Stages Of Coming Out

[mustang]

Up until this forum came into being, I thought that I was one of the only foot freaks in the world, so I was in the closet big time. I couldn't have taken being ostracized about my foot thing. I was 27 before I met another guy with a foot fetish. I eventually was able to comfortably admit that I have a foot fetish, but within that I have a huge foot tickling fetish. What's more, it is highly erotic and sexual to me. There is nothing that I would rather do than to tickle a girl's sexy feet while masturbating. It took me a lot longer to admit to others my foot tickling fetish. I am still somewhat guarded about that. In fact, I am still working my way through that. The only ones who know that my fetish is sexual have been my girlfriends. I still am pretty guarded about revealing the sexual nature of my fetish. I began coming out because I could see that my life was slipping away and my hiding in the closet was depriving me of foot tickling experiences. So I began by being open about having a foot fetish, because that is pretty common. Next, I began being more open about my foot tickling fetish, but only to the women that I dated. For many years, I would tickle girls' feet, but would hide the fact that it is sexual. I am presently trying to bring full disclosure. Think of it...the more people who come out about their foot thing will pave the way for more acceptibility and help us all out. How have some of you handled coming out of the closet? Was it a gradual, progressive thing? Are you able to admit that it is sexual yet? The biggest factor in coming out is to admit it as though it is no big deal. If you act ashamed of it, others are more likely to think that you are weird. For instance, I just tell people that there are titty-men, booty-men, leg-men, and foot-men. I happen to be a foot-man. I have to admit that the tickling thing is a little harder to negotiate. Needless to the sexual part is even harder. But, I am tired of hiding.

 

[usgrant]

I would never tell anybody I was into tickling if they weren't into tickling. Something like that would have no benefit for me whatsoever.

 

[Elphaba]

I've never told any of my friends what I like in bed. They know I have all the restraints and everything but they think it's just tie up. I don't want to tell them, I'm not going to sleep with them haha 🙂 plus Lord knows I love them but they think tie up is seriously kinky, god knows how they would take a fetish!

 

[Fire_Sprite]

I don't tell my friends and I don't intend to. There's no point in them knowing my erotic proclivities. Also it doesn't help that my primary sexual thrill is a silly activity they do to flirt.

Why can't I have a cooler fetish?

 

[dskodj]

mustang, i was JUST like you many many years ago (almost seems like another life). but the way you are going about it is perfect.

however, me now, i am so damn open about it its scary. also, my outlook on life and things have changed in all these years too..so that has something to do with it (speak your mind, be yourself, if people dont like it, fuck em! live for YOU and those who love you ONLY and never try to "fit in")

the way i see it is, there is nothing to be ashamed of..it is who you are, what your into sexually and it is a part of YOU. if a gal cant accept that, then they obviously are not the one for you to be with.

i agree, if more would just "come out" so to speak..it would make our fetish easier. whats sick is there are WAY more odd fetishes that are "accepted" by the masses..go figure.

 

[blaargh]

I would think the only reason to "come out" is in the face of an opportunity to act on it. It's too uncommon to be bringing up to just anybody.

Sure, it'd be nice to know if a particular girl likes having her feet tickled, but I doubt she'd let anybody who asks do it.

I once dated a girl who I could bring to orgasm simply by tickling her feet, but I'm married to a girl that hates having her feet touched. Life's complex as hell.

 

[mustang]

I wasn't talking about campaigning or being obnoxiously proactive. I meant that when opportunities arise, I don't back down. Of course, the only time that the sexual aspect can be gracefully approached is with a girlfriend. But, even that is a coming out. It is just a one-on-one coming out. I am quite open about my foot fetish, but reserve the foot tickling fetish and the fact that it is sexual to girlfriends that show an opening for that type of revelation. What I am trying to say is that I am quite open about my foot fetish, but I am careful about the tickling and sex part of it. Like I said, time is wasting away and I don't want to let shyness or shame deprive me of great foot fetish experiences.

 

[GQguy]

I'm like dskodj.

I'm very open about it. But open to an extent depending on the context of the conversation. If i'm talking to friends male or female about what i'm attracted to i'll tell them that pretty high arched feet are a turn on for me. I'm being honest! I've been with lots of women and have never had one laugh at what I liked. So why should I expect that from friends? Besides, how would a potential love interest know to use their feet to please you if you don't tell her?

A couple of times i've had buddy's tease me about my foot fetish in front of girls....but I must admit...I like it! It feels great to be free and let others know how you feel without holding back. Foot fetishes are weird! Yes! But everyone has their quirks. What makes it weird is when people try to hide it...or are ashamed....Women don't respond to that and the fellas will always try and make fun. Despite me liking the teasing....my buddy's don't tease. It's no fun to tease a guy that is not ashamed and open about his foot fetish.

Actually, my roommate confessed that he has sucked his girlfriends toes and was saddened that he couldn't derive the same pleasure as I did from feet. Go figure!

Accept yourself...and others will accept you. It can only happen in this order....not the other way around.

GQ

 

[mustang]

Very well said, GQguy. You said it all better than I could have.

 

[dskodj]

GQ said it right on!

 

[scorpionldr]

I would never tell anybody I was into tickling if they weren't into tickling. Something like that would have no benefit for me whatsoever.

Its worth more to throw the shit in the air and see if it flies around the room, no?

Personally, as secret as I wish I could be, I'm just one to put it out there and hear the reactions. If its negative, fine, fuck them, one less to date. To me the most respectable response at its bare minimum is to simply hear "ok." If someone can actually deal with it before completely swearing it off, well......you at least have a chance.

 

[usgrant]

People in general are manipulative and condescending that's why you don't out yourself.

 

[mustang]

If you spend your life hiding in the closet you will miss opportunities. Eventually you get old and then kick yourself in the butt for allowing your pride to deprive you of so many potentially orgasmic experiences. If people reject you for what you are, or for what you are attracted to, just keep moving. I think that most people don't really give a hoot about what turns the next guy on. Everyone has their 'thing'. So what if you don't fit into the norm. The norm is a statistical construct. The question might be why do so many people have a fetish for being normal?

 

[GQguy]

Its worth more to throw the shit in the air and see if it flies around the room, no?

Personally, as secret as I wish I could be, I'm just one to put it out there and hear the reactions. If its negative, fine, fuck them, one less to date. To me the most respectable response at its bare minimum is to simply hear "ok." If someone can actually deal with it before completely swearing it off, well......you at least have a chance.

I love this! Because it's so true! My favorite response is when a girl says "really? I have the cutest feet ever, you'll love them". And if she says I hate feet, no biggie. If she says "feet guys gross me out" brother you never had a chance!

I can't stress enough the fact that if a woman is into you she'll do anything in the bedroom for you. Feet are so mild when you think about it. To lose a quality guy because he got aroused by your feet is a silly position for a woman to be in(High Quality guys are NOT in abundance). Keep this in mind.

If you don't consider yourself a High Quality Guy figure out why and fix it!

GQ

 

[scorpionldr]

I love this! Because it's so true! My favorite response is when a girl says "really? I have the cutest feet ever, you'll love them". And if she says I hate feet, no biggie. If she says "feet guys gross me out" brother you never had a chance!

I can't stress enough the fact that if a woman is into you she'll do anything in the bedroom for you. Feet are so mild when you think about it. To lose a quality guy because he got aroused by your feet is a silly position for a woman to be in(High Quality guys are NOT in abundance). Keep this in mind.

If you don't consider yourself a High Quality Guy figure out why and fix it!

GQ

lol I more like the reaction "oh shit....I'm too ticklish". The foot deal is/should be minor, i don't know why it isn't.

As far as "High quality"......who knows. I'm just nice.

 

[asutickler]

Watch out... When you open up to others, they're going to open up right back.

It's all fun and games until one of your buddies starts telling you how much he loves to eat poop. 😵

 

[CuteJill143]

I am happy with my point but I used to be scared out of my mind and also guilty and shamefull. It has gotten easier as I have attended more munches and gatherings when I meet more people who share this with me. I am at a point where I am not embarrassed if my peers know but I would die if my family or my mentor professor knew. But its more because that I feel that It is none of my family's business just how some other things are. At the same time I would never shout it from the rooftop but if someone were stalking me on the internet and they found out, AM I A CREEP FOR BEING INTO TICKLING or ARE THEY A CREEP FOR STALKING ME AND GOING FAR TO TRY AND HUMILIATE ME? It takes time and there is no "right" age to come to terms with it. I think I am 80% there so far 🙂

 

[Katie Pants]

I disagree with the attitude that friends and family DON'T need to know. I think in certain cases they do. There are many people, including my parents, whom I feel uncomfortable being close with because they tickled me and I never disclosed how I really felt about it. I mean, nobody wants their parents or friends unwittingly come on to them. So yes, coming out is something you need to be comfortable doing I'm case you really have to.

 

[mustang]

I left the closet 26 years ago. Just recently, my girlfriend blurted out in front of another couple that I REALLY liked her feet. The other girl just said, 'Oh well, whatever turns him on'. The guy didn't bat an eye. He was probably thinking about his own sexual piccadillos. It is so nice to be free...you are as sick as your secrets.

 

[GQguy]

I left the closet 26 years ago. Just recently, my girlfriend blurted out in front of another couple that I REALLY liked her feet. The other girl just said, 'Oh well, whatever turns him on'. The guy didn't bat an eye. He was probably thinking about his own sexual piccadillos. It is so nice to be free...you are as sick as your secrets.

In my experience this is how it usually goes down. It's great to be free.

GQ

 

[Ocean]

Mustang, there are people that want to be pooped on, pissed on, hit, beat, whipped, choked, cut, burnt... in comparison, doesn't a gentle caress and tickle seem much less "freaky" than we make it out to be? 🙂

 

[gilmourwaters]

I never hid my fetish...i didnt just blurt it out to just anyone in a room at random but if the topic of "interests" came up i just put it out there.Its a part of who i am so why hide it.,,and quite frankly i have had MANY MANY great experiences with it with female friends and gfs throughout my life and i would never have had if i kept it hidden. Hell even the gfs of my guy friends let me "partake" of there feet..they thought it was cute and the idea of a guy turned on by just there feet was hot to them.My male friends didnt care much cuz they knew i wouldnt take it any furthur with there gfs...to them it was just "feet"....same goes with the tickling fetish.Hell in college i had women friends who actually wore nylons and heels on certain days specifically because they knew that day I was going to tickle them and they knew i was a nylon foot tickling guy...hows THAT for acceptance! lol