Should I tell her?

[seanwoj]

But

Well see, there's your mistake. I'm not out to win anything and I'm pretty sure Myriads isn't either. We have a simple difference of opinion, that's all. Sorry to disappoint you, but there's no "epic battles" with phasers or light sabers happening. Just two dudes having a conversation.

Hey come on now. You're not....THAT tacky.

Well as long as we're evaluating intellect a la Star Trek, I'd rate yours right up there with the Pakleds'. 😀

We are smart!

No, I don't. What I assume is that the OP's fiance will be territorial about her man engaging in behavior that he will have described as sexual activity, assuming he follows the shitty advice you gave him.

Actually it was YOU who described the hypothetical behavior as "irrational."

I know what I said. Wow, you must be really desperate to resort to this depth of nitpicking in hopes of finding some vague inconstency on which to hang me. Keep it up and you'll be chasing ambulances with the best of them.

LOL. At least I HAVE a position, dude. Let me know when you get one.

Sure, I'll be glad to as soon as you can quote me stating those "assertions" the way you've listed them. Of course, if you could have done that, you already would have, wouldn't you?

So before this goes on and on, here's what I said:

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The "most guys" in this case refers to most guys in his hypothetical position. There was no assertion that most guys will tire of tickling their S/O, There was a simply a conditional. If A, then B.

Another way to say it is, "If he eventually decides his SO's laughter or tickling techniques don't cut it, he'll be compelled to seek it out in others. The same is true for most guys who eventually decide their SO's laughter or tickling techniques don't cut it."

In short, what you mistook for assertion was merely supposition.

Actually, what you said was this...

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When you use the modifer "absolutely," you preclude any and all exceptions, including "thinking about it."

Then again, for others, it's a 100% turn on and they'd rather have that with anyone OTHER THAN their s/o.

I'll tell you what I can't grasp. A grown woman using such infantile dialogue.

Just because YOU'RE a big fat poopy pants doesn't mean WE are. Nyeah nyeah!​

Grow up, for God's sake.

Given.

Definitely not given.

Oh, you said more than that...

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That's a promise that I suspect will be difficult to keep.

This presumes all women think the same way, and I don't need to be a woman or Richard Simmons to tell you that's bullshit.

Wow... I like how you just go off and insult everyone that made a comment. Allow me to give a few insults back.

Tell us, do you suffer from an inferiority complex that causes you to insult everyone just to show how much of a child you are?

Sure seems that way to me.

Also, tell me, and the rest of the TMF, are you always this diluted or just since stupidity set in?

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

But

Wow... I like how you just go off and insult everyone that made a comment.

Wow, I like how you wildly exaggerate. I most certainly did not insult everyone that made a comment. I just tend to treat people how they treat me.

You for example, out of the blue issue a command for me to "stop arguing with Myriads." Seriously, who the fuck are you to decide who gets to argue and who doesn't? Then on top of that you refer to me as "some tacky wannabe."

And now that you got a taste of your own medicine you start pissing and moaning about it.

 

[femfttickler21]

Ok apparently I was wrong and he corrected me...he is not Richard Simmons. However with the tampon he apparently has shoved up his butt....He apparently is Dick Simmons and is upset because Richard is the one that is a pony.

Yes I know this makes no sense, and will certainly result in yet another attack from our "special" friend, but I could not resist. He spits complete nonsense so I figured I would give it a try as well.

 

[seanwoj]

Wow, I like how you wildly exaggerate. I most certainly did not insult everyone that made a comment. I just tend to treat people how they treat me.

You for example, out of the blue issue a command for me to "stop arguing with Myriads." Seriously, who the fuck are you to decide who gets to argue and who doesn't? Then on top of that you refer to me as "some tacky wannabe."

And now that you got a taste of your own medicine you start pissing and moaning about it.

Again with the insults.

Heres a radical idea, try taking what everyone says with a grain of salt and stop being so rude and disrespectfu l whenever someone offers you some advice.

You are a tacky wannabe. You consistently tell people to go off and tickle women without any thought of repercusion of what the outcome can result in. Be it good or bad.

It seems to me that you have some sort of insecurity issue or inferiority complex that causes you to argue against every person here that seemingly has a a dilemma.

But as it seems right now, arguing with you is like arguing with a two year old. All you wanna hear is the psycho babble that you spit out, and dam whoever else that tries to give insight to the bigger issue.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

Yes I know this makes no sense, and will certainly result in yet another attack from our "special" friend, but I could not resist. He spits complete nonsense so I figured I would give it a try as well.

Dude, I would never attack you. Far be it for me to add to your troubles.

Again with the insults.

Indeed. You called me a tacky wannabee. Again. Are you just playing forum Russian Roulette? Or do you really want to incur the Wrath of Myriads? I'll admit my banter is snappy and has an edge to it, but you are just crossing every line you can find.

Heres a radical idea, try taking what everyone says with a grain of salt and stop being so rude and disrespectfu l whenever someone offers you some advice.

Here's an even more radical idea. If you want to be treated respectfully, don't call people names. Give a little, get a little. Surely you must see how hypocritical it is to decry my banter as insults when you are resorting to the most blatant GR violation there is....name calling.

You consistently tell people to go off and tickle women without any thought of repercusion of what the outcome can result in. Be it good or bad.

