Spouse Meeting Tickle Partner: Opinions

[TeMpEsT949]

I know the opinions will be biased, haha, but I would like them anyway. How would you feel about your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend meeting an opposite-sex tickle partner? It's not even one-on-one. I'm a female lee, and a male ler I've known for years is going to be in town, so I facebook-introduced him to a female switch I met a few months ago. I really want to join them lol. Two lers would be fun! ^_^ And even though I'm not big into doing the tickling it can be amusing to watch =P My boyfriend's not into the tickle scene and he's not comfortable with my going. I said I'd like him to come so he could see what it's about, that I'm not trying to hide anything and that it's not sexual but he doesn't want to be there with another guy. I guess I understand - it's just frustrating, lol. What do you think? Or has anyone had similar-ish experiences?

 

[J&B ATW]

I wouldn't want to be with another guy either - just my personal preference, because it's sexual to me.

My wife is perfectly fine tickling other girls, because it's not sexual to her. Weird dynamics, I know. Maybe he'd be interested in watching you and another girl tickle? That's sexy to even vanilla men!!!

 

[TeMpEsT949]

I wouldn't want to be with another guy either - just my personal preference, because it's sexual to me.

My wife is perfectly fine tickling other girls, because it's not sexual to her. Weird dynamics, I know. Maybe he'd be interested in watching you and another girl tickle? That's sexy to even vanilla men!!!

I mean, tickling CAN be sexual, but it's usually not for me unless other stuff is involved. So yeah, I'm like your wife, haha. I'm fine with being tickled by another girl.

I don't think he'd mind watching that =P Or maybe even torturing me with another girl.

 

[J&B ATW]

I mean, tickling CAN be sexual, but it's usually not for me unless other stuff is involved. So yeah, I'm like your wife, haha. I'm fine with being tickled by another girl.

I don't think he'd mind watching that =P Or maybe even torturing me with another girl.

I am sure he wouldn't mind that at all!!

 

[GirlMeetsTickle]

It's hard for me to put myself in the shoes of someone who isn't into tickling. If a (future) spouse or girlfriend wanted to have an opposite sex tickle-partner, and bondage was going to be involved..I would be hesitant, iffy, like I would want to learn more. I wouldn't want to deprive her of having fun, but if there was a play session where my girlfriend is touching someone who could be getting sexual kicks from it, I wouldn't like that at all. And I would let her know.

 

[AbsolutelyTkld]

To me it really doesn't matter as long as everything is laid out and consensual. It's a session, we all desire to have them. Jealousy is another issue but being secure about your relationship and keeping the fetish aside from it if necessary, is they key.

I've Tickled many women and my wife has been Tickled by male lers. No biggie. Getting to know and trust others in the community is the biggest step. If that's there, then have fun. 🙂


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[chicago]

Im lucky I hit the jackpot with my ler/ bf .Past vanilla dudes and some kinky ones got pretty posessive

 

[BMoreTklr]

I agree with GirlMeetsTickle. Hard to put myself in the position of a non-ticklephile with respect to this question. As a ler myself, and one who's attended NEST with an attractive lee, seeing the reaction to an attractive lee by other lers is crazy. Given the situation presented, I'd definitely go and have no issue with the arrangement, but it helps if I'd have met or at least thought this other ler was cool. While every tickle interaction between those of the opposite sex doesn't have to turn sexual, I've learned that you can't trust the inner vulture that we lers have especially when tickling a very ticklish and attractive member of the opposite sex. Too many attempts to throw me under the bus for me to just blindly trust another doesn't have any hidden agenda with my SO.

 

[TeMpEsT949]

Thanks everyone for your input! I understand the jealousy aspect. I mean, yeah, I'd consider myself attractive, and I'm crazy ticklish - even people who aren't lers say I'm fun to tickle ^_^ I figured with another girl there though it's at least less intimidating for him.

I think I've convinced him that it's not going to be some crazy orgy and that we're just a bunch of weirdos who really like tickling =P I let him read the messages I sent to the guy and he saw that it was just tickle talk (and some music since actually all 3 of us are musicians). He hesitantly said he's ok with my going even though he doesn't want to go. He's really anxious around people so it's hard to get him to go out to normal events let alone something like this. The ler guy wants to try out being a lee and the switch girl wants to be tortured, so while I don't really like to tickle I'll gladly hold arms and legs down since there won't be bondage, haha. I guess we'll see!

 

[Destro]

I think that it has a lot to do with how you and your boyfriend view tickling in your personal interactions between the two of you. If he relates to it in a sexual way or if you regard it as foreplay that gets you aroused when just the two of you are together, then he is not going to like it. (Regardless of what he may say) Unless the both of you are ok with swinging, then I would advise to quit. I do not believe that any man would tolerate his girlfriend engaging in any activity with another man if his girlfriend finds that activity sexually arousing or if the boyfriend gets aroused when engaged in it with her. However, like I said, if both of you are into swinging or if your boyfriend looks at tickling as just harmless fun with no sexual connotation implied then it would probably be fine. Both of you must have a clear understanding how the other feels about tickling. If he doesn't like what you're doing, then be prepared to find another guy or to have a huge fight with him, which will probably result in you finding another guy.

 

[TeMpEsT949]

I think that it has a lot to do with how you and your boyfriend view tickling in your personal interactions between the two of you. If he relates to it in a sexual way or if you regard it as foreplay that gets you aroused when just the two of you are together, then he is not going to like it. (Regardless of what he may say) Unless the both of you are ok with swinging, then I would advise to quit. I do not believe that any man would tolerate his girlfriend engaging in any activity with another man if his girlfriend finds that activity sexually arousing or if the boyfriend gets aroused when engaged in it with her. However, like I said, if both of you are into swinging or if your boyfriend looks at tickling as just harmless fun with no sexual connotation implied then it would probably be fine. Both of you must have a clear understanding how the other feels about tickling. If he doesn't like what you're doing, then be prepared to find another guy or to have a huge fight with him, which will probably result in you finding another guy.

It's really not sexual to me. I just enjoy it. It makes me happy, and he thinks it's playful and silly. He just feels that any guy who wants to touch a woman like that is going to get aroused so he isn't ok with it, which is fair. So I'm fine with female lers ^_^ It was just this particular time, and since I've known this guy for a decade and there's never been anything sexual.

Anyway, unfortunately the whole situation from my OP ended up falling apart...the male ler had to cancel for other obligations, so the girl and I were going to still meet. She is wanting to get back with her hubby (separated) who apparently didn't know the depth of her tickling love and now he's forbidden us not only from tickling but from contact all together because he thinks we're dating...wow... we've met up all of 2 times and have never even come close to being sexual. So...I guess that's that. :/ Even my bf thought that was an overreaction lol.

 

[EnjoyMyGFsSoles]

We have never done it. I would LOVE to share her soles with another man, but she would never be up for it.