Sooo ready, where is he?

[luvn2laf]

I met this guy on-line who turned me on to the idea of tickling. Only he never wanted to get together. All he wanted to do was talk about it. Well, he got me all excited about the idea - so much so that I went out shopping for "tickle toys". But I finally ditched the guy who was all talk because I wanted more than that.

So I met another guy who actually was interested in getting together and I broached the idea of tickling. He seemed open to the idea. We went shopping for restraints. But when it came down to actually doing anything, he didn't show up. I know it wasn't his thing, but he seemed like he would go for it anyway. More for the turn on factor than anything.

Why is it so hard to find someone willing to tie me up and tickle me? I'm pretty, not like I'm homely or anything. I'm not a college kid, though. Now, don't everyone go PM'ing me about trying to get together. I mean in the "real world" where I can meet and get to know someone first. No offense intended. 🙂 I'm just so curious about the experience of being totally out of control and pushed past my limits. It fascinates me.

Why should tickling be restricted to these fetish on-line groups? How do you bring it into the real world? I'm talking to a couple new guys and I'm hoping to get lucky with one of them, but I'm losing hope fast!

 

[billylee]

Well, to start with, you joined the TMF last week. and you don't tell us where you are on the planet.

 

[billylee]

you might even be a "pretty" guy. How should we know?

 

[luvn2laf]

Good points. I have been trying to find someone outside of the internet, thus while I've lurked around on the sites, I didn't actually join TMF until a week ago. I live in Pennsylvania. I'm toying with the idea of volunteering at one of the places in New Jersey where they video tape it and sell it on the web. I'm not crazy about the idea of being taped, but just interested in the experience.

 

[luvn2laf]

Nah, I'm female. Not trying to confuse anyone. I just prefer M/F tickling because well - I'm not into girls. 😛

 

[billylee]

I'm a guy in New Jersey. See how easy that was?

 

[bellyticklerNJ]

im also a guy in new jersey and interested in helping you getting tickled 🙂. Talk to you later! Whats your name?

 

[the_Baron]

well, i've got it all over these guys......i'm a MAN from NJ.

😉

 

[jugner]

You need to be careful, you seem like you may be being a little reckless. Don't do anything with anyone before you know them, that can be dangerous.

 

[steph]

I got to know a ton of nice people all at once here by going to a Munch!

Welcome, BTW!
XOXO

 

[Ayla ny]

well, you came to the right place… 🙂

I know where you are coming from (and I have no doubt that you will find what you are looking for) just be careful.

like Steph said, munches and gatherings are your safest bet. but, if that isn’t for you… then at least go with someone who other people know.

I’ve either exercised great judgment, or have been incredibly lucky, but everyone I have met has been just wonderful. it doesn’t stop me from worrying on behalf of someone whose shoes I can see myself in tho… good luck!

 

[kcantankerous]

you should live in austin, tx where guys like me will tickle you. lol. I have the same problem just visa versa.

 

[Bride of Dracula]

Hang in there

Hang in there honey.
When I first stumbled upon the tk community I met many fine gentlemen who were, and still are great, companions on IM. They got me comfortable with the idea of exploring this new found fetish in safe degrees at my own pace until I was ready to go out and experience what I had been only fantasizing.

Unfortunately, meeting a potential new tickle-buddy IRL was a bit more difficult than chatting with him on IM. I must have gone thru at least 5 people who would set up a time and place (always in public) to meet and get to know each other before the tickling began, but at the 11th hour there would always be a phone call or email with a reason why they had to cancel out. Naturally, I was disappointed and even pissed off by no-show number 5. Here i was, all reved up and no place to go and no one to tickle me. Boo-hoo!

But, as we all must remember, this is a community of people engaging in a fetish that can only work by being sensitive to the indvidual level of comfort we all have. To the 5 gentlemen who were wonderful IM buddies their comfort level was at their computer and not only is that respected, but appriciated because their support and friendship helped me move past my apprehensions and attend my first NEST and shortly there after I found my first real tickle-buddy, ghosthost999, who also turned out to be a great friend to me during a rough time.

I read a post on another forum not too long ago that stated being tied up and tickled by a complete stranger wasn't a matter of trust, but of courage. This, I couldn't disagree with more.

Anyone, especially those who forget to take their medications, can have the courage to jump off the top of the Empire State Building with only a piece of dental floss tied around their big toes to stop them from becomming a large wet spot on the pavement below, but hey, the dental floss came highly recommended.....

