So he tied me up....

[YouDontKnowMe]

And tickled me. But not much. Mostly on the lower part of my mid section...like right below my rib cage. It really didnt tickle that much. He never even tried to tickle my knees or feet or anything.

So needless to say my first experience with being tied up and tickled was not very "ticklish". Maybe I am just not that ticklish? If I'm not..that sucks.

Hopefully my boyfriend and I will be able to do it again tomorrow night. 🙁

YDKM

 

[Redmage]

It's hard to imagine you having this fetish if you aren't ticklish. Why would you like it if you don't know what it feels like?

Believe it or not, not everyone knows how to tickle. There's a book that you might want to buy and share with him. Buying and watching a few tickling videos or vidclips might also help.

 

[dskodj]

It's hard to imagine you having this fetish if you aren't ticklish. Why would you like it if you don't know what it feels like?

Im not ticklish and have no clue what it feels like to be tickled but I get off on being a 'ler..thats my fetish lol

 

[isabeau]

it might not have tickled righ away because of the build up and the feelings you expected that maybe just maybe you were a bit nervous. i'm not suggesting that is it, but when i had my first session last week, it didnt tickle at first at all and my feet are very ticklish. and i was so surprised but i was nervous. and i have been told that this often happens on a first session. so just keep trying and hang in there.

isabeau

 

[drew70]

You certainly don't need any books. Just better communication. You mention he overlooked your feet. Ask him why. Could it be he was concerned about over doing it? Think of the areas in which you are most ticklish and dare him to tickle you there. Explain to him that even though you'll be laughing llike crazy, he shouldn't stop until you utter the safe word.

Speaking of safe words, I've found in my experience that a short word is best. The first time I went down on the tickle table, my safe word was "antidisestablishmentarianism." She wouldn't stop tickling me until I had pronounced every syllable in the proper sequence. 😱

Anyway, he'll hopefully get the hang of it. Sometimes it takes a little time for a Ler to "sync up" with the Lee. Good luck!

 

[Redmage]

Im not ticklish and have no clue what it feels like to be tickled but I get off on being a 'ler..thats my fetish lol

That's well and good, but YDKM is a 'lee. It's hard to see how one could come to that without knowing what being ticklish feels like.

 

[Nite_Giggler]

I went out with a guy who loved watching tickling videos and desperately wanted to be tickled. I had no problem obliging him, but he just wasn't ticklish. I've been tickling guys since I was a little girl, so if I couldn't tickle him, he's not ticklish.

 

[Redmage]

I went out with a guy who loved watching tickling videos and desperately wanted to be tickled. I had no problem obliging him, but he just wasn't ticklish. I've been tickling guys since I was a little girl, so if I couldn't tickle him, he's not ticklish.

Interesting. Where did he get the idea that he'd like the way tickling feels? I wouldn't think that someone would come to that idea just from watching someone else who liked it - there are all sorts of things others like that do nothing for me.

 

[Nite_Giggler]

Redmage: Interesting. Where did he get the idea that he'd like the way tickling feels? I wouldn't think that someone would come to that idea just from watching someone else who liked it - there are all sorts of things others like that do nothing for me.

Well, that's just it. He did like the way it felt, the way I like my back scratched or my feet massaged. The problem was it didn't tickle him. He was enthralled with the idea of a woman torturing him by tickling, but some people just aren't ticklish. He still calls me from time to time, asking me to try and tickle him again. I feel really bad for him.

 

[Redmage]

Well, that's just it. He did like the way it felt, the way I like my back scratched or my feet massaged. The problem was it didn't tickle him. He was enthralled with the idea of a woman torturing him by tickling, but some people just aren't ticklish. He still calls me from time to time, asking me to try and tickle him again. I feel really bad for him.

Ah, I see. So he had already been tickled, knew he liked the feeling, but knew it didn't tickle him, per se? But for some reason (possibly you'd discussed your tickling interests with him?) he thought that it might tickle under your hands?

If that's what happened, then it seems like false hope and bad judgment. That's unfortunate (I don't blame for feeling sad for him), but I don't think it sounds much like what happened to YDKM.

 

[drew70]

I think it's been pretty well established that one doesn't necessarily have to know what tickling feels like in order to have the fetish. That's what I think Giggles was trying to say. And she's right.

We learn something new every day. At least those of us who don't already know everything.

 

[jfna]

There's tonnes of ways!

There really are tonnes of ways to experiment with tickling. Someone in a different forum asked bout this. After she tried different methods, she found herself to be extremely ticklish. just in the areas she didn't expect to be (inner thighs etc.) PM if ur really stuck!

 

[Amanda]

It's hard to imagine you having this fetish if you aren't ticklish. Why would you like it if you don't know what it feels like?