That's bullshit. I've always counseled caution, preparation, and then only after carefully discerning a valid opportunity. You can label the behavior as tacky, and I might even agree, but you can't put that label on another TMF member. You keep calling me a "wannabe" but you conveniently never say what it is you think I want to be.

It seems to me that you have some sort of insecurity issue or inferiority complex that causes you to argue against every person here that seemingly has a a dilemma.

In case you haven't noticed, this is a DISCUSSION forum. There is going to be disagreement, debate and argument. Raising objections or giving advice to the contrary of the mainstream is no indicator of a complex.

But as it seems right now, arguing with you is like arguing with a two year old. All you wanna hear is the psycho babble that you spit out, and dam whoever else that tries to give insight to the bigger issue.

LOL. You're going to accuse me of "psycho babble?" I'm not the one playing Dr. Phil, throwing out hackneyed diagnosis like "insecurity issue" or "inferiority complex."

Seriously, dude. Get help. You talk of giving advice. That's my advice to you.

 

[ticklemepls]

Dude, I would never attack you. Far be it for me to add to your troubles.

Did you hear that babe?! You're excused from his attack list!! WAHOO! Good job!!

And for the record seanwoj has a point. Every time someone doesn't agree with you .... you start quoting them and acting like a 2 year old stomping your feet until people just start ignoring everything you say. In every damn thread you comment in, it goes completely off course and turns into a train wreck because you start throwing insults around instead of points. Perfect example is you accusing me of using "such infantile dialogue" ... When you're supposed to be middle aged.... and you act like this?! Seriously dude....

THINKING about it and DOING it are 2 different things for the record. In order to conclude one doesnt want to partake in things with others, they first have to THINK about partaking in things with others and see if it remotely interests them.

I digress... it's pointless ...

 

[seanwoj]

Dude, I would never attack you. Far be it for me to add to your troubles.

Indeed. You called me a tacky wannabee. Again. Are you just playing forum Russian Roulette? Or do you really want to incur the Wrath of Myriads? I'll admit my banter is snappy and has an edge to it, but you are just crossing every line you can find.

Here's an even more radical idea. If you want to be treated respectfully, don't call people names. Give a little, get a little. Surely you must see how hypocritical it is to decry my banter as insults when you are resorting to the most blatant GR violation there is....name calling.

That's bullshit. I've always counseled caution, preparation, and then only after carefully discerning a valid opportunity. You can label the behavior as tacky, and I might even agree, but you can't put that label on another TMF member. You keep calling me a "wannabe" but you conveniently never say what it is you think I want to be.

In case you haven't noticed, this is a DISCUSSION forum. There is going to be disagreement, debate and argument. Raising objections or giving advice to the contrary of the mainstream is no indicator of a complex.

LOL. You're going to accuse me of "psycho babble?" I'm not the one playing Dr. Phil, throwing out hackneyed diagnosis like "insecurity issue" or "inferiority complex."

Seriously, dude. Get help. You talk of giving advice. That's my advice to you.

Ok dude... you really are in love with the sound of your own voice. You know what? Just keep thinking and acting the way you do, and I'm sure everyone will see what I said sooner or later.

Thats my advice to you Doctor Phil.

 

[seanwoj]

Did you hear that babe?! You're excused from his attack list!! WAHOO! Good job!!

And for the record seanwoj has a point. Every time someone doesn't agree with you .... you start quoting them and acting like a 2 year old stomping your feet until people just start ignoring everything you say. In every damn thread you comment in, it goes completely off course and turns into a train wreck because you start throwing insults around instead of points. Perfect example is you accusing me of using "such infantile dialogue" ... When you're supposed to be middle aged.... and you act like this?! Seriously dude....

THINKING about it and DOING it are 2 different things for the record. In order to conclude one doesnt want to partake in things with others, they first have to THINK about partaking in things with others and see if it remotely interests them.

I digress... it's pointless ...

Finally, someone I can relate too!

I agree it is pointless.

 

[pfromptown]

I haven't read any of the other replies, I'm just going to share what happened with me and my significant other and you can take or leave it...

We too have been together almost five years and will also end up getting married at some point (although not too soon, we're still a bit young for that!). The difference is that my GF has known about my tickling thing since the first few months we got together. Pretty soon after we'd hooked up I told her that I had a fetish but wasn't willing to specify what it was as I didn't feel comfortable, but she snooped around on my computer and found out what it was. I was furious at first -I even kicked her out of my flat on the night that she told me - but then I came to realise that she hadn't done it because she was nosy or even just because her curiosity had gotten the better of her: she'd done it because she loves me and she wants to satisfy my every sexual desire, no matter what it was. As it turned out, she is also into stuff that complements tickling beautifully: she enjoys being tied down, likes to say the words "No" and "Stop" and have them ignored, enjoys being gagged, and has gorgeous feet, so it turned out perfectly in the end and our relationship has gone from strength to strength ever since.

The whole incident made me realise that it was all part of loving someone: to accept them for who they are, the bad and the good. Put yourself in her position - if she told you that she had a fetish for something, would you think it was weird and make her feel awkward or would you try to accomodate it because you love her? I know there is the potential for things to go tits up when you confess something like this to someone but based on my experience I would say go for it, it'll probably turn out better than you think it will. And on the off-chance that it doesn't, as painful as may be to face and as shitty as this is to say, she probably isn't the person you think she is anyway...

Good luck and I'm sure it'll all turn out for the best 🙂