Sucess stories of turning your partner to a lee or ler

[ticklishfeetnyc]

Just wanted to know if anyone else here has any good stories to share about their partners in life turning them into a lee or ler or getting them to embrace it. For me my wife is not a member of the TMF or probablly never will be. We are very open to eachother what turns us on. I think it is very important to kind of ease into from the begining that way there is no suprise. I remember the first few times when my wife and I were dating and exploring eachother I was not shy touching her feet. I complimented them and asked if she liked it or minded that I touched them. She did not mind. Then gradually eased into telling them that they are pretty, and then also explaining to her feet are a turn on to me in which she was not freaked out by this. (I found with all my previous relationships that if you approach the subject like it is no big deal it won't be treated as one.) I can say I never recieved a bad reaction from this, but I just may be lucky. Anyway since I am open about my whole love of feet and tickling my wife and I usually incorperate tickling as frequently as hugs and kisses. I would say not a day goes by without a breif tickle. My wife is now what you would call almost a full fledged ler. She gets the biggest smile on her face when she stradles my legs and has my barefeet at her mercy and as she calls it "goes to town on my feet" with her nails. I always feel lucky that I have a partner to share this with and she enjoys being a ler. My advice to anyone who is with someone is not to be shy about telling your partner what turns you on and do not expect them to be as into it as you are. If they really love you they will see how they can please you by participating with it by either being the ler or excepting the frequent tickles. Just share with your partner your feelings and except any limitations. I would like to hear if anyone has any similar stories being with someone who was originally not into it but started to have fun with it because they were introduced to it.

 

[Em Es]

Not sure you have to "convert" them

ticklishfeetnyc, I'm not sure you have to convert a vanilla partner. If pleasing you matters, he or she will tolerate getting tickled or, if you are a 'lee, tickle you.

But I imagine it must be harder to make a non-tickle person into a tickler than a ticklee. To be a ticklee, all she or he has to be is ticklish and willing to put up with getting tickled in order to satisfy you. But to be a tickler has to involve wanting to communicate something via tickling, so if you're a 'lee in need of a 'ler, here's hoping your lover understands your need well enough to meet it.

Making a relationship last in hard enough without the complications of special needs such as ours. In some ways I think it would be better to keep one's tickling life separate from one's love life, by either finding a platonic tickle buddy to see on the side or paying a dominatrix for tickle play, assuming the cost is not a problem.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I've had a lot of luck with getting women I know to let me routinely tickle them. Whether they actually like tickling or just me touching them I don't know, but we're all happy with the situation, so meh.

 

[gilmourwaters]

Wasnt hard for me...I just told her I had the fetish and she gave me her feet to tickle right then and there to experience it..and she was hooked!She'd lee for me at a moments notice.And she'll ask for a session too! THEN I made the apparant error to let her experience being a ler and now I have a tickle MONSTER! LOL

 

[AmandaBear]

But I imagine it must be harder to make a non-tickle person into a tickler than a ticklee. To be a ticklee, all she or he has to be is ticklish and willing to put up with getting tickled in order to satisfy you. But to be a tickler has to involve wanting to communicate something via tickling, so if you're a 'lee in need of a 'ler, here's hoping your lover understands your need well enough to meet it.

I have to respectfully disagree with this statement, if you don't mind. 😀
I would imagine that it'd be harder as a tickler to turn a non-ticklephile into a 'lee. Most people are more willing to do the tickling than to be on the receiving end, after all. 😉 I mean, I thought most people hate being tickled and the 'lees/switches on the forum are the exception. XD So yeah, just my two cents. 🙂

 

[Ticklish9's]

ticklishfeetnyc, I'm not sure you have to convert a vanilla partner. If pleasing you matters, he or she will tolerate getting tickled or, if you are a 'lee, tickle you.

But I imagine it must be harder to make a non-tickle person into a tickler than a ticklee. To be a ticklee, all she or he has to be is ticklish and willing to put up with getting tickled in order to satisfy you. But to be a tickler has to involve wanting to communicate something via tickling, so if you're a 'lee in need of a 'ler, here's hoping your lover understands your need well enough to meet it.

That's an interesting take on it. I always thought it would be harder convert someone into a 'lee, as many people do not much care for being tickled, but tickling people is rarely much of a hardship. My fiancee has taken to it fantastically and is now an excellent tickler.

 

[Em Es]

AmandaBear and Ticklish9's

AmandaBear, you say, " I would imagine that it'd be harder as a tickler to turn a non-ticklephile into a 'lee. Most people are more willing to do the tickling than to be on the receiving end, after all. I mean, I thought most people hate being tickled and the 'lees/switches on the forum are the exception."

I see what you mean. The distinction I make is getting somone who would never ask you to tickle her or him to nonetheless allow it, as opposed to "converting" them into an individual to whom it appeals. No woman I ever dated wanted me to tickle her, but those who wanted to please me put up with it. Are you a 'ler, and have you converted any boyfriends?

Ticklish9's, tickling tickles your fiancee's fancy, you say? And she was not a 'ler before you broke her in? Cool to know, and as I'm am in a word a tickler (albeit willing to switch and, once a in a blue moon, be an f/m 'lee), I have never asked a vanilla girl to tickle me, your experience outweighs my theory. How did she react when you first told her of your /m desire?

 

[ticklishfeetnyc]

ticklishfeetnyc, I'm not sure you have to convert a vanilla partner. If pleasing you matters, he or she will tolerate getting tickled or, if you are a 'lee, tickle you.

As far as converting my wife to be a ler it was very easy. She knows I like to have my feet tickled and she is happy to do it. Not a week goes by where she does not tickle my feet with out me even asking. She is definatly more of a ler but will let me tickle her feet too.

Making a relationship last in hard enough without the complications of special needs such as ours. In some ways I think it would be better to keep one's tickling life separate from one's love life, by either finding a platonic tickle buddy to see on the side or paying a dominatrix for tickle play, assuming the cost is not a problem.

As for the other part. I think that if you can not share something as simple as tickling with your partner that is a serious issue in the relationship. Tickling is a simple act like a hug or a kiss. It is not asking too much to receive or give a few tickles. Your partner may not be into the bondage aspect of it , but that is definatlly nothing to go to someone else for.

 

[Ticklish9's]

Ticklish9's, tickling tickles your fiancee's fancy, you say? And she was not a 'ler before you broke her in? Cool to know, and as I'm am in a word a tickler (albeit willing to switch and, once a in a blue moon, be an f/m 'lee), I have never asked a vanilla girl to tickle me, your experience outweighs my theory. How did she react when you first told her of your /m desire?

She figured it made sense. :lol: We both take the other's happiness seriously and once she found that this is one of the things that made me happy, she took full advantage and has gotten very creative with it. And she does like being in charge :lol: It is still more fun for me than it is for her of course, but she does enjoy it quite a bit now, just as I enjoy doing the things that make her happy.

By contrast however she does NOT care for being tickled and will only allow me to tickle her briefly (and her feet are not very ticklish at all anyway). But really I mostly tickle people to get them to tickle me back anyway, so that's fine. :lol: If I was a tickler, I think we'd be having a bit tougher time, though I'm sure we'd still work at it.

 

[AmandaBear]

I see what you mean. The distinction I make is getting someone who would never ask you to tickle her or him to nonetheless allow it, as opposed to "converting" them into an individual to whom it appeals. No woman I ever dated wanted me to tickle her, but those who wanted to please me put up with it. Are you a 'ler, and have you converted any boyfriends?

Oh, no I'm a lesbian 'lee...err...'lee-in-training, actually. LOL It's complicated. XD
But yeah, I see your point. 🙂 I think that most non-tickle enthusiasts would definitely be willing to 'lee or 'ler to make the other partner happy.