Taking Tickling for Granted (for the couples)

[Chaotique]

I was just wondering,

How many ticklphiles here are in live-in/married relationships with other ticklphiles, and is tickling such an everyday occurance that they now take it for granted?

Has the quality, quantity or duration of the tickling increased or decreased between the couples since getting together?

Just wondering.

 

[RavenMoon]

My fiancee was the one who introduced me to erotic tickling. Living together for us has not lessened it in any way. We have more casual tickle contact together than apart. On a regular basis, there is often the casual, playful tickling that occurs. That interaction is affirming to both of us as we are both highly sensitive, touchy, affectionate people. Since we keep tickling on a lighter level for our everyday contact, when we have a session and there is full blown tickling and tickle torture, it is still a highly treasured and enjoyed act. We only session once a week, and by session, I mean planned restraints, flogging, tickle torture, forced orgasm and the works. We are intimate more often than that and during those times, tickling comes in play as well. It heightens the experience for both of us since we both enjoy it.

There only change in quality, quantity or duration is that it happens more often in variety. Instead of only an intense session once a week when I would come down to see him before, we now have additionally all the other intimate and playful times together too.

Good mind poking!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Drew & I share playful little tickles all the time. But, between his schedule and my health issues, we don't get into more intense play nearly as often as we'd like. So, we definately don't take it for granted. Still, it's nice to live with a fellow tickle lover!

 

[xSamanthax]

I was just wondering,

How many ticklphiles here are in live-in/married relationships with other ticklphiles, and is tickling such an everyday occurance that they now take it for granted?

Has the quality, quantity or duration of the tickling increased or decreased between the couples since getting together?

Just wondering.

Hmmm. I'm not sure that either of us qualify as true "ticklephiles" but we do enjoy both playful and erotic tickling. I didn't relax and open up to being tickled til we were well into our marriage, so I have nothing to compare to.

For us, quanitity and duration runs in spurts. We have times where there is a bit of tickling daily...and times when we let it build up for a while. I'd say the quality has improved because my attitude has improved - I am more open to it and less prone to fight it or shut down.

And yes, I think we take it for granted simply because we know its there any time we both feel up for it. Not necessarily in a bad way, we are just really relaxed and casual about it.

Like Raven said, it is a form of affection between us. An excellent addition to an already excellent marriage. =)

 

[Spot_Lady]

So True!

Drew & I share playful little tickles all the time. But, between his schedule and my health issues, we don't get into more intense play nearly as often as we'd like. So, we definately don't take it for granted. Still, it's nice to live with a fellow tickle lover!

We have pokes and tickles all the time, but life and schedules and responsibilities keep us from having those incredibly intense times as often as we'd like, so there's absolutely no taking it for granted here! Hoo, boy, when everything comes together...WOW

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

Yea, I do take it for granted a little bit. Once upon a time, years back, I looked at tickling as that amazing thing that could only be achieved perfectly a few times in a lifetime... now that I have the opportunity when I'm home to just reach out and tickle my gf whenever I want... it's not as big as it used to be. I mean, it is still amazing and everything, but I do take for granted that I can just reach out and tickle her whenever I want... something a lot of people would go crazy for.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Hmmm well as you know ticklebear 2 and me right now for the last 6 months we have been living with my grandmother-in-law at her house because of a terrible car accident back in Sept 2008 a very long story-but the good news is that she is doing great and healing great and not really in pain anymore-she has another car she loves and she is able to get out a lot and socialize with friends, go out to breakfast, lunch, and dinner with friends and family. She can cruise in her car anytime. Anyway I know getting off topic forgive bunny.

Even though we absolutely love tickling and bear and me are passionate about tickling and major fans of it and also he and I enjoy and love erotic tickling with each other. The sad thing however is that we live here under grandma's house and yes while she is gone here and there we can sneak tickles in and tickle fights. Yes we still love each other more than ever and we got a great marriage just-sadly for us-we can't really take for granted that we can tickle anytime we want right now. Whereas before we lived here-when it was him and me-we could tickle anytime we desired. However now-we got to sneak tickles in when she is out with friends and not home-sometimes tickle late at night, non 15 and non hyper ticklish areas, even then we got to keep the laughing and noise down, so really we don't get to really let loose and we don't get to tickle too much. So while sometimes we can tickle most times we can't tickle-because when both of us get tickling we laugh hysterically. So right now just tickles here and there when we can.

So needless to say we can't wait until we can have a huge ticklefest again him and I, boy when we have a place again of our own we are soooo going to tickle and have a blast and laugh loud and often and just let loose!!! Can't wait!!!!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I just got out of a long-term relationship, in which I sucked my ex-fiance into the tickling world 😛 While we were together, tickling only increased in quality and quantity from the moment we got together.

Since we broke up and started living apart, I have DEFINITELY realized how much I took for granted having a live-in 'ler 🙁 I still get my fair share though throughout the day 😛

 

[BellaRisa]

My husband's not a tk-phile but he is a pest, so tickling and any other kind of general girl-harrassment happen daily I do take it for granted after 17 yrs, but I also cherish and fully appreciate it. And him

 

[xSamanthax]

My husband's not a tk-phile but he is a pest, so tickling and any other kind of general girl-harrassment happen daily

Very good description of my husband, lol. He calls it "pulling pigtails" and is his away of showing affection, lol.

 

[Strider]

My girl and I are both lifestylers. So, like Samantha said, I think we take play for granted in the sense that we both understand we can do it anytime we want to; and also in the sense that it's not simply something we enjoy but can take or leave, it's intrinsic to how we view the relationship.

As far as how often we play, it varies in accordance with several factors such as our schedules, how tired we are, etc. Really no different than how non-kinky couples have sex.

 

[chicago]

Before I started dating my current boyfriend, tickling was always on my mind because I rarely got it. If I was even poked with what could possibly be inferred as the intention to tickle, I was beside myself with the excitement of a 12 year old boy.

But now, even though it is a regular thing, I look forward to the more intense sessions that we don't do all the time. Those are special occasion, spur of the moment, type things that we do once in a while. Tickling is still on my mind a lot, and I like smoking weed before I get tickled sometimes because it adds to the intensity of the sensation.

I think I do take it for granted sometimes though. I rarely think back to times when I never got tickled and that thrill of it is gone now because of how often it happens. And while I'm conscious of the fact that what I have is something some people never find, I should really think about that more often.

Great thread.

 

[Chaotique]

For me, it seems like once I moved in with my Ler, the occasional everyday tickles of course got a little more plentiful, but the sessions stopped.

Before I moved in it seemed as if we were having one to two sessions a week, but now I'm lucky if it is twice a month. The sessions we used to have lasted an hour to two hours, but now it's down to about thirty minutes. Not only has the quantity, quality and duration dwindled, but when we do play, he very seldom uses the restraints anymore.

Of course, now that has me wondering if it's something to do with me, if he is bored with tickling me or maybe somewhere along the way I have become less fun to tickle.

All I know is that I still enjoy being tickled as much as I did before and I really miss those sessions. Dammit, I'm a Lee living with a Ler, why isn't there more tickling going on?

It almost makes me want to snatch up another Ler for a session just to make sure the reason for his reluctance to tickle isn't because of something I am doing that is causing his lack of interest.

I thought maybe this is what happened to couples or live-in ticklphiles who had gotten so used to each other that tickling was no longer something they did on a regular basis. From the responses to this thread, I can see that mine is an isolated problem.

Thanks for your posts people.

 

[natural tickler]

Yeah, I did took it for granted when I was married some eons ago, but that was because back then it was always on my mind, and had it available, etc etc

Sometimes when you have a good thing, and a willing person who will oblige, you act like its a right and not a priviledge, and of course, immature as I was, didn't know how to act.

But since there have been periods (some long ones) since I didn't tickle, whenever I do, I cherish it like no tomorrow, because sometimes I don't know when I will again

But believe me, next gem I do find, will be better next time

Good thread

 

[MoonShadow]

Yeah, I did took it for granted when I was married some eons ago, but that was because back then it was always on my mind, and had it available, etc etc

Sometimes when you have a good thing, and a willing person who will oblige, you act like its a right and not a priviledge, and of course, immature as I was, didn't know how to act.

But since there have been periods (some long ones) since I didn't tickle, whenever I do, I cherish it like no tomorrow, because sometimes I don't know when I will again

But believe me, next gem I do find, will be better next time

Good thread

It is a shame but I would imagine that as in all things with couples, it would begin with many tickles and sessions, but then as time goes on they get fewer as the newness and the novelty wears off.

And as Natural Tickler pointed out, there are those that do take it for granted when it is available everyday. It is when it is gone that the realization sets in that they let a good thing go to waste.