Believe it or not, not everyone knows how to tickle. There's a book that you might want to buy and share with him. Buying and watching a few tickling videos or vidclips might also help.

Actually i can relate...lol im almost never tickled and have never been super ticklish

but i fantasize about being tickled all the time....and im always really deeply hoping someone will tickle me. so i know how it feels

 

[scorpionldr]

It's hard to imagine you having this fetish if you aren't ticklish. Why would you like it if you don't know what it feels like?

Believe it or not, not everyone knows how to tickle. There's a book that you might want to buy and share with him. Buying and watching a few tickling videos or vidclips might also help.

just because you can't feel a tickle doesn't mean you can't see someone's reactions...hell, look at tickling videos...more than anything it's the physical reaction that makes me like it.....just seeing them squirm and struggle and try to hold in laughter. I am ticklish sometimes....on and off i guess

 

[NeitherSparky]

Actually i can relate...lol im almost never tickled and have never been super ticklish

but i fantasize about being tickled all the time....and im always really deeply hoping someone will tickle me. so i know how it feels

Well said, me too (though I know that I *am* ticklish). Every once in a while I am challeneged by someone else with the interest, demanding to know what I'm doing claiming I have a tickle fetish when I haven't been tickled often enough to know where I like it, how I like it, etc, and why I think I would like being tickled for a prolong period of time when I've never done that before. I just *know*. Perhaps the same way someone knows their sexuality even if they are a virgin? It's just the way you are - you know what what you like, what you want, what intrigues you - even if you've never *had* it before. I'm sorry if some people can't fathom that. Imagination is all some of us have.

 

[Sunjob]

Maybe you're just more ticklish on your knees and feet. Try and get him to focus there next time and see.

At the end of the day as long as you enjoy then there's no real problem. Having been tickled on most occasions in the past and not reacted at all I can relate, but I'm guessing it's just his technique with needs work or he just needs to find the little spots on you that get you going.

 

[Redmage]

Maybe I am just not that ticklish?

Has anyone successfully tickled you, ever in your life?

 

[YouDontKnowMe]

Has anyone successfully tickled you, ever in your life?

No. I always knew I had a tickling fetish but I was so afraid of people knowing that I pretended I HATED the whole act of tickling in general. So nobody has successfully tickled me in my entire life. I dont know....I talked to my boyfriend about it and told him he needs to get better at his technique because its a turn on for me. I asked him if I could tie him up and tickle him so I could show him some different ways of doing it, but he said no. He said he doesnt like being held down and tickled because he is really ticklish. So of course that didn't make me want to do it less lol.

Oh what a pickle I'm in...

 

[Redmage]

No. I always knew I had a tickling fetish but I was so afraid of people knowing that I pretended I HATED the whole act of tickling in general. So nobody has successfully tickled me in my entire life.

So no one tickled you even as a child, before you learned what a fetish is or that you have one?

Hmm. I reckon it is POSSIBLE that you're a tickling fetishist who just isn't very ticklish. I have to say I'd never heard of such a thing before, but Nite_Giggler's story suggests that it could happen.

On the other hand, a LOT of factors affect ticklishness: being nervous can make you more ticklish, but being too nervous can make you less so. Even your partner's attitudes can affect your ticklishness, to say nothing of his technique. So it's definitely too soon to say after this one experience.

I think the only way to be sure is to arrange for you to be tickled by someone who really knows what he or she is doing, and with whom you have a good rapport. You might be able to teach your boyfriend what to do through things like the book I recommended, tickling videos, or even by suggesting that he hang out here for a while. An alternative might be to arrange for an experienced 'ler to help you and your boyfriend learn what works best on you.

 

[ShadowTklr]

Some people are much more errogenous to tickling than others. This means to say that they are more turned on by the stimulation than actually laughing out loud. Our brains work in different ways and process similar stimuli differently as well.

The other consideration is what I call a Lee-Voy. This is someone who is stimulated by the desired empathy they achieve through watching someone else being tickled. They idea of having it done to them is very stimulating, even though they may not be that ticklish themselves.

 

[drew70]

It's a very common thing, actually. I get the idea that Redmage feels that because he himself hasn't encountered something like this himself, he's reluctant to believe it exists. Oh well, Never grind somebody else's axe.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Maybe he just needs to tickle harder next time, maybe you were just nervous or it could've been something else like maybe he needs to become a better tickler like tickle a little harder or be more sensual about it or something like that.


Good luck next time!

 

[YouDontKnowMe]

I think the problem was that he was mixing up the tickling and the pleasuring too much. Like he was trying to be sexual while tickling me, when I really just wanted to be tickled. Next time I am going to ask him to JUST tickle me first, then we can do the sexual part after.