I wasnt originally going to post about this, but, as it is making me angrier by the day, I figured, what the heck, post it, and ask for the advice of friends.
As many who know me are aware, I haven't driven for a while. The reasons of which I am not going to get into. Suffice to say that I didnt lose my license for DWI. It was just expired, and documents issues, and I am in the process of trying to get it back.
This having been said, as most know, I work with my mom in selling antiques and art. We have this guy that drives us for chores, food shopping, i.e, and such, who is a real pill. I've posted about him before. Here is what he did.
For the last seven years, he has taken vacations without discussing it with us. In the past, his vacations were taken at off peak times, so we never made an issue out of it.
Usually, Christmas week, we have family visit from out of town, also, we like to head down to King of Prussia mall near Philly, for holiday shopping.
Last year, out of nowhere, and, again, without clearing it with us, the guy announced to us that he was taking a vacation on Christmas week, telling us that he "talked to his brother", who can sometimes help us with local driving, about his vacation. Again, never once, did he discuss the vacation with my mom and me, the people who pay him.
After he came back from Christmas vacation last year, we expressed our displeasure at his taking a vacation all of Christmas week, without discussing it with us, and leaving us hampered. We were very clear in our feelings.
So, now what happens? Several days ago, he came to us again, telling us that he had discussed it with his brother again, and would be taking off again this year from December 25 to January 1, again without discussing it with us, and knowing how we were angry about it last year. It is like he almost did it to be spiteful.
We have provided him with reasonable working conditions. He gets other vacation time, and I certainly would never expect him to work on holidays such as Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, or other religious or national holidays. My problem is that not only did he not discuss his vacation with us, but that he is taking off all of Christmas week, after we specifically asked him not to, because he would be needed.
Everyone I have spoken to about this off the forum is outraged by his behavior, and told me that if they had done this with their job, that they would be fired, for announcing vacations, without clearing it with their boss. While it's true that I usually take time off during Christmas week, because sales, or customers, can be slow, I need him for other things, and his attitude just offends me.
What do people think? Am I wrong? One close friend told me that because he is not a full time worker, and works on a per day basis, that he is not obligated to discuss vacation with me, because he is not bound, while another told me that a job is a job, and if he does this, he should be fired. I know that I have had both part and full time jobs in my life, and I NEVER took any time off without first asking my boss, even when my boss was my own father, I was 16, and I wanted to accompany my mom on a visit to Florida to see both her parents and my father's mother. In fact, my father called his mother, who was expecting me, and told her:" Mitch cant come to see you until he discusses it with me first. I'm his dad, but also his boss, and I want to teach him the right way." Sure enough, we had a family discussion, and came up with a convinent time that my dad didnt need me to help him. The point was, he was my dad, and I still had to clear it with him, because he was also my boss.
This guy's attitude just incenses me to no end. Am I right? What do people think? Any advice or opinions will be appreciated. Thank You.
Mitch
As many who know me are aware, I haven't driven for a while. The reasons of which I am not going to get into. Suffice to say that I didnt lose my license for DWI. It was just expired, and documents issues, and I am in the process of trying to get it back.
This having been said, as most know, I work with my mom in selling antiques and art. We have this guy that drives us for chores, food shopping, i.e, and such, who is a real pill. I've posted about him before. Here is what he did.
For the last seven years, he has taken vacations without discussing it with us. In the past, his vacations were taken at off peak times, so we never made an issue out of it.
Usually, Christmas week, we have family visit from out of town, also, we like to head down to King of Prussia mall near Philly, for holiday shopping.
Last year, out of nowhere, and, again, without clearing it with us, the guy announced to us that he was taking a vacation on Christmas week, telling us that he "talked to his brother", who can sometimes help us with local driving, about his vacation. Again, never once, did he discuss the vacation with my mom and me, the people who pay him.
After he came back from Christmas vacation last year, we expressed our displeasure at his taking a vacation all of Christmas week, without discussing it with us, and leaving us hampered. We were very clear in our feelings.
So, now what happens? Several days ago, he came to us again, telling us that he had discussed it with his brother again, and would be taking off again this year from December 25 to January 1, again without discussing it with us, and knowing how we were angry about it last year. It is like he almost did it to be spiteful.
We have provided him with reasonable working conditions. He gets other vacation time, and I certainly would never expect him to work on holidays such as Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, or other religious or national holidays. My problem is that not only did he not discuss his vacation with us, but that he is taking off all of Christmas week, after we specifically asked him not to, because he would be needed.
Everyone I have spoken to about this off the forum is outraged by his behavior, and told me that if they had done this with their job, that they would be fired, for announcing vacations, without clearing it with their boss. While it's true that I usually take time off during Christmas week, because sales, or customers, can be slow, I need him for other things, and his attitude just offends me.
What do people think? Am I wrong? One close friend told me that because he is not a full time worker, and works on a per day basis, that he is not obligated to discuss vacation with me, because he is not bound, while another told me that a job is a job, and if he does this, he should be fired. I know that I have had both part and full time jobs in my life, and I NEVER took any time off without first asking my boss, even when my boss was my own father, I was 16, and I wanted to accompany my mom on a visit to Florida to see both her parents and my father's mother. In fact, my father called his mother, who was expecting me, and told her:" Mitch cant come to see you until he discusses it with me first. I'm his dad, but also his boss, and I want to teach him the right way." Sure enough, we had a family discussion, and came up with a convinent time that my dad didnt need me to help him. The point was, he was my dad, and I still had to clear it with him, because he was also my boss.
This guy's attitude just incenses me to no end. Am I right? What do people think? Any advice or opinions will be appreciated. Thank You.
Mitch
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