SORRY if this is a weird question but: Can you have a being tickled fetish even if you hate being tickled?? (I had a weird experience)

[Amelia2007]

So as the title says, I THINK I have a tickle fetish, as in being tickled turns me on big time. But I also can't stand the sensation, like I don't enjoy it AT ALL even while it's turning me on?? And I can't make sense of this. Which is why I'm came here also HIII tickling forums this is my first post here hehe

SO for some more context abt this: I always felt super weird about tickling, it just made me feel weird, and just the whole sensation of "I need to get away right now" that comes with it was always unenjoyable so. Obviously I still got tickled sometimes BUT I usually just start screaming at the person to stop and they do LOLL I was never tickled for longer than maybe 1-2 minutes. And I never tickled anyone myself I just had no need to.

BUT THEN almost two months ago, I was cuddling in bed with my gf, and we were both slightly drunk (we broke up for reasons that dont matter here at all but it was for the best), and all of a sudden she starts tickling me on my stomach. So I tell her stop, stop, but she just keeps going teasing me about it and I push her away, but then she pins me down on the bed sitting on my hips and keeps tickling me. And I just keep laughing but I'm also getting pissed off because again, I was NOT enjoying the tickling and I was feeling really weird, but she just kept ignoring me and teasing me about how much I'm laughing, and I can't throw her off because when I'm tickled I get like, weaker (I think that's pretty normal??). And this goes on for like 5 minutes, and I realise something which is that I'm getting really turned on by the sensation of tickling (she was tickling my armpits and ribs and sides and hips as well at this point, pinning my arms above my head though I would slip about and she would catch them again and pin them). And suddenly it just starts building up really fast and I orgasm. I think all this lasted maybe 10 minutes?? Not SUPER sure, might've been more like 20 but that seems too long.

Anyway then she stopped tickling me because she could obviously tell something happened, though I didn't tell her anything once I recovered, I was still just mad at her for tickling me and I said she should never do it again, and she apologised and that was that. But my head was reeling and I keep thinking about that because, isn't that crazy??? I haven't been tickled since then but I can't stop thinking about that night because like. Looking back I think I've always had this reaction to tickling and it just never went on for long enough for me to realise, and like, I'm sorry if this is too NSFW (and please don't be weird about it) , but it was up there as a most intense orgasm I've ever experienced (to be fair I haven't done THAT much but still!!!), and I think I want to try it again?? The contrast of like, completely hating the tickling but the climax building up was so intense. I've actually tested this again with a friend (which is kind of weird but I didn't have anyone else to ask) and I asked her to tickle my foot for 2 minutes and I could feel it building again at which point we stopped

ANYWAY I guess all this to say: I apparently cum from being tickled for enough time. And I want to try being tickled (in a kinky way) in the future, I can't stop thinking about that experience I had, like it's on the brain 24/7. BUT from reading about the kink, all the Lees really enjoy just the sensation of being tickled, so I wanted to ask, is there anybody out there like me? Is this common at all? Is it too weird? Am I making any sense?

P.S. Sorry for the rambly post I'm polish so I struggle with english writing but I hope it's understood

 

[CarlosSolis]

I find it so funny that non English natives always apologise for their perfectly written novels 😋. Your English is fine.

Anyway, the good news is there is no rigid definition of this fetish. I have seen people say they hate it, but as you said, at the same time get aroused from it. You also may try being the tickler and find that you enjoy that part much more.

There are so many different aspects to this and I don't think that not enjoying the sensation means you are a fraud. It is possible that since she didn't stop when you said, that maybe you also enjoyed the feeling of not being in control? Many ticklees like the submission part and many ticklers like the dominance part.

Of course, the best way to find out is more experience. Don't shy away because you think you may not fit into a mold. Having a fetish is alienating enough at times.

It's interesting though, because I remember a reddit thread asking something like "what did yiu think you liked but once trying it found out you hated it?". I remember a girl responding that she thought she liked to be tickled so met for a session of 10 minutes, tied up, and no safe word. She ended up finding out that she indeed hated it lol. So, i would not recommend going 100%, but rather start slower and gage just how much you like it or don't.

