ArchNemesis
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also, why do women find the idea of a guy masturbating to thoughts of her or images of her to be creepy? Why do they not see it as "if he didn't find me physically attractive, he wouldn't want to masturbate to me"? Being seen by others, especially men, as physically attractive is very important to women, so I've read. I've read that feeling sexy arouses a woman sexually. If a guy didn't find you sexy (ie good looking), he wouldn't be masturbating to you. I would think a woman would find to be a compliment. I know if a woman walked up to me and told me she pleasures herself to thoughts or images of me, I would not find it creepy in the least. It would make me feel good looking.
And as to my initial question, why does masturbation seem to be associated with creepiness? I saw one thread where someone on here says "if you don't find such & such creepy, I'm surprised you were able to stop masturbating long enough to post". That right there associates masturbation with creepiness. In a thread where I said I found out a couple of female co-workers were ticklish on their feet, and I masturbated because I knew they were ticklish on their feet, that was called creepy. Maybe is it that women don't like the idea of a guy deriving pleasure from her while offering nothing in return? Meaning, he's taking value from her (sexual pleasure from thoughts/pictures of her) but he's not giving any value to her? He's just taking and she gets nothing out of it? I've read that people don't like those who just want to take without giving anything in return. But the way I see it, getting something for nothing is just smart. People don't shop for the most expensive they can find, they shop for bargains. Well isn't getting something for nothing the ultimate bargain? Why try to put together a "win-win" situation where both parties benefit, when you can make a win-lose situation where all the benefit is yours and yours alone? To me its just self-interest, Me First. That's the way of the world.
Also, what if a guy is only interested in his own sexual pleasure? What if he's "solosexual"? Women are good for providing him with masturbation fodder, but the idea of sharing pleasure with a woman doesn't interest him? Some people are just wired differently. I know, keep the masturbation to yourself and it's not an issue. But if gays, bisexuals, transsexuals, etc are no longer told to "keep it to themselves", then neither should solosexuals. If gays, bisexuals, transsexuals, etc are told "whatever makes you happy", then so should guys who prefer to masturbate to pictures or thoughts of women. No more double standards.
And as to my initial question, why does masturbation seem to be associated with creepiness? I saw one thread where someone on here says "if you don't find such & such creepy, I'm surprised you were able to stop masturbating long enough to post". That right there associates masturbation with creepiness. In a thread where I said I found out a couple of female co-workers were ticklish on their feet, and I masturbated because I knew they were ticklish on their feet, that was called creepy. Maybe is it that women don't like the idea of a guy deriving pleasure from her while offering nothing in return? Meaning, he's taking value from her (sexual pleasure from thoughts/pictures of her) but he's not giving any value to her? He's just taking and she gets nothing out of it? I've read that people don't like those who just want to take without giving anything in return. But the way I see it, getting something for nothing is just smart. People don't shop for the most expensive they can find, they shop for bargains. Well isn't getting something for nothing the ultimate bargain? Why try to put together a "win-win" situation where both parties benefit, when you can make a win-lose situation where all the benefit is yours and yours alone? To me its just self-interest, Me First. That's the way of the world.
Also, what if a guy is only interested in his own sexual pleasure? What if he's "solosexual"? Women are good for providing him with masturbation fodder, but the idea of sharing pleasure with a woman doesn't interest him? Some people are just wired differently. I know, keep the masturbation to yourself and it's not an issue. But if gays, bisexuals, transsexuals, etc are no longer told to "keep it to themselves", then neither should solosexuals. If gays, bisexuals, transsexuals, etc are told "whatever makes you happy", then so should guys who prefer to masturbate to pictures or thoughts of women. No more double standards.