Trust is EARNED thru time,experiece and friendship. When you give your partner the GIFT of saying to him/her, yes I trust you enough to allow myself to be put into a helpless position of bondage for our MUTUAL pleasures,then the experience becomes something truely special, mindblowing, intimate.....etc

Now, more than two years later, I've found my real solemate, Starwolffe. We sign a lease together on a new apartment in Pa in less than 2 weeks and will be celebrating the holiday season this year in our own home.....wedding plans to follow?...who knows?

I guess what I an trying to say is that to find a tickle partner, you must travel through the many and varied comfort levels of others until you find someone who is as ready as you are to play and explore.

Hang in there honey. It'll happen.

 

[chrisheaven]

It WILL happen for you- give it a little time first- last post contained so much good advice

 

[Louis]

I'm so floored at what I'm reading in these posts. Why would someone go through the trouble to chat, get to know someone a bit, set up a meeting that can lead to a fantasy coming true, then not show or bow out? I've been looking to meet for this idea of exploring for some time and haven't had any luck. I travel for a living so the idea of meeting once then slowly becoming comfortable with each other can be troublesome but I usually do spend months going back to the same place every few weeks. Chicago, New Orleans, Conneticut seem to be the cities on my current radar. If and when I meet with someone, I will show up.

Louis

 

[steph]

Lou~
I've actually had this happen, couple of times actually, and with people I communicated for MONTHS with! 🙄
I've learned not to be a "dweller" so I didn't let it get me down (much) 😀

It cheers me to know that there ARE people out there who DO follow thru (and more secretly to sleep soundly knowing that those who passed on the chance would kick themselves in their OWN ass if they ever find out for real, what they missed out on!) 😛
XOXO

PS~So glad you're safe from hurricane, BTW!

 

[steph]

PS~I didn't mean that to sound like bragging, I just try hard to be a really fun experience for my "playmates" and to make sure they know that I appreciate them and think they're really special. 😛

XOXO

 

[luvn2laf]

Thanks everyone for the great advice and the offers. I am not as reckless as it may seem. I am really looking for a relationship, but I was hoping this would be part of it. I am not looking to "hook up" with someone out here because I absolutely need to get to know someone before I am willing to be tied up. Maybe I've just watched too many horror movies. I've been dating this latest guy for 2 months and we were just at the point where there was trust enough to go forward when he didn't show. That was just this past Monday which prompted my frustrated post out here.

The other 2 guys I am talking to are with the hope of dating. Tickling is not intended to be the focal point of the relationship. I just wondered if others had struggled to find "normal" relationships where this could play a part.

Thanks again for all the advice. I'll keep hoping! I may consider finding a "tickle buddy" as some have mentioned, though. That might be a reasonable option.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Incredible. Ths happened to me to, but in reverse. Chatting with a gal in the same state who was interested in tickling, but getting cold feet upon getting close to reality.
I drove down to Olympia a few weekends back for an outdoor festival that as it turned out, wasn't going to be till the next day. We were going to meet there, and she has become scarce ever since. Not even returning e-mails.
I do have a buddy in Portland who has friends and family here in Seattle, and whenever she visits, she gets in touch with me for a tickling session, and for me to worship her feet, so at least I have that, and I am happy. I still don't understaand this other person tho.

 

[billylee]

I have been with TMF a year and a half, and have been frustrated by an inability to meet IRL. especially with a screen name so obvious!

 

[magic fingers]

Hey luvn2laf. You said you're in PA. What part? You mentioned New Jersey, so I assume you're in northen PA. But if you're in the southern part of the Keystone State, then I'd be interested in finding out more about you. I live in northern MD, less than an hour away from PA.

 

[BigBrownEyes]

There're a lot of ticklers from PA who would not get cold feet about meeting a tickle partner. Yours truly being one...

 

[ticklesenseless]

My last tickle partner had been trying to arrange a session with a couple that claimed to periodically travel to Atlanta. Well, once the talks became real that couple vanished.

Finding a partner is difficult. I am looking for a new play partner again. Perhaps as part of a relationship perhaps just for some good old tickling fun. I am sure some of those I speak with will vanish. A couple already have. However, I also know that eventually, I will find a new partner. It takes time but eventually, you will find someone that you trust.

 

[dtrell]

its just more of the same old bs with most people on here. act like they want to meet people, act like they "just never seem to get tickled enough", yet when it comes to reality and actually getting it done, they bag or decline to meet. extremely frustrating.....

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Yes, I've seen it too. You meet someone online, and they'll correspond with you for quite awhile. They'll go as far as setting up a time and place to meet, but when the time comes, they fall off the planet.

I'll never understand it. It would be a great world if everyone was honest, but it doesn't work that way.