 

[aberdeen]

First of all...Don't fall into the mental trap of believing you are weird or something because of the true feelings you felt and the confusion they bring (brought).
ONe thing to know is that tickling has many crossovers with sex...not just 'tickling sensation turns one on'....as yu discovered, it's very complex ..ticklish areas are usually crossover w erogenous zones...but the degree or intensity is what sometime determines ticklish reactions of laughter versus arousal..ie my late wife did enjoy tickling for tickling sake.. small playful events only...harder tickles she hated ...but a Softer teasing touch (ie 'sensual tickling' ) she LOVED as foreplay...
you seem to be responsive to that situation in which I'd describe the tickling sensation (as yu 'hated' it ) was so BAD that it was GOOD (eventually leading to a happy ending...The same concept with tickling to max levels on a LEE who loves it...they may not be able to tolerate it w/o bondage or being pinned down...but the endorphins you get from good tickling are the same as from regular pleasure events (orgasms)...and also tickling is like sex in taht the tickling is like edging in many ways...it fun to edge or tickle someone to bring them to their maximum limits of pleasure ...edging (even if done in a nice way ) can become very intense and almost intolerable when the orgasm is near...then there is a big release / relief as ticklish meltdown occurs w huge endorphin release ( or orgasm)

Not to sound inappropriate, but they only way you will find out more is to experiment with your GF / signifcant other...be honest w each other and determine how to best explore your interesting and yes a bit rare sensitivity (I dont think most LEEs orgasm from tickling )! Esp bec you want to find out more about tickling ad your sensual responses...the only way is to play and it sounds as though yu have a willing partner.
in any case..dont hide from yourself..embrace your new discovery until you can really decide on how much you enjoy it...

and welcome to the forum..
always glad to chat on the board, on the direct message part of the forum, or an independent chat app (discord easiest I think and most private)
hope this helps...dont ever feel ashamed of your true feelings

aberdeen

 

[Amelia2007]

I find it so funny that non English natives always apologise for their perfectly written novels 😋. Your English is fine.

Anyway, the good news is there is no rigid definition of this fetish. I have seen people say they hate it, but as you said, at the same time get aroused from it. You also may try being the tickler and find that you enjoy that part much more.

There are so many different aspects to this and I don't think that not enjoying the sensation means you are a fraud. It is possible that since she didn't stop when you said, that maybe you also enjoyed the feeling of not being in control? Many ticklees like the submission part and many ticklers like the dominance part.

Of course, the best way to find out is more experience. Don't shy away because you think you may not fit into a mold. Having a fetish is alienating enough at times.

It's interesting though, because I remember a reddit thread asking something like "what did yiu think you liked but once trying it found out you hated it?". I remember a girl responding that she thought she liked to be tickled so met for a session of 10 minutes, tied up, and no safe word. She ended up finding out that she indeed hated it lol. So, i would not recommend going 100%, but rather start slower and gage just how much you like it or don't.

HAHAHAHAH thank you for the compliment, I can never tell honestly 😭 I'm so glad it reads as good

HONESTLY I feel so dumb I didn't even think of that but yeah, I should totally aim to try out being a Ler as well now! I've been looking a lot at tickling videos and artwork and I think I did get some drive to tickle a nice lady hehe. I just never pictured myself in a "dominant" posission but I'll look into trying that out too

I totally forgot to mention that in the post but I was thinking along the exactly the same lines, the whole thing felt very S/M to me, and just the entire idea of being turned on by something that you don't want to happen feels BDSM right?? I've been reading about bdsm and I know tickling can go along similar lines so yup yup yup. Which honestly thinking about this whole thing in a sort of masochistic framework made so much sense to me as well, equating tickling with pain (which is maybe too extreme of a description but I hope you get what I mean)

Oh yeah I would never go for a no safe word anything I think, all bdsm sources say that it's a necessity so yeah absolutely. Still important to keep in mind though even if someone knows, just as a reminder.

Oh and btw I super appreciated your words about not fitting into a mold and stuff <33 I experienced feeling alienated because of other personal stuff and it's important to not feel the same way about this either, you're right. Fetish stuff is (and I mean no offense) and always will be weirdo stuff so why judge yourself for not fitting in haha

 

[BlueLine7045]

Honestly, I hate having my belly / stomach touched. It's like an aggressive spot for me. Its ticklish, but an annoying ticklish if that makes sense. My wife loves touching my stomach and playing with it, but it like triggers me.

Although sometimes light tickling of my sides or belly can kinda turn me on even though I don't like it.

 

[WickedTouch]

All of these are great comments. I just wanted to add that in a way, I experience something similar and have met other lees and switches that also have this experience. I like to explain how I feel about being tickled as something I love to hate. The actual experience of being tickled can turn me on for sure, but simultaneously is intolerable and overall not at all what I would consider pleasurable. It lights up a different, though perhaps adjacent, part of my brain that loves to be overloaded, challenged, and out of control.

