Soulmates

[maniactickler]

Theres no such thing as only one soulmate. i think theres tons of soul mates for each person.

 

[isabeau]

Theres no such thing as only one soulmate. i think theres tons of soul mates for each person.

omg he speaks and not only does he speak, he makes sense. yes i also believe that there can be more than one soul mate. i know this, because i have an online soulmate as well. doesnt mean i'm leaving david for him, we just connect, we are best friends, we have much in common, and we help each other always. we stick up for each other, cheer each other up. this and that.

soulmates do not mean sex mates. which is why you can have more than one soulmate.

isabeau

 

[The Sean Man]

"Soulmate" is a catchy phrase used to sell things, like dating services, greeting cards, etc.

Jeez...there's no way to say that without sounding cynical

 

[Sacrifice]

"Soulmate" is a catchy phrase used to sell things, like dating services, greeting cards, etc.

Jeez...there's no way to say that without sounding cynical

Damn! That is cynical all due respect! Do you feel the same way about Christmas?

 

[The Sean Man]

Nope....love Christmas. But "Soulmate" is a touch-feely, cutesy phrase. To put it in better perspective, I feel the same way about "Sweetest Day"...a day created to sell stuff.

I just don't go for the 'shmoopy woopy, luvvy duvvy, baby-talk' stuff.

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I can definitely see why someone would be cynical about the concept of a soul-mate. It's probably tough to swallow. I believe there's more than one out there. But whether or not we'll find them is a different story.

I don't consider the term "soul mate" touchy feely. The phrase I consider more manufactured is "best friend." That phrase only has any real relevance when you're a teenager and you're out drinking with your friends. Or, whatever other activity you might be engaging in.

As an adult, I have a lot of friends who I see at different stages of the day. But which one is your best friend? Your favorite co-worker? Your work-out partner? The person who you go to happy hour with? Your significant other?

I don't buy it. At the end of the day, people are going to be looking out for their best interests. I think the term "best friend" is for kids.

 

[kcantankerous]

Actually, none of those factors has any weight where a soulmate is concerned. All of those things are superficial and don't have anything to do with a soulmate bond. These may be factors, however, in the "body" form of a relationship, an earthbound illusion we feed ourselves.

True soulmates have only the lessons learned in this life that differs from their partners and if they have not learned the appropriate lessons in this life and their other lives, the soulmates cannot be together in peace and therefore the relationship becomes toxic. Other than hurrying up and learning the lessons they are meant to from this lifetime while WITH their soulmate (which they have to be ready and willing to learn them) there is nothing that can be done to make the relationship compatible.

Love is life and life is love

What are you talking about? Your idea sounds pretty fancifal to me. I was refering to the actual stuff that affects a good long lasting relationship, not the childrens romantic stories your basing your opinions off of. What is your definition of solemate anyway? I should have titled my last post ways to create a lasting relationship or factors to creating one.

 

[Mimi]

That is just it. She's not talking about the fabric of things that go into making a long lasting relationship work. She is referring to that instant mind blowing bond you can have with someone whom you've just met. That connection that makes both parties feel as though they've been together for years, and they know immediately it's just "right".

 

[kcantankerous]

thought that was a myth

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Looks to me like Mimi found her soul mate so that means there's hope for those of us who care! As far as the definition of soul mate, I think it's up to the individual.

 

[Mimi]

I did too until it happened to me. Thought the whole concept was a complete farce, and your best hope in life was to find someone you could tolerate enough to make a relationship work for however many years you spend together. I spent 11 years in a marriage under that belief.

Then, when I was NOT looking for it, and NOT expecting it, I got slapped in the face with a healthy dose of "surprise! fairy tales DO exist!" and needless to say, changed my prospective on the matter.

Unless or until it happens to someone, it's certainly understandable why they'd feel it was a fantasy. I certainly did. It's just something you gotta experience to see from the other side. I only wish everyone was lucky enough in their lifetime to discover it for themselves. Unfortunately, it happens all too rare.

 

[isabeau]

Looks to me like Mimi found her soul mate so that means there's hope for those of us who care! As far as the definition of soul mate, I think it's up to the individual.

never give up BigBrownEyes. i believe there is a soulmate for everyone. but it might take time to find him or her. as i said before, to me a soulmate doesnt necessarily mean a sexual partner. for me, my husband is my soulmate, and its not about sex. its about everything. he puts up with me for one thing, but there is just something about him that i knew almost immediately was meant for me. and for it to last 27 years in this day and age is a small miracle. .

good luck everyone with finding your own. the day david dies, a part of my soul will die as well....

isabeau

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Thanks, Isabeau! I thought I would've found her by now, but I'm not giving up!

To quote a line from the extremely deep movie "Flashdance," 🙄 "When you give up your dreams, you die..."

Anyway, I'm not giving up 😀

 

[Sacrifice]

That is just it. She's not talking about the fabric of things that go into making a long lasting relationship work. She is referring to that instant mind blowing bond you can have with someone whom you've just met. That connection that makes both parties feel as though they've been together for years, and they know immediately it's just "right".

Thank you Mimi. goddessofpixies is the strongest yet most sensetive woman ive ever known. I have been chasing her since Reagan was president and now shes finally mine at age 33! She told you how it happened but theres other things too...we always call each other at the exact same time, say the same things at the same time. Its almost a psychic connection! Im really not one for the holidays but whoever delievered goddesofpixies into my arms I owe my life to. If thats not a soulmate please tell me what is. 😀

 

[goddessofpixies]

"Soulmate" is a catchy phrase used to sell things, like dating services, greeting cards, etc.

Jeez...there's no way to say that without sounding cynical

I can't say I agree with you because the first time I believed in soulmates was at an age when I wasn't even old enough to go to the store by myself much less purchase "soulmate" paraphernalia. Then I allowed life to get the best of me and didn't see my soulmate who was right in front of my face all along. One day my eyes opened and I once again I felt the same hopefulness that there is more to life than just the bodies we inhabit and the jobs we go to each day and the laundry we accumulate.

As I have said in a previous post, I myself was cynical and said some mean and hateful things to the sweetest man in the name of being lied too and treated like dirt by some of those I had allowed into my life. One day I realized my anger was SO vented on the wrong person and that I couldn't blame EVERYONE out there for the dirty deeds of a few pitiful people. I realized I didn't want to be a bitter person any longer and even though I thought I had chased Sacrifice totally away, he gave me one more chance to redeem myself He makes me the happiest woman!

 

[Goodieluver]

I was wondering about soulmates lately. Is there really such as thing as there's this ONE person out there that is our soulmate? I mean I met my friend who said when she first met her fiance she could tell that he was her soulmate. She said that she felt like she had known him all her life but the thing is I am sure that's pshycological because I am sure she didn't really literally know him all her life. I think the idea of a soulmate is just psychological in that you really make a strong connection with someone.


Also, is it possible to have more than one soulmate? I am looking forward to your replies.

I think its possible, there is a huge amount of myth about it, going all the way back to the Romans, who claimed Zeus got jealous at mankind so he split mankind in two, so they would no longer be together(hence why soulmates, because at one time they were together, be it male\female or female\female or male\male.

There is also a biological reason saying how it could be true, when you meet someone, you body releases a chemical making you feel the feelin of love, i forget what its called, somethin oxy, but after 4 years, your body grows a tolerance to it and love isnt the same. So i presume that the chemical makes you feel as if you known this person all your life

I have little to no personal experience so i wouldnt know, i know of the love addiction, but little of it being practical over long periods of time

 

[goddessofpixies]

There is also a biological reason saying how it could be true, when you meet someone, you body releases a chemical making you feel the feelin of love, i forget what its called, somethin oxy, but after 4 years, your body grows a tolerance to it and love isnt the same. So i presume that the chemical makes you feel as if you known this person all your life

If you take two people in a relationship and one or both of them doesn't know what a real relationship is, they don't really know what they want out of this particular relationship or they aren't getting all of it, the complete package, from this relationship, of COURSE when the lust wears off, what are they left with? That is why most relationships DON'T work because one or both of the parties doesn't see the lust for what it is ...just lust! Even as a teen I Knew what a crush was....lust. Unfortunately I didn't know what love was. I mistook feelings of anxiety for love, a drawback from the family dynamic during my childhood.

Thank goodness Sacrifice has been so patient and true to himself and didn't settle for a relationship that didn't complete him or I might not be lucky enough to be with him now. We have both been through extremely rough challenges in life but I think we can both appreciate this relationship for its full potential because of our experiences and watching the mistakes of others. If the "lust" ever wears off, I believe I speak for the both of us that our commitment will stand.

*off topic* My love, do you think our sexual passion for one another will ever fade? If so we always have the books we read to one another, the movies we watch together (well when I can keep my hands off you anyway) the baseballs games and outings to the parks, just to mention a handful of activities that we do together. Love is life and life is Love

 

[BigBrownEyes]

It's nice to see that some of you found your soul mate. I'm happy for you! I'd be more happy for me if I managed to find mine, but that's life...

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I think the term soulmates does sound like a cutsey phrase. What if I just meet someone that I am compatible that I am comfortable with? I mean who's to say it has to be a soulmate. I mean I am 33. I will try not to give up but as they say beggars can't be choosers.