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Story about me losing a tickle friend of mine

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GirlWhoLikes2Laugh

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Okay, I know that I haven't been on here in a very long time but I've just been very busy with other things in my life. I'll try to give you all a short version of what happened to my tickle friend & I. I met (I'd rather not say his name because I don't want to make the situation worse) him I think in 2005 through TMF and he's a lurker on here. Sent me a private message and wanted to get to know me and be my tickle friend. Well, in the five and a half years that we've known each other, he has always come to my place or we would meet at a hotel. I've wanted to go to his house as well and he would always give excuses like he was doing home improvement projects there or his Mom was there since he lives with her. Well lately, in 2011, I got fed up and said to him that it's not fair that he always come to my place and that I'd really like to go to his house whether his Mom is there or not. I said to him that after all this time, I think it's rude for him not to reciprocate and have to me come there.

This behavior leaves me suspicious like he might be hiding something or someone (like maybe a girlfriend) he doesn't want me to know about. Said to him that I'd like to come over and take it or leave it. He responded back to me by saying with an email like that he said he'd leave it & wished me good luck. Yeah, I probably was a little mad in the email but I think it's just ridiculous that after knowing him for 5 and a half years that I haven't been to his house even once. Just would like your opinions on this situation. Thank you.
 
Kind of sad in my opinion. Beings I do not know him I guess I can't make a harsh opinion but it would seem to me that he has something to hide. 5 years is a long time and I feel in my heart that he must not have been very honest with you about who he is. To respond back to you by e-mail is the first clue something else is going on with him. I am sorry to hear that this has happened to you though.
 
Was the relationship platonic or sexual?

GirlWhoLikes2Laugh, it sounds as though your arrangement was platonic, as opposed to having sex with this fellow in addition to the tickling.

Assuming the setup was platonic, why would he care if you knew he was married, living with a either girlfriend or gay lover, or whatever? Did he tell you that little about himself in all the years you saw him?

But if the arrangement included sex, it seems to me he could not have considered the relationship exclusive but that still may explain his refusal to host, as he must be involved with someone.

For a much, much shorter time than than you had with your friend, GirlWhoLikes2Laugh, I was seeing a female tickle buddy who one day just blew me off. I found out why she iced me later, but it's all besides the point (including the fact that months later we had a one-time reunion tickle session): Be happy for what you had and let the end of the relationship be your tickle friend's loss, as you weren't the one who called it off.

As you are female, you must have many guys willing to take that fellow's place. File your mysterious no-host friend under, "Good while it lasted" and start interviewing replacements today!
 
He always told me he had a good relationship with his Mom. I know he has a cat and just got a dog. As far as I know, he's never had any major problems with his Mom. Yes, I would've liked to have met her. I don't think it's too much to ask to want to visit a friend's house after knowing them for 5 and a half years. Thanks for your support.
 
Well Em Es, I didn't really want to get into this but our relationship was a FRIEND WITH BENEFITS, IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. So, it was platonic & sexual. In all the years I've known him, he has NEVER MENTIONED A GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE. Just think that after all that time, you'd think he'd be honest with me. I don't think it's too much to ask to visit someone's home after knowing them for 5 and a half years. Thanks for your thoughts.
 
Then I can only think of one follow-up question

GirlWhoLikes2Laugh, I thank you for your candor.

"Friends with benefits" sounds as though there was no exclusivity despite sexual actiivity. In other words, neither of you was led on by the other about the relationship meaning more than just a good time.

If your tickle friend raised never the topic of his spouse/live-in lover status, did you ask? Because if you didn't, he could have taken that to mean you didn't want to know.

However, considering the information you've given I think he should have simply told you, "I can't host because I'm married" or whatever the reason, when you wanted to know why he refused to host.

It probably hurts that he chose to run away instead of being straight with you. Welcome to the world, right? GirlWhoLikes2Laugh, just file it under, "Good while it lasted" and start interviewing replacements tickle buddies today!
 
I'm really sorry, but i have to just agree and repeat the others. there seemed to be more going on than he cared to mention, in his defense it might have been something he was embarrassed about, but seeing as he so quickly chose to move on, means that he either one had other options whatever they could be, or just wanted something new, or felt he'd let you go and see if you come back. I agree it was fair nor made sense that you couldn't go to his place. the reasons he gave just seemed a little weak and 5 years of it, shows that one he was either really uncomfortable with his mother being there (which is understandable) or he was hiding something, but as long as you aren't hurt and can use this as a learning experience than all is somewhat well.
 
I'm sorry that you had to go through this, Girlwholikes2laugh.
It seems to me that he must have something at his house that he doesn't want you to see or know about. Whatever it is, he chose to keep it secret and end things with you. I think he made a bad choice and you can, as others have said, do better.
 
hey hon, if he hadnt even botehred to have u over even once, i woulnd't have wasted even a month on this guy...
even though to some people it may just be ticklnig, it still sorta is like a relationship, and the other has to give a little as well... you can do so much better...iim sure there's better guys on here who would like to tickle the crap outta you!!! haha...😉

good luck!!..xo
 
i agree 100%...YOU'D THINK he'd be honest after all those years...show's his true character huh? im actually glad for you that he's gone, you dont need that at all...its wrong and disrespectful..he's obviously not a real man...😉...
 