Also It is relatively common to get physically aroused by very stimulating sensations, including massage, caresses, and tickling. That does not necessarily implicate a fetish for it, but the way you communicated your interest in it strikes me as this community's kind of interest level and language. It is also not unusual for someone to take time to grow into their identity within the fixation of tickling. Many people start out hating it, but still being drawn to it because it arouses them at some level, and eventually finding it more fun/exciting/enjoyable as their mind and body adapt to the sensations over time and the associated arousal. Just a small disclaimer about that–not everyone in the community considers it a fetish or a kink for themselves, and instead experience it as a non-sexual fixation. Use whatever term(s) suits you (fetish, kink, fixation, ticklephile, enthusiast, etc). In any case, if you have an interest in tickling at any level, this is a good place for you 🙂. Welcome!

 

[TicklerKoops]

It may not be the actual action of being tickled that gets you going, if you hate being tickled.

It could just be you like the thought of being forced into something you don't want(but you kinda like being forced into it). Scenes of Desperation is a good example. The fact that you are being tickled isn't what you may enjoy, but the fact you are being overpowered to endure what you don't like may be what's tickling(no pun intended) a kink in your mind.

I dunno if that makes much sense, but after looking at your profile, you are fairly inexperienced, so I would recommend doing more research, maybe go to one of your local gatherings and make friends and try to explore it more!

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Tickling is considered a branch of BDSM (whether "real" BDSM likes it or not) and theoretically it could be considered "pleasure in torture" where you hate it in the moment but enjoy the run-up and cool-off periods around it.

 

[torturoustickle]

A lot of Lee's talk about a love/hate relationship with tickling. And you describe it in your own words perfectly.
Tickling is an agonising sensation from which there is no escape. But deep down you love it. Doesn't make sense does it?
Good news though, you are certainly not alone. Lol And welcome to the forums. 😆

 

[soulsearch89]

From what I gather and observed on the tickling space as a whole.

GRANTED that there is consent.

There is 5 classes of tickle fetishist.
1. Observers, they dont feel comfortable with people touching them or they dont want to touch others. (Kind of like an ASMR). They either like to watch or read about tickling experiences.
2. Lees, they like recieving tickles, but no give them.
3. Switches, they like to either recieve or to give tickles.
4. Lers, they give tickles not recieve them.
5. Fantasizers, they fantasize the mixture of the other classes about an amazing tickling experience. (Sadly most* tickle fetishist are in this category where tickling communities are not abundant in all geographical spots.)
*my best guess. Unlike observers, they come up with the scripts and scenarios either on paper, mental thought or both.
Observers enjoy experiences in 3rd person. Fantasizers contribute to the design of experience to either themselves alone or to others.

When consent is NOT granted tickling in short is violation of our autonomy as individual.

Your feelings are valid.

 

[soulsearch89]

From what I gather and observed on the tickling space as a whole.

GRANTED that there is consent.

There is 6 classes of tickle fetishists.
1. Observers, they dont feel comfortable with people touching them or they dont want to touch others. (Kind of like an ASMR). They either like to watch or read about tickling experiences.
2. Lees, they like recieving tickles, but no give them.
3. Switches, they like to either recieve or to give tickles.
4. Lers, they give tickles not recieve them.
5. Designers, they design the mixture of the other classes about an amazing tickling experience. (Sadly most* tickle fetishist are in this category where tickling communities are not abundant in all geographical spots.)
Observers enjoy experiences in 3rd person. Designers contribute to the design of experience to either themselves alone or to others.

6. Fantasizers/Dreamers (Sadly most* tickle fetishist are in this category where tickling communities are not abundant in all geographical spots.) *my guess anyways.

When consent is NOT granted tickling in short is violation of our autonomy as individual.

Your feelings are valid.

 

[Wade]

Yeah, this anecdote speaks to me big-time because I've also had the cognitive dissonance of "Why, when my body is trying as hard as it can to get away from this relentless sensation, am I captivated by it and keep putting myself in the position of being subjected to it again?" For me the (transient and unserious) suffering of it is definitely an integral part of it -- in other words, what I like about it is the fact that I don't like it, and that this other person is inflicting it upon me because I don't like it and because she enjoys the fact that I don't like it. No other kind of suffering rings my bell like that; pain's a huge turnoff, psychological cruelty is a huge turnoff. But when a woman wants to make my acute ticklishness the target of her playful sadistic impulses, all my Christmas-tree lights switch on. There are purely physical aspects of the "enjoyment" as well -- the breathless intensity of it; the cathartic exhaustion afterwards; the loss of bodily control; the flooding endorphins that come with hysterical laughter. But at its root for me is the fact that it's a playfully torturous experience.

