Some Advice?

[an11]

Hello everybody, I've lurked around on here for a while, but this is my first post. I'm not sure of this is the right section to post this in, so forgive me if it's not.

So I need some advice. I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and one of my symptoms is I really don't like being touched and I don't like touching other people. Being touched in anyway by anyone makes me really uncomfortable, which sucks. So because of this, I've never really let anyone tickle me. I'm 22 and I don't even know if I'm ticklish, which honestly makes me kinda sad. So I decided that I finally want to find out lol. I was thinking about looking in the personals and maybe trying to meet up with someone, but I would probably be uncomfortable the entire time, so I don't know if anybody would even be willing to try.

But what I wanted advice with is ways to relax myself a little bit more. This is probably something I should be asking a doctor lol but I thought that you guys might have some tips. Maybe things that you lers do or tell your lees to relax them a little. Just ways to relax and maybe not be so nervous, so if I ever were to let someone try to tickle me, I'd be a little more comfortable.

 

[Wildtime]

First of all, welcome to the TMF!!!

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As for your tickling conundrum, I would recommend your first time be with someone you know, love and trust. This is important because, believe it or not, with the right partner a ticklee can be in control of the situation by setting boundaries and controls such as off limit areas and "safe words" (a verbal cue to immediately STOP!). Use these measures to experiment with and test your limitations. Jumping into a full tickling session without these controls would probably be overwhelming and traumatic for you, which would be defeating the purpose of what should be a pleasurable and enjoyable experience. Take it slow, under your own terms and to the extent that you feel comfortable with.

 

[SirenSimone]

Hey there and welcome!

I think some people have the image that a tickling session HAS to look like the movies we see on the internet. And yea, some of it looks awkward or uncomfortable. There's no reason you can't have a session where you're watching tv with the Lee and the tickling gradually happens that way -- a sort of easy going tickle attack. It doesn't even have to be so much of an attack than say, just random ticklings and when you're ready, you can have your hands tied or even on a bondage bed.

I'm certain with the right person, you'll learn to love it.

 

[T-Lord]

Great reply, Wildtime. For the OP, I'd like to reinforce the importance of trying first with someone you trust and feel comfortable with (to the extent you can, which I understand may be extremely difficult), because feeling ticklish is both emotional and physical. Even people without special contact concerns often seem to be much more ticklish with some people than others, or at different times with the same person.

Case in point: my wife loves being tickled as much as I love tickling. Most of the time she's easy to tickle, and once I get her giggling she becomes off-the-charts sensitive everywhere. But even with me, sometimes she just isn't ticklish at all -- even if she wants to be. It can depend on mood, health, stress, tiredness, etc.

So please try not to put any pressure on yourself at all. Just make it light and fun, and see what happens. If it seems like you're not ticklish at one time, or with one person, don't worry. You still may be at/with another!

 

[wishfoot88]

all of the above advice is pretty spot on. the only additional advice i would give would be joining a site such as Fetlife, which would enable you to find people into what you like in a format similar to Facebook. it's pretty easy to find local groups and kinksters on there, and also pretty good for finding local Munches, which would let you meet up with likeminded people.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Well i would get to know some people in here that are more involved ;they may be more sensitive and understanding to your situation.