stimulated...unless you plan on being with a nympho you're still gonna fantasize and masturbate.
2. Take small steps towards talking to women about this stuff. What I did was talk about tickling and the foot fetish to the only women who've heard it all before (and probably have even heard of this stuff): exotic dancers. They've probably heard of every fetish and perverted thing known to man in their job and they're very sexually open (In my experience) and once more they might be into it 🙂
Once you become comfortable talking about this to hot women and finding some sort of acceptance it'll be easier to talk to everyday girls about it.
Besides, Dude...you live Frisco! you live in the most sexually accepting city in the nation. Go down to the Mitchel Bros. Theater or The Market Street Theater and find someone that'll rock your world and let you tickle theirs!
3. Don't act like it's a deep dark perverted secret when you speak of the fetish.
The more you talk about it with a certain normalcy and confidence, the less you'll feel self conscience about it. Then if don't feel self conscience about it, the less likely the people to will feel uncomfortable about it. Anytime you want to communicate to other people that something isn't a big deal, you have to come off like it's the most natural thing in the world. It's all about how you carry yourself. If you talk like it's a dirty little secret then that's how it's going to be conveyed, but if you come off like it's just fun, sexy and playful (which of course it is) then that's how it's going to be received.
4. Just remember... and this is important ...EVERYONE has their little fetishes, prefrences or dislikes in the boudoir!! If it's a guy wanting his woman to talk dirty to him or a woman wanting her man to spank her or both like to roleplay...everyones got something they like and fantasize about to spice things up. So remember we're not that far out there.
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hotchytick2
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It's not the foot thing that's really the problem. It's the uncontrolable thinking that is the problem. This you need to learn to control, or find away to control this. If you don't want to see a shrink, find a healther outlet like exercizing. Exercizing will take away a lot of that excess energy and repetative thinking. I do suggest getting help though if you can't control the rumination (thinking about the same topic over and over again)
Amen Camel!
Look Oni~I'm a little further north and inland (Sacramento) but have lots of good friends in the Bay Area. The scene there is ON FIRE! Lots of us girls out here LOVE it. No need to suffer like you are. Or pay anyone.
PM me if you want more info.
XOXO
Look Oni~I'm a little further north and inland (Sacramento) but have lots of good friends in the Bay Area. The scene there is ON FIRE! Lots of us girls out here LOVE it. No need to suffer like you are. Or pay anyone.
PM me if you want more info.
XOXO
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Hey, I've had the same problem. I had to slowly work towards telling my girlfriend I had an attraction to her feet. I eventually just told her, and I explained how I aquired my fetish from seeing that infamous episode of Ninja Turtles when I was 4. She was so understanding, she doesn't think its weird, and though she doesn't understand it, she is very open and lets me play/tickle her feet before sex. She does this because she knows if this happens the sex will be much better. There were times when it was frustrating, but the sooner you both can come to terms with it, the sooner you get great sex, tickling and feet.
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I'm sorry it took me a day or two to reply to everyone. Thank you all for your advice so far. I need clear something up though, I DON'T live in San Francisco. I live in upstate New York. I had to change my location during my last post, because someone was trying to mess with me, and I wanted to make them have as little factual information about me they could. I will change that back now. Anyway, do any of you know of anywhere I could try in the upstate New York area? One of the places I'm hoping to try is the www.footworshippalace.com but it is expensive, to pay for the service and the trip down there, hotel etc. (By the way has anyone heard of that place?)
I'm sorry it took me a day or two to reply to everyone. Thank you all for your advice so far. I need clear something up though, I DON'T live in San Francisco. I live in upstate New York. I had to change my location during my last post, because someone was trying to mess with me, and I wanted to make them have as little factual information about me they could. I will change that back now. Anyway, do any of you know of anywhere I could try in the upstate New York area? One of the places I'm hoping to try is the www.footworshippalace.com but it is expensive, to pay for the service and the trip down there, hotel etc. (By the way has anyone heard of that place?)
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Well, all I can offer is to say hang in there....Your desire won't go away, nor should it. Each of us here has a special desire that helps to define us as persons and makes us a very special person. As one of the older contributers on this site, I can tell you that your fetish will probobly not go away, ever. But, as you get older and have more interaction with women, you will find that many, many are open minded about their partners urges. Always be open to theirs too! When I was younger, I also felt much of the frustration you feel now, but trust me on this, things will get better. Accept yourself for who you are, and be happy. You are not alone!
Yeah, we've heard of it. Once again, in case anyone thought I stuttered, you DO NOT have to pay for it. The NY scene is alive and well. Maybe write to TDD and get on his invite list~this is seriously a no-brainer...
XOXO
XOXO
Oni said:
Unfortunately, at age 40, I've only found 2 women that will entertain and encourage our fetish. There out there, though. All over this site, in fact. And, yes, like you, I've always been dominated, distracted and just overwhelmed by my attraction to women's feet. Everyday, everywhere, no matter what. I do think we have to learn to control it. I'm not really sure I agree that you should hire a professional as an outlet. It sounds great, but once you have that in your head, will any women in a "real relationship" ever be able to compare, e.g., excite you the way the pro does? Probably not. Hang in there.
Dude, remember this when going to any "gatherings" of people from internet forums. Number 1, your not going to get laid, or at least dont expect to get any kind of sexual gratification, unless its from yourself. Assuming your goona "get some" when going would be stupid. Number two, dont expect to be attracted to any women there either, you could set yourself up for dissapointment. Im not saying the women are ugly, but you really wont know till your there. I say dont be a creep about it to women you meet regularly, or go pay for it.
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I respectfully disagree...Isn't that like saying "Son, never go to a Strip Joint because when you find that special someone, her body will never compare, e.g., excite you the way the pro does"?
My thesis is that if he chooses to hire someone (not necessarily a pro) to indulge his foot/tickling fetish he will;
1. Be able to think straight and maybe not have to fixate on his fetish 24/7
2. Be able to practice bringing this to the forefront of his psyche and dispense of the shame factor
3. ..and bring a sense of confidence when broaching the subject in future relationships. After he finds a comfortable approach, he will be more likely to navigate himself into more positive, fetish friendly conversations and hopefully relationships.