 

[footfan69]

Welcome to the TMF, Amelia! This is a good place to share your experiences and get your questions answered. No, you are not weird, in fact, on this forum, you’re absolutely normal. Most of us have been interested in tickling for a long time, in every aspect, so there is no right or wrong, as long as it’s consensual. For me personally, tickling is a huge turn-on, and my wife knows it. I have orgasmed from tickling alone, and it’s wonderful. My advice is to keep experimenting with your gf, and definitely let her know how you feel (that you love and hate it, and that you had an intense orgasm from it). She would want to know. Here’s an idea: agree to let her tickle you again, as long as you can do the same to her. The main thing is to have fun!

BTW, please let us know how it’s going, ok?

 

[King of tickles]

I always find it odd and a bit annoying when people say they hate being tickled, but then you see them tickle their significant other. I know tickling can depend on the relationship between ler/lee, but still. If you can’t handle it, don’t dish it out.

 

[ahaha]

So as the title says, I THINK I have a tickle fetish, as in being tickled turns me on big time. But I also can't stand the sensation, like I don't enjoy it AT ALL even while it's turning me on?? And I can't make sense of this. Which is why I'm came here also HIII tickling forums this is my first post here hehe

SO for some more context abt this: I always felt super weird about tickling, it just made me feel weird, and just the whole sensation of "I need to get away right now" that comes with it was always unenjoyable so. Obviously I still got tickled sometimes BUT I usually just start screaming at the person to stop and they do LOLL I was never tickled for longer than maybe 1-2 minutes. And I never tickled anyone myself I just had no need to.

BUT THEN almost two months ago, I was cuddling in bed with my gf, and we were both slightly drunk (we broke up for reasons that dont matter here at all but it was for the best), and all of a sudden she starts tickling me on my stomach. So I tell her stop, stop, but she just keeps going teasing me about it and I push her away, but then she pins me down on the bed sitting on my hips and keeps tickling me. And I just keep laughing but I'm also getting pissed off because again, I was NOT enjoying the tickling and I was feeling really weird, but she just kept ignoring me and teasing me about how much I'm laughing, and I can't throw her off because when I'm tickled I get like, weaker (I think that's pretty normal??). And this goes on for like 5 minutes, and I realise something which is that I'm getting really turned on by the sensation of tickling (she was tickling my armpits and ribs and sides and hips as well at this point, pinning my arms above my head though I would slip about and she would catch them again and pin them). And suddenly it just starts building up really fast and I orgasm. I think all this lasted maybe 10 minutes?? Not SUPER sure, might've been more like 20 but that seems too long.

Anyway then she stopped tickling me because she could obviously tell something happened, though I didn't tell her anything once I recovered, I was still just mad at her for tickling me and I said she should never do it again, and she apologised and that was that. But my head was reeling and I keep thinking about that because, isn't that crazy??? I haven't been tickled since then but I can't stop thinking about that night because like. Looking back I think I've always had this reaction to tickling and it just never went on for long enough for me to realise, and like, I'm sorry if this is too NSFW (and please don't be weird about it) , but it was up there as a most intense orgasm I've ever experienced (to be fair I haven't done THAT much but still!!!), and I think I want to try it again?? The contrast of like, completely hating the tickling but the climax building up was so intense. I've actually tested this again with a friend (which is kind of weird but I didn't have anyone else to ask) and I asked her to tickle my foot for 2 minutes and I could feel it building again at which point we stopped

ANYWAY I guess all this to say: I apparently cum from being tickled for enough time. And I want to try being tickled (in a kinky way) in the future, I can't stop thinking about that experience I had, like it's on the brain 24/7. BUT from reading about the kink, all the Lees really enjoy just the sensation of being tickled, so I wanted to ask, is there anybody out there like me? Is this common at all? Is it too weird? Am I making any sense?

P.S. Sorry for the rambly post I'm polish so I struggle with english writing but I hope it's understood

people enjoy this kink in all types of different ways, not just one, to me it def seems like you enjoy it in a more masochistic way, kind of in the same way people into S/M enjoy pain and such. tickling usually crosses over with bdsm too so it wouldn’t be crazy if that was the case, sounds like you def discovered a big and important side of your sexuality so good luck in exploring that further ! (while staying safe ofc)

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

As a few people have pointed out many lees say they have a love/hate relationship with tickling. And as a ler I've actually met a few lees that feel the same way about it. So there's nothing weird liking and not liking it.

 

[King of tickles]

I’m weird about it if guys try tickling me. Girls is one thing, cause I’d definitely get them back lol.