Should the one that you love should they be willing to try out your fetish

[Butterfly wings]

I'm talking about if your in a relationship or dating someone. And he or she is sort of vanilla to your fetish and turn on or just does not understand it. If that is the case. Do you think though that he/she should always still be willing to at least try to go along with your fetish and turn on's for the sake of you and with what makes you happy?

What are your thoughts on this?

 

[RChello]

I dunno ,,,

does your significant other understand your farting fetish?🙂 (ducking and running like hell)

 

[Butterfly wings]

does your significant other understand your farting fetish?🙂 (ducking and running like hell)

 

[thx10050]

From your writing, it seems you're asking if your significant other is obligated to try out your fetish for the sake of your happiness. To this, I say no, they aren't obligated at all and from the way you put it, it seems rather selfish to think otherwise. I believe a significant other should at least try to understand why this fetish turns you on, but he/she isn't isn't 'required' to do anything for your own sake; they do things for you because they care about you. Your question makes the relationship sound rather one-sided in this case, slanted towards what makes one person happy.

This may have come across in a roundabout way, but simply put: No, I don't believe he/she should always still be willing. Some people just aren't into certain things and you just have to respect that if they mean a great deal to you. But like I said, if the significant other does care about you and who you are, he/she should at least put forth the effort in trying to understand the fetish.

 

[Butterfly wings]

From your writing, it seems you're asking if your significant other is obligated to try out your fetish for the sake of your happiness. To this, I say no, they aren't obligated at all and from the way you put it, it seems rather selfish to think otherwise. I believe a significant other should at least try to understand why this fetish turns you on, but he/she isn't isn't 'required' to do anything for your own sake; they do things for you because they care about you. Your question makes the relationship sound rather one-sided in this case, slanted towards what makes one person happy.

This may have come across in a roundabout way, but simply put: No, I don't believe he/she should always still be willing. Some people just aren't into certain things and you just have to respect that if they mean a great deal to you. But like I said, if the significant other does care about you and who you are, he/she should at least put forth the effort in trying to understand the fetish.

It was just a Question. I was not really pointing or hinting at anything. I was just wondering that's all. But thanks still for voicing your opinion on the matter.

 

[CaptainQuantum]

I'm talking about if your in a relationship or dating someone. And he or she is sort of vanilla to your fetish and turn on or just does not understand it. If that is the case. Do you think though that he/she should always still be willing to at least try to go along with your fetish and turn on's for the sake of you and with what makes you happy?

What are your thoughts on this?

When it comes to my tickling fetish, I think there should be a law passed in Congress.

 

[theshire]

If I was in a serious relationship, I would naturally want my partner to at least TRY my fetish out one time. I still have not lived out my bondage/tickling fantasies in real life, and I would naturally want my gf/wife to help me do so. However, that is unrealistic. At the very least I would ask them to understand my kink, to be cool with it and make allowances for the fact that it's there.

So my answer to your question is: No, I do not feel that they are obliged 'to try it out' with you. But if they won't even go as far as accepting my fetish then they would be DUMPED.

 

[mark 19]

I’m not saying it should be compulsory or that a fetish should form the basis of a relationship but I think that people should at least be willing to give it ago occasionally or play along a bit if they know it gets you going.

 

[kis123]

How about a spin from a different direction?

There are a lot of single female ticklephiles on this forum and others. Why are you fellas even dating women that you don't KNOW have a tickling fetish/passion/desire? I think that's too much work to develop a relationship then after you get them involved, tell them that you have this fetish and you want them to participate in it with you. And if they say no, you're ready to dump them?

Wow! That's like going out the world backwards to me!

You would make it much easier on yourself to find like-minded people and cultivate a relationship with them.

Before the flames start getting thrown and the whining begins about not being able to find a woman on the forum, that simply isn't true. There is one member who emails me regularly from his college campus and we have a great friendship going on. Guess what? He's the same age as my son! No, we won't ever get married-its not that kind of relationship. I have built other friendships/relationships here just by fellas PM'ng me about things I wrote. I even cyberdated for awhile, plus I met one member right in my city with intentions of meeting others.

If a guy young enough to be my son can take the initiative and try to get to know me with nothing in return, how much more can you fellas do for a woman you find interesting and know is a ticklephile?

I'm not saying that you should restrict your relationships to the women on the forum, but at least you know that certain relationship barriers do not exist and you can move onto other aspects of the relationship.

 

[Butterfly wings]

How about a spin from a different direction?

There are a lot of single female ticklephiles on this forum and others. Why are you fellas even dating women that you don't KNOW have a tickling fetish/passion/desire? I think that's too much work to develop a relationship then after you get them involved, tell them that you have this fetish and you want them to participate in it with you. And if they say no, you're ready to dump them?

Wow! That's like going out the world backwards to me!

You would make it much easier on yourself to find like-minded people and cultivate a relationship with them.

I didn't say that kis123 so please don't go grouping me into the ''you fellas'' category.

theshire made that remark about if they won't even go as far as accepting my fetish then they would be DUMPED.

🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

Simply...yes......that person should at LEAST give it a try.

If not, then perhaps it's not love.

 

[CaptainQuantum]

I didn't say that kis123 so please don't go grouping me into the ''you fellas'' category.

theshire made that remark about if they won't even go as far as accepting my fetish then they would be DUMPED.

🙂

Well I am of the feeling that if they won't go along with my fetish, they will be dumped! I mean, I have to do something with the body!! 😛

 

[R. Davis]

I've been kind of luckly with a few women I dated. When I told them about my thing for tickling, there's some looks of shock and a devilish smile would appear on their faces. The tickling games would begin. I guess some of them wanted to try something new. I don't think anyone should force their fetish on a love one. Communicate with them and see what happens!

 

[scorpionldr]

here's a better question....

WOULD you tell them you HAVE a tickling fetish that is one of the only turn-ons you HAVE IF you were asked about it?? i certainly think it would make a very difficult time if you were asked about this in the beginning of a relationship. i'm only praying that if i get into a good relationship that my partner will at least TRY to enjoy tickling, if they can even accept tickling as a turn on.

 

[kis123]

Don't get your boxers in a knot........

I didn't say that kis123 so please don't go grouping me into the ''you fellas'' category.

theshire made that remark about if they won't even go as far as accepting my fetish then they would be DUMPED.

🙂

The term "fellas" was generic and not SPECIFIED towards any particular individual.

I have over 2600 posts-I've never had a problem quoting and adressing anyone directly just like I've done with you now. I don't throw the rock and hide my hand! If I directed it at you, I would've called you out.

You brought up the post, you should be prepared for whatever responses you get. If not, maybe you shouldn't post.

I personally could care less what direction any of you take. I simply input my opinion just like everyone else has. I thought giving a female point of view would be helpful. You obviously aren't interested in that so do whatever floats you and happy landings!

 

[theshire]

The thing is, kis, everyone has a different situation that could make this very difficult.

For example, I am still very young. I still live with my parents. They don't know about my fetish and they don't know about this site. They wouldn't be very happy with me meeting girls on the Internet; and there isn't away I could explain it to them.

So, for at least another couple of years, my only hope of meeting someone for some tickle-fun is to either randomly meet a girl who is already into it or to meet one who is willing to try it out. The odds on both of those are quite low. So it's not like this is that easy. There aren't that many British girls my age hanging around on the TMF, as far as I'm aware. And even if there were, I don't have a realistic way of meeting them.

 

[The_Laugher]

I don't think you have a right to demand that your significant other take part in your fetish. No matter what it is. But I think you can ask them to try to understand it. I have been married for 18 years now and while my wife is not into tickling, she learned early on how important it was to me. I have mentioned this before that she is not ticklish at all which is probably why she doesn't get into it. But because she understands the importance of it for me she has strived and trained herself to be one of the most intense, skilled, and ruthless ticklers I have even met. She can work me over to very intense levels of hysteria and yet make me be able to last for hour of torment and laughter. She can turn almost any item into a maddening ticling tool and even though we have been at it for 18 years, she always seems to find new ways to tickle me or new spots to work on. It is is a spot that is only somewhat sensitive, then she will work at it until it is unbearable. No one I have met has been able to do this except her. I am usually shot in about a half hour and ready to rest or call it quits, but not with my wife. She is awsome. (She was probably an interigator in a past life).

The point is, by asking her to try to unerstand, she found a way to help me enjoy my passion to its fullest.

 

[kirasao]

Great Thread, B_W!

I would have to say that it would be nice if I could find a like-minded female to share a relationship with, as far as tickling is concerned. Just about every girl I ever dated hated to be tickled and would bitch and whine if I snuck in a quick poke or squeeze here and there. So, most times, I'm forced to hide the fetish, which I believe is pretty unhealthy. I wanna be who I am, no matter how weird it seems to other people. On the flip side, however, being myself and revealing my blatant tickling fetish could hurt my chances at maintaining a physical relationship. Decisions, decisions, ya know?

 

[CaptainQuantum]

One word: Hookers!

.........

Okay, I'll crawl back in my hole now.....

 

[maniactickler]

First of all, you shouldnt even be getting involved with someone that doesnt share your fetish. and second, if your crazy enough to meet someone who isnt into your fetish, then no, they have no obligation to try anything.

 

[Butterfly wings]

I would have to say that it would be nice if I could find a like-minded female to share a relationship with, as far as tickling is concerned. Just about every girl I ever dated hated to be tickled and would bitch and whine if I snuck in a quick poke or squeeze here and there. So, most times, I'm forced to hide the fetish, which I believe is pretty unhealthy. I wanna be who I am, no matter how weird it seems to other people. On the flip side, however, being myself and revealing my blatant tickling fetish could hurt my chances at maintaining a physical relationship. Decisions, decisions, ya know?

Thanks kirasao

Well i will be the very first to admit that i have not had very many relationships with girls. But I DO know that you shouldn't right away tell the girl right away that your into tickling and like it. Tell her a few few long months after you two have been dated and going out. So then that way you get to know alot more about her and what she is into and likes and what she is not into and doesn't like.

Good Luck

 

[elfriend]

Be Confident!

They should at least try it! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 months and he told me about his fetish and I had never even heard of it before and I tried it out and love it! I'm like a convert! lol! So there is always hope.

 

[lk70]

Just about every girl I ever dated hated to be tickled and would bitch and whine if I snuck in a quick poke or squeeze here and there.

You know what? I just find this so hard to believe. Granted, I like being tickled more than the average bear, but even women I know who aren't "lees" don't bitch or whine about quick pokes or even more. I'm not doubting you, mind you, I'm just incredulous. Even for non ticklephiles, tickling is a form of flirting, isn't it?

 

[kirasao]

I'm just unlucky

lk70, you apparently know some better women than I do, so hook me up!

 

[Butterfly wings]

lk70, you apparently know some better women than I do, so hook me up!

Would a blow up doll help you out kirasao? LOL just kidding.

But no seriously kirasao. Just get out there and talk with new girls that you meet along the way. Open up yourself and make some chatter. You can go it man. Good luck with the ladies. Really i mean it.