Here's how I see this issue. For me, the foot worshipping thing is a major fetish, as I had it from long ago when I was with my not ticklish ex girlfriend. How it happened with her is that we met, and as we got to know each other, the foot thing just happened. As I recall, because I was 19 and she was the first woman I had ever been really intimate with, the foot kissing and such was just part of the greater package. As I recall, one night we were just fooling around and doing other things leading up to actual sex, and as I was kissing her, I started in on her feet. She sort of laughed and asked what I was doing, and when I told her with a serious look on my face that I was into feet, she got a very understanding look on her face and said:" It's okay, I love you, and if you are going to do other things to me, and feet makes you happy, I would be not a very good girlfriend, and a real bitch, if I refused to let you play around with my feet. Do it, I dont care, if it makes you happy, it s fine" Her reaction was a huge relief for me, and she claims she would have reacted the same way even if she was ticklish. Throughout our relationship, feet was just a part of our greater feelings for each other. I mean sure there were times she would ask me to give her a foot massage, and I would play around with her feet, or kiss them, or suck on her toes a bit even if we werent having sex, but for the most part, what I did to her feet happened during the greater picture of sex and lovemaking and were just a part of my feelings for her, so since I was attentive to her needs, and made sure she was happy, she was attentive to mine.
I will admit that going forward Iam extremely nervous that I will meet an obstinate girl who will refuse to let me do things to her feet. As most who know me on here know, I have three fetishes, tickling, feet, and the ladder. Here is how I see all three.
First, I do not think I could be with anyone who positively refused to ever let me kiss or play with or massage her feet. I have had the foot fetish since my age of reason, and to me if I was in a relationship with a woman who would never let me play with her feet, I would be unhappy. What I would try to do is to incorporate the foot worship into sex or pleasure for her, so hopefully if she loved me, she would be understanding.
Second, tickling for me is negotiable. When I was with my ex Gf, as I mentioned, I didnt have the tickle fetish yet, and she wasnt ticklish. Although it would be preferable for me to meet someone who had the tickling fetish, or was at least tolerant of me tickling her sometimes, if she absolutely, positively hated to be tickled I could probably live with infrequent or quick tickles or little or none at all on like a special occasion or such, although it wouldnt be preferable. While it wouldnt be first choice, if she had all the other qualities, I could reluctantly deal with it. I personally hope that I meet someone who I can at least tickle sometimes, but Iam open with that, depending on what else she has to offer.
Third, most people know about me and the ladder thing. Obviously, I know some women are afraid of heights, and some might find the ladder thing ridiculous. I have spoken to several pen pals, and a few women on TMF who I will obviously not name, and they told me that if they werent afraid of heights, they would do that to make their partner happy. If I met someone who was terribly afraid of heights and never wanted to stand barefoot on a ladder for me, I would have to respect her wishes if she loved me and sacrificed for me in other ways. While I certainly wouldnt ask her to do it all the time even if she didnt hate heights, if she was okay with heights, I might ask to do it every once in a while if she didnt mind. This is the most negotiable of the fetishes with me, as I know it is extremely unconventional, and some might not want to do it. I dont know whether or not I will always like barefoot girls on ladders, but whether I do or dont, what happens with this remains to be seen.
So, those are my answers. I like this thread that Blackmoon started, as this is how my fetish started, and it is nice to vent in an open thread such as this.
Mitch