To echo what everyone's saying, I'd put decent money on him having a girlfriend and things with you were kept in secret. 5 years is nothing, there's no shortage of married/taken men who have screwed around no the side for many many years.

On the other hand, he could have had just some really bizarre issue. Like someone said, he could have been a hoarder 😛 Or maybe was extremely embarrassed about. The 5 years makes me lean heavily towards the "he had a gf" side though.

I think, as others have said, you just should chalk it up to fun while it lasted. I think everyone here has had a tickle friend/normal friend who simply was in their life for a set amount of time and at some point just disappeared or ended the friendship or whatever under no bad circumstances.
 
I've had a similar problem. I was talking with someone for a while and then once things didn't go her way she said "This isn't worth the headache you're giving me" and bolted. The reason she said that was because a while back we'd do these cyber tickling scenario's where we'd be just friends and then become a couple and yadda yadda. We stopped talking for a bit because i was moving and had to get set up and i hadn't seen her for a month or two. In that time i had gotten a girlfriend and i told her that i didn't want to do that kind of relationship stuff because it felt wrong. She got mad but i convinced her to just talk to me and we eventually got back to doing normal cyber tickling. Then she starts pushing for the relationship stuff and actually sending me pictures of herself asking what i thought so i told her again that i don't want to do that and she's pushing the boundaries. So she said "I get it, you don't have to keep telling me. You don't have to keep pushing it at me." and i told her i wasn't pushing anything, if she got it she wouldn't do it so she said "This isn't worth the headache you're giving me" And i haven't spoken to her since (this was about a week ago).

I hate when people ignore you without giving you a chance to say your piece, you feel like you have something to say but they won't let you. It's infuriating. I know how you feel.
 
I’ll just join the consensus. The guy likely lives with a wife or gf. Sorry! Other explanations are theoretically possible, but unlikely. Advice for next time? See the next guy’s place sooner, unless you’re ok with the possibility of the wife or gf.
 
Yeah, he had a wife.

Sorry you met a jerk, but that's usually how it works. Husband looks for another woman online, goes meet her at her place.....OBVIOUSLY you can't go to his house.

The "mom" lie was unoriginal, but worked. I mean...really. If the guy got along with his "mom," he can't invite you over and say "Come meet my friend mom!" Notice no parenthesis - you ARE friends, sex or no sex, so there's no lie there. (How many millions upon millions of people, from teenagers to the elderly, are IN this life situation?!)
He wouldn't even have to make anything up!

The "hoarder" thing doesn't carry water either. No matter HOW much you liked your stuff you don't need, a real life woman who can give you laughter and sex...or even human touch?!
And how many people have junky houses and have no problem inviting people over? (Most of the people, friends or family, that I know.) And I don't know how many hoarders are embarassed by their stuff, they could probably tell you why everything's important!

It's a valid theory for those wanting to give the benefit of the doubt, but really......to be dumped THAT fast and coldy - YEP, HE'S MARRIED, AND WAS A CHEATER, AND A LIAR, to his wife, AND to you.

Hell yeah you can find someone else.

After that long together, you should be pissed too. But do whatever it takes to not be pissed too long, nor take it out on the next guy who comes along. (Which, if your hot, won't be long.)
Because while you're sad or crying or pissed off.......I guarantee, he's already online while his wife is taking a bath or sleeping, scoping out his next "girl-he'll-lie-to-to-get-sex-from" while using the "my mom's home!" lie.

I'm sorry some guys suck. But many don't. Hey, I was married for 5 long years, in a unhappy marriage, and I never cheated.

.....and now that I'm poor, women will NEVER want me! Ha ha! There's some humor at my expense to cheer you up!
 
I'm sure you can't know for sure -- he deliberately chose not to tell you. I think you did the right thing in providing an ultimatum for him, and he at least took that ultimatum seriously. Since you already figured out that you don't want to be involved with someone who won't have you over, the situation changed for the better. It's sad that this guy didn't have that quality you wanted, but that's the way it is.

I'm also strict about certain boundaries. If he wasn't doing anything nefarious and was just shy or embarrassed about something, I can empathize with him. Let the guys interact with you who have thought their policies through and are certain they're comfortable doing what you're interested in.
 
I understand what people are saying but I never actually asked him if he had a g/f or wife. I mean we've known each other for 5 years and that should be long enough for me to go to his house & be comfortable with it. Even thought it was a friends with benefits situation, there's really no valid excuse for me not to visit his house at least once. Except of course if he was either married
or had a girlfriend. I mean he came always came to my home (that is when we didn't meet at a hotel). It just doesn't make any
sense because he seemed like such a nice guy. Oh well, I'll move on, guess that's all I can do.


Thanks for all your kind words.
 
It just doesn't make any
sense because he seemed like such a nice guy.
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Apparently he just played the nice guy and was quite the jerk - it's almost certain that he's married.
 
Sounds to me like you killed a win-win situation. The guy came to your house specifically to tickle and have sex, and you didn't have to go out of your way for anything. Now you get nothing, and you still aren't going to his house.
 
Speedbump, sometimes a person wants more than a win-win-situation, kinda like trust and a closer relationship!
 
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