Slightly worried about not being ticklish?

[WowieDe]

Okay so I've been a 'lurker' for a few years now and I'm still sort of uneasy about posting so I'm not gonna give out a lot of info about me...

So yeah. I know I'm ticklish (because my mamma still tickles me embarrassment) but like, whenever my friends poke me in the side, I just don't really react. I know it's like I've got one over on them so they can't torture me lol, but still...I feel really...disappointed? I am ticklish, like everywhere, but none of my friends can really make me laugh that way. And if they poke me and I just look at them, they're like :O you're not tiiicklish? And I just feel really uneasy! Because they tell everyone and then everyone goes in for a grope of the ribs...not very comfortable may I add! But my main worry is that when I (hopefully, finally, maybe?) get a boyfriend, I won't be any fun! I dunno what to do? Anyone else here struggle with the same problem? Thanks guys 🙂

 

[cue]

It sounds almost like a case of tickling block, much like writer's block. You could be as ticklish as the day is long. But in your mind you can't see your friends as being ticklers. Sort of like the reason that we can't tickle ourselves. Our brains are acting sort of like a big filter.

And the fact that your mom still tickles you doesn't sound weird to me. There's been stories and replies from some here who have adult siblings still tickling each other. It may just be that you see tickling as a way to connect within interpersonal relationships. You may like your friends, but there's some part of you that may not feel that same connection with them as your mom.

 

[WowieDe]

Thanks for the help, Cue 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

They probably just don't do it right. Most people who do the rib-tickling thing thing hurt me more than anything.

 

[waitin2btkled]

Okay so I've been a 'lurker' for a few years now and I'm still sort of uneasy about posting so I'm not gonna give out a lot of info about me...

So yeah. I know I'm ticklish (because my mamma still tickles me embarrassment) but like, whenever my friends poke me in the side, I just don't really react. I know it's like I've got one over on them so they can't torture me lol, but still...I feel really...disappointed? I am ticklish, like everywhere, but none of my friends can really make me laugh that way. And if they poke me and I just look at them, they're like :O you're not tiiicklish? And I just feel really uneasy! Because they tell everyone and then everyone goes in for a grope of the ribs...not very comfortable may I add! But my main worry is that when I (hopefully, finally, maybe?) get a boyfriend, I won't be any fun! I dunno what to do? Anyone else here struggle with the same problem? Thanks guys 🙂

I hear you. Don't worry about it. If you were once ticklish, it is possible to lose sensitivity over the years but not lose your ticklishness completely.

I played with a friend once and she had been a ballet dancer most of her childhood. She told me her feet aren't ticklish at all since she started dancing as a little girl. After tickling her upperbody for like 10-12 minutes, her feet all of a sudden became really sensitive and she was stunned that i was able to tickle them.

Especially with this fetish, there is always room for fun. 🙂

 

[texastickler]

They probably just don't do it right. Most people who do the rib-tickling thing thing hurt me more than anything.

I agree. A poke is not the same thing as a good tickling. Some people have no clue what they are doing. Having the right frame of mind at the time helps as well. You will be OK!

 

[Naughty Summer]

I agree. A poke is not the same thing as a good tickling. Some people have no clue what they are doing. Having the right frame of mind at the time helps as well. You will be OK!

So true, poking to me is not tickling at all. And yes it hurts like hell when you don't have a lot of padding there. I just don't think you have been tickled correctly yet by someone other than your mom. Once you find the right person and the person doing it right you will probably find you are ticklish. Plus the pressure you have when your friends tease you isn't good. With your mom you are relaxed and feel comfortable around her. I think if you relax and have fun and find the right person it will be great for you!

 

[shygirl5]

i've had several friends in my past try to tickle me, but i just tense up - as much as i love being tickled - and as ticklish as i am. it's like my hidden secret i don't want anyone to find out about me. when i was younger, a girlfriend asked my mom, "how come (shygirl) isn't ticklish?" i have very good self control. even if i am getting tickled, i'm not much of a screamer, and i don't laugh very loud. i'd love someone to take on that challenge though. i honestly don't know what it feels like to scream! 😉

 

[Sweed]

I agree with the others, it's probably some kind of tickling block, and it will probably solve once you've found the right person to tickle you. 🙂 (and when you feel more relaxed, etc) Or your friends are just using the wrong tickling method. 😉 What works on one person doesn't work on everyone!

To me, it's almost the opposite. xD I've seldom been able to block my friends/boyfriends/etc from tickling me, but whenever a person from my family tries, it's a lot easier. I guess it's because I create a block or something, since I don't want to react in front of them.

So that might be the case for you too but on the opposite, so maybe you feel a pressure or something from your friends tickling you that you should be ticklish, since they want you to be ticklish and you want to be ticklish, and then you aren't because it gets blocked or something. Tickling can be very psychological sometimes...

And have you ever really been surprised by your friends? Like they sneak behind you and tickles you, etc? Some people gets more ticklish when they're not prepared. 🙂

 

[WowieDe]

Thanks guys, all of your suggestions have been massively helpful to me. I think I'm probably just too self-conscious, I don't wanna embarrass myself in front of my friends and I don't like it when they like poke me in the stomach because I'm self-conscious about my weight and I don't want them to know. But seriously guys, thankyou 